I haven't told my kids that I'm thinking about and in the process of preparing myself for this surgery. They are 8, 9 and I also have a 1 year old.

Tonight has been the 2nd night my 8 yr old daughter cries because she was thinking about me dying. She cries and tells me she doesn't want me to die and it just breaks my heart into a million pieces!! It makes me doubt my choices.

I'm scared and this doesn't make it any better. Has anyone experienced anything similar?

When I had my gallbladder removed, my kids were really worried... Maybe even a little too worried. As much as I tried explaining that it was not a big deal, a simple procedure, they were still worried as hell. I dont really want to put them through that again, that's the reason why I'm choosing not to tell them.

I guess everyone knows their own children well enough to decide whether or not they should be told.

I haven't told my oldest daughter (8) yet. I will tell her shortly before surgery though. I also think its a good idea to let kids know all of the pre op testing that you have done to make sure you are healthy enough for surgery in the first place! All of that is reassuring to me and I am sure it would be reassuring to her as well!

When I had my gallbladder removed' date=' my kids were really worried... Maybe even a little too worried. As much as I tried explaining that it was not a big deal, a simple procedure, they were still worried as hell. I dont really want to put them through that again, that's the reason why I'm choosing not to tell them.

I guess everyone knows their own children well enough to decide whether or not they should be told.

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My 15 year old in her eyes never saw me as a fat woman. Big but comfortable and she loved me big. We could eat anywhere go anywhere. After I told her about surgery she was against it. Didn't want me to change. Now after losing weight & her seeing my size smaller & letting her finish my food she is beginning to like the idea of having me happy & we can still eat out but I pick better choices. Now that I guess she saw I didn't die she is ok with it. Hubby humm he is coming around to it. My younger babies 4 & 2 will enjoy me the best the new me. I now love my life & feel I made the best decision.

I myself don't have any kids but my nieces and nephews range in ages between 19 to 1years old. The older ones I have told and they are like of it will make you feel better then do it. When they aske what the surgery would do to me i just explained that it would give them back the auntie that was able to go out and do fin things with the instead of having to sit after walking for 5 minutes. So maybe if u explain like it will give them thier mommy back that is health and able to do everything they want.