Thanks for the insults. I forgot we are all perfect

Excuse me but didn't you file for divorce last Thursday? I thought you didn't have enough money to move yourself and your kids to a safe place, away from an abusive husband, but now you are getting a boob job. Did I miss an episode? I am so confused by this drama series.

I don't understand, but I do wish you well. It seems like this is a very difficult time for you.

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Wouldn't the welfare of your children (getting them out of an abusive and unhappy home) take priority over plastic surgery?

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Plastic surgery is your personal choice. I am sorry you have so many things going on in your life right now.

I hope things turn around for you and your kiddos.

Plastic surgery is your personal choice. I am sorry you have so many things going on in your life right now.

I hope things turn around for you and your kiddos.

Thanks I know it will

Having been in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship that eventually turned physical, I probably know better than most where you're coming from. However, please know that I am deeply concerned about your mental well being. You vacillate back and forth about him and have for a rather long time now. He treats you like a dog (as well as your kids) yet you continue to stay. I don't care if you spend every penny you have on new boobs, but I think it's extremely unhealthy for you to be staying with him. You need to get out. And, if mentally you're at a place where you feel it's more important to buy your breast augmentation than it is to get out of an unhealthy and abusive relationship, I really think you need a good therapist to help you work through this.

Please know I mean you no Ill will, I'm just concerned about your well being, and I, more than most, know the damage that can be done day to day by staying in this situation. I also know, all too well, that often emotional abuse turns in to more. Be safe and take care of yourself and your family.

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 198

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While people may not agree with life choices I urge us all to remain respectful to one another. People come to RNYTalk for uplifting and support. Obviously everyone is entitled to their opinions and can voice their concerns lets try to do so in a tactful manner.

Mami you seem very troubled and the instability in your life is apparent. I will say a prayer for you and your family. I do not agree with getting a boob job if you're trying to save to leave an abusive situation. To each his own. I will say that as a person who was raised in an abusive household I resented my mother for not leaving and using excuse after excuse. I would have rather been poor as dirt and living on assistance than stay in a volatile home but my mother chose to stay because of "comfort." Please be aware of how being in a situation like the one you're in damages your children psychologically. Good luck.

While people may not agree with life choices I urge us all to remain respectful to one another. People come to RNYTalk for uplifting and support. Obviously everyone is entitled to their opinions and can voice their concerns lets try to do so in a tactful manner.

Mami you seem very troubled and the instability in your life is apparent. I will say a prayer for you and your family. I do not agree with getting a boob job if you're trying to save to leave an abusive situation. To each his own. I will say that as a person who was raised in an abusive household I resented my mother for not leaving and using excuse after excuse. I would have rather been poor as dirt and living on assistance than stay in a volatile home but my mother chose to stay because of "comfort." Please be aware of how being in a situation like the one you're in damages your children psychologically. Good luck.

You are right. I guess I feel selfish since I done everything for my family,and this is the 1st time I want to do something for me,and I sorta have the money to do it,and want to do it. I'm not getting my boobs done. I'm going to wait,and see what they tell me next year about the apartment. I will then make my choice according to what they tell me. I guess waiting won't kill me,but it's for sure I do need to get out of here. I'm already waiting to long,but June 2014 is the time they have me for an interview. So it's either wait & see or see if my friend can find me a place next year so I can move out.

I'm an adult and I have a lot going in my life to be put down by people that don't know me at all,and feel I'm abusing the government whatever. That's what happens when someone takes the time to post up anything on any website. I'm not going to sit here,and read insults. I'm very simple if what I said bother you move on to the next post. No need to reply. I don't reply to every single post on here. I block everyone who insulted me,and who agree with the person doing the insults. The day I decide to do any plastic surgery I will keep it to my self,and when I move keep it to my self,and if anything happens to me keep it to my self also. I was loving this group,but now I notice ppl just want to make them self feel good by putting others down.

How dare people say I'm abusing the government. I never ask to have special need kids. I paid taxes over 10 years,and hubby paid taxes over 40 years,and it's still paying it,and has never threw it in my face I'm getting a little help for me kids. WOW!!! i'm so shock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the insults. I forgot we are all perfect

Tinymamiof3 remember this, don't let what others think about you or your situation get you down! We all have our needs and wants I would never judge you for going after what you want and forget about what some people have to say about your situation. As long as you take care of your business take care of your children and yourself then who cares. We all have problems and issues No One is perfect and people shouldn't be so judgmental! With that being said if you want to go get 10 boob jobs then good for you and if someone doesn't like it maybe they should keep their comments to themselves. I have been married for 13 years had my first child at 18 and let me tell you everyday is not a walk in the park if I put the things that I go through maybe people would be saying negative things too. This site was designed for us to be supportive of each other. I'm pretty sure not every day is a bad day in your marriage. If you are still there then that must mean that things are going ok.I wish you nothing but the best. You are always so supportive on this site, encouraging cheering people on Kudos to you.

Excuse me but didn't you file for divorce last Thursday? I thought you didn't have enough money to move yourself and your kids to a safe place, away from an abusive husband, but now you are getting a boob job. Did I miss an episode? I am so confused by this drama series.

I don't understand, but I do wish you well. It seems like this is a very difficult time for you.

your post sounds very negative I'm not sure if you meant it to be maybe you should rephrase or not comment.

Tinymamiof3 remember this, don't let what others think about you or your situation get you down! We all have our needs and wants I would never judge you for going after what you want and forget about what some people have to say about your situation. As long as you take care of your business take care of your children and yourself then who cares. We all have problems and issues No One is perfect and people shouldn't be so judgmental! With that being said if you want to go get 10 boob jobs then good for you and if someone doesn't like it maybe they should keep their comments to themselves. I have been married for 13 years had my first child at 18 and let me tell you everyday is not a walk in the park if I put the things that I go through maybe people would be saying negative things too. This site was designed for us to be supportive of each other. I'm pretty sure not every day is a bad day in your marriage. If you are still there then that must mean that things are going ok.I wish you nothing but the best. You are always so supportive on this site, encouraging cheering people on Kudos to you.

Your right it's not everyday that we are at it.

You are right. I guess I feel selfish since I done everything for my family' date='and this is the 1st time I want to do something for me,and I sorta have the money to do it,and want to do it. I'm not getting my boobs done. I'm going to wait,and see what they tell me next year about the apartment. I will then make my choice according to what they tell me. I guess waiting won't kill me,but it's for sure I do need to get out of here. I'm already waiting to long,but June 2014 is the time they have me for an interview. So it's either wait & see or see if my friend can find me a place next year so I can move out.[/quote']

I am not a mother so I honestly don't know what it is to have kids as a priority but i watched my mom make mistake after mistake with her kids and now she's 50 and realizing how selfish her choices were when we were growing up. Now that her kids are all adults (I'm the baby--24 years old) we have all grown to appreciate her and still love her unconditionally because we know that she was abused and young BUT it took us all hell and hard times to realize this. I worship the ground my mother walks on but I wonder how different my life would have been had she been strong enough to walk away.