So this Thursday is my surgery day. I had only told my husband and my parents up until now.

I had my band removed 8 weeks ago, and was ashamed to tell his family, I couldn't handle them judging me.

So today I wrote out what seemed like and easy text message, but wasn't... It took all my will to say that I am embarrassed of my weight and my failure with band. I'm ashamed I can't do this on my own. I want to be healthy and here for my children.

Talk about a moment of reflection, I prey that I don't fail at this one. CW 264

Mumoftwo Please don't feel a shame , you have made a decision to be healthy, you are beautiful and will be healthy, just take one day at a time , do not worry about tomorrow challenges or your past failures, you are moving forward and going in the right direction, it is not your fault that your band did not work, you are back with a better plan and I am sure this will work out for you. Stay positive we are here for you.

Seems to me that you have nowhere to go but up with your feelings, emotions and future...

You have not given up..Your making another choice to further your goal of being healthy and happy...No one should judge you for that if they truly love you they will know the struggles you feel and how you would react to any negativity....

Self loathing is a dangerous path to take and you so do not deserve to feel that way about yourself....Your working it, doing what you have to do to make it better..No one needs to give you their opinions..Your doing this for you!

Please be gently with this girl ( you ) as she struggles to see how much she is doing and the pain it is all causing her emotionally!!!

You got this and you have us to be here for you!!!!!!!!!! Smile you are on your way...K

I had the band removed about 4 months ago. I am going for the sleeve on January 28th. I had some of the same feelings as you did. Felt like a failure with it. I had lost all my weight with the band and then gained some back. I was embarrassed in front of people who knew I had the band. Now after reading all these posts about band to sleeve, I feel the band failed me. I wish I had known all the complications there was going to be. I wish I had known that most people don't keep the weight off and most never get to more than a 50 percent weight loss. This time around I have not shared this surgery with many people. I do not want their judgements about it. I wish I had known that was how it was going to be before I had the band in, I learned a lot with that and I only want people who are not going to be talking about it to other people that are going to be an encouragement to me. I wish you well.