Hey!! I hope everyones night is going well so far...let me cut straight to the chase. I am set to be sleeved on december the 14th of 2013.... as far as im concerned i only told a few people..(everyone except my boyfriend of 3yrs) i finally decided to tell him today and he is totally against it!!! I know im doing this for me but i love him also and what if with the weight loss the attraction dies? He iis the man of my dreams thats the last thing i want...it took me a while to get to the point im at now but now that im here now what? I know.u cnt tell me what tto do but if it were u in this situation what would you do? How could u explain to your spouse why your getting the surgery? I felt so uncomfortable trying to explain.it becuase i know one of the main reasons is because ii hate how my body looks i know if i told him that it would turn him off and ill never hear the end of it...so what should i do future sleevers!!!??? Put urself in my shoes how would u handle this??? Thanxx for your input!!

sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

After a mild mini stroke brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

<strong>After a mild mini stroke</strong> brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

Honestly that really juat changed my mindset on getting this surgery before i wasnt sure but now i know im sure...i will get it and i know that he loves me it just my insecurities im gonna just stop doubting myself......and juat take chances.. i love myself aand for so long iave bbeen doing things for ppl and i think its time to do things for myself...thank you for that word....my surgery date is dec 14 ill defitly let you know how my life goes.. thankxx again

sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

<strong>After a mild mini stroke</strong> brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

Honestly that really juat changed my mindset on getting this surgery before i wasnt sure but now i know im sure...i will get it and i know that he loves me it just my insecurities im gonna just stop doubting myself......and juat take chances.. i love myself aand for so long iave bbeen doing things for ppl and i think its time to do things for myself...thank you for that word....my surgery date is dec 14 ill defitly let you know how my life goes.. thankxx again

sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

<strong>After a mild mini stroke</strong> brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

Honestly that really juat changed my mindset on getting this surgery before i wasnt sure but now i know im sure...i will get it and i know that he loves me it just my insecurities im gonna just stop doubting myself......and juat take chances.. i love myself aand for so long iave bbeen doing things for ppl and i think its time to do things for myself...thank you for that word....my surgery date is dec 14 ill definitly let you know how my life goes.. thankxx again