Ok fellow VSG people I really am pleading at this point for help. I have had so many set backs and have gotten into old habits and am struggling to break them. To start off with I have been a slow loser since my surgery which was March 2012. To start off with I lost 75 pounds the first year which I am so excited about. I have never met goal (started at 298 and set goal at 160) and in meeting with my nutritionist she advised me at this point to move on to exercise but I know that will not do it totally. I need a total mental and habitual start over, do over if you will. I am not sure where else to turn for advise but my community here as you all know what I battle daily. I have had mountains to climb personally this past year. I went back to school at 40 which was tough and changed my routine to more sitting than I had been used to. During that time we went on a cruise and I slid into eating foods I shouldn't more often. When we returned I became complacent and continued on the downhill slide. A few months later, add to that my oldest son moving back home with his four year old daughter and going through a very messy and nasty divorce and custody battle. Now, I have two extra family members living here putting a financial strain and emotional strain on my daily life. Move forward another month or so and my mother became very sick and passed and I relocated across the country for two months to take care of my father who has end stage Lou Gherigs disease until my brother could step in and help out. I have had a terrible struggle dealing with my mother passing as we were very close and I find that I have unintentionally found myself tricking my sleeve in order to eat comfort foods I swore I would never return to. I am willing to do whatever I need to do to get back on track. I feel horrible physically and I am afraid to get on the scale, even more important I feel like I worked so hard to get where I was that I let grief and emotions take over which is what I thought I had overcome before surgery. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much

Heartbreaking for your boy, so young. God Bless you. Keep the faith and take care of yourself.

Same to you

Thank you Sheila. I thought I was kind if alone in my backslide but I guess wing imperfect is what makes us human. I would love to get back into exercising. I was going to the gym three times a week until my son and his four year old moved in and I became permanent sitter not just grandmother. I love spending time with her however it does disrupt my normal routine and I am trying to remember how I got everything sine when mine were little. I just can't keep up like I did when I was younger. I really do think I need a grief counselor as well.

I think I need a grief councilor too. There are many things in my past that have caused grief. I think they've just built on top of each other. If you can find a walking , Zumba, or even a Micky mouse exercise DVD you and your grandchild can do it together.

I never thought about a DVD we could both enjoy. Thanks that is a great idea.

Your welcome. Since I teach 4 year olds it was my first thought. Hope it works out. If it's warm enough to walk outside, you could go on "theme walks ". Together make a list of things you might see and walk around the block to see if you can find them. Young kiddos can't walk very far but it's a fun way too be and teach a healthy habit too. Sorry,..I'll get out of teaching mode. Ye for bed anyway. Have fun!

❤️Yes I absolutely love spending time with her but it seems much more tiring than when my own kids were small. I feel I have more patience with her but at the same time I feel like she requires so much entertaining. I had three boys and I have decided that boys and girls are ao different at this age. She loves to go on walks but here in Texas we have been having extremely cold weather with lots of wind so outside walks will have to wait

So sorry for all of your losses and personal stress. I agree do much with pp about doing stuff with your granddaughter. I know my 6 year old daughter is such a big motivator if I just tell in the morning we are going to exercise she will bug me all day till we do it! She loves to do any kind of exercise video but especially yoga which could be good to start out with a low impact yoga. Good luck.

❤️Yes I absolutely love spending time with her but it seems much more tiring than when my own kids were small. I feel I have more patience with her but at the same time I feel like she requires so much entertaining. I had three boys and I have decided that boys and girls are ao different at this age. She loves to go on walks but here in Texas we have been having extremely cold weather with lots of wind so outside walks will have to wait

I understand. Im in Tyler and it's COLD!!!