As anyone who has lost any weight received flirting yet? Today, I just experienced it for the first time, in what seems like forever. I guess I'm not sure how to deal with it. I've been married now for over 25yrs. This is foreign territory for me.

I just smile and move on. Enjoy it. It's harmless unless you choose to dwell on it or pursue it.

I just smile and move on. Enjoy it. It's harmless unless you choose to dwell on it or pursue it.

Yes, I kinda do enjoy it. It's just odd for me. Because, well it has been very long, but I also know if I hadn't lost any weight they wouldn't have gave me a second thought. I guess I'm feeling kinda sad how people treat each other - simply by looks. Not by personality, not by intelligence or not even by morals. Just how they appear. Some of the most "pretty" people have horrible morals and values. You know what I mean. You're treated so different when you're obese. And now that I'm getting closer to a different side,, I can see both sides. I just don't want to be that horrible person.

I just smile and move on. Enjoy it. It's harmless unless you choose to dwell on it or pursue it.

Well said!

It has taken me a while to even "realize" that men are flirting with me. Actually one of my daughters (who was about 11 at the time) said to me one time after an encounter at the grocery store "I think that guy was flirting with you!" and I was all "whaaa???" ...THAT is how unaware I was that it was even happening. I'm a little more in-tune with it now, but I've been happily married for over 17 years so yeah basically not interested.

Well said! It has taken me a while to even "realize" that men are flirting with me. Actually one of my daughters (who was about 11 at the time) said to me one time after an encounter at the grocery store "I think that guy was flirting with you!" and I was all "whaaa???" ...THAT is how unaware I was that it was even happening. I'm a little more in-tune with it now, but I've been happily married for over 17 years so yeah basically not interested.

Oh I'm definitely not interested. It's just weird for me, after 25 yrs, I'm done! Haha. It's very very weird.

I've always been a huge flirt so my husband is used to it. He's noticed the flirting that comes back is a lot more INTERESTED. It's funny.

He knows no one else would put up with me, so...

My boyfriend tell me "playing around" about being worried that I'm going to have guys behind my butt flirting but I know he worries when there is nothing to worry about

My boyfriend tell me "playing around" about being worried that I'm going to have guys behind my butt flirting but I know he worries when there is nothing to worry about

My boyfriend tell me "playing around" about being worried that I'm going to have guys behind my butt flirting but I know he worries when there is nothing to worry about

I guess I'm feeling kinda sad how people treat each other - simply by looks. Not by personality, not by intelligence or not even by morals. Just how they appear. Some of the most "pretty" people have horrible morals and values.

In men's defense, it's not as though we can see you from across the room and know what your personality, intelligence or morals are. Can you imagine? "Hey Bob, take a look at her. I bet she's got a GREAT personality!"

it's got to start somewhere...

On the other hand, the flip side could be this: "Hey Bob, take a look at her. She can barely find the straw in her cocktail. And those tattoos! She probably has NO MORALS!"