I myself don't have any kids but my nieces and nephews range in ages between 19 to 1years old. The older ones I have told and they are like of it will make you feel better then do it. When they aske what the surgery would do to me i just explained that it would give them back the auntie that was able to go out and do fin things with the instead of having to sit after walking for 5 minutes. So maybe if u explain like it will give them thier mommy back that is health and able to do everything they want.