In the book: Emotional First Aid Kit it talks about how people that think WLS is going to solve all their problems are usually disappointed/fail.

I'm wondering if there is anyone out there that was really just generally angry/unhappy before WLS and it improved. I feel like for the most part, I have a pretty good life. I have a good job, while it's frustrating as crap right now, I think my bad-attitude has really effected my general perception of it - but it's fairly interesting and pays good enough. I like my apartment, I'm not too horribly in debt (although I'll be paying for surgery which is going to set me back 12k which is my up-and-coming debt). i'm college educated, love my dogs, etc. But I feel like I'm wearing a fat suit. I think I've been passed over for promotions/jobs because of my weight and only creepy old men are intersted in me (I haven't been on a date in 3 years! - although I think bad attitude is probably a factor here too).

Am I going to fail because I think surgery will make me less angry (for exmaple - clothes will fit in the morning when I put them on, I'll feel better about myself etc) or do I really need to look into therapy. I don't really know why I'm so angry, I just feel gross inside my own body and it makes me have a lot of anxiety/frustraton that turns into anger.

What do you think?

Edited February 12, 201412 yr by niassy151

Sending hugs.

WLS can open doors that we've been banging on for years. It can make us happier if health and normal size are the things we needed.

What won't it solve? Self hatred and lack of self respect, unhealthy relationships, addictions, ignorance, prejudice, and true mental illness.

Therapy isn't a bad thing. Give it a try and see if it helps. Only you can say if it is what you need. Shedding the weight may be all you need.

Edited February 12, 201412 yr by NMJG