I had a friend come over today. I told her I made granola last night with my son... She said to me "should you be eating that" 0_o f**k I said we made it, I didn't say I sat down and ate the platter afterwards...

Ok better now, well, I'm still somewhat pissy but better.

What a weird thing to say in the first place?!

I had a friend come over today. I told her I made granola last night with my son... She said to me "should you be eating that" 0_o f**k I said we made it' date=' I didn't say I sat down and ate the platter afterwards... Ok better now, well, I'm still somewhat pissy but better.[/quote']

How did you respond?

How did you respond?

Good question Amanda!

I am ashamed to say I just kind of sputtered and said "well yeah I don't really eat that stuff"

I can be such a strong woman sometimes with a big mouth. But then I'll get side swiped with a comment like that and I lose myself...

The fact of the matter I can and did eat some!

I can eat whatever I want. There is nothing I shouldn't, couldn't eat! I make my choices and I chose to eat semi clean but that's my choice my business..

This is the same friend that told me when we were out eating sashimi a couple of months ago,

"You need to slow down, you're eating too fast"

Smh... I am not a super slow chew forty times wait 5 minutes between bites gal. The fact is I'm done with my meals kinda quick. But again I will say "my body, my life,"

I feel ya, girl. Vent away.

I'd be responding to the next one 'Ahh yes.. so when exactly did you get bariatric surgery, sweetheart?!'

Good question Amanda! I am ashamed to say I just kind of sputtered and said "well yeah I don't really eat that stuff" <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /> I can be such a strong woman sometimes with a big mouth. But then I'll get side swiped with a comment like that and I lose myself... The fact of the matter I can and did eat some! I can eat whatever I want. There is nothing I shouldn't' date=' couldn't eat! I make my choices and I chose to eat semi clean but that's my choice my business.. This is the same friend that told me when we were out eating sashimi a couple of months ago, "You need to slow down, you're eating too fast" Smh... I am not a super slow chew forty times wait 5 minutes between bites gal. The fact is I'm done with my meals kinda quick. But again I will say "my body, my life," [/quote']

No shame, Laura. You were taken aback by poor manners.

And you're exactly right. You make your own choices and answer to yourself.

And your success speaks for you loud and clear! :-D

I have food police too...I don't know anyone who has had this surgery personally...But I have some friends and family that try to interfere with what I eat....I lose it fast...

Don't know what I would do if it were a trusted friend though.. She must see you are in control...I mean you look fantastic!

You know I'm not sure where she's getting her info and opinions from... We don't really see each other anymore.

But I don't like how it made me feel about myself.

It made me feel like I'm not as successful as I am. It chipped away at an already fragile ego.

Weird how stupid comments can hit you some days.

I'm supposed to go biking with her next week to reconnect. It is not something I'm looking forward to now.

You know I'm not sure where she's getting her info and opinions from... We don't really see each other anymore.

But I don't like how it made me feel about myself.

It made me feel like I'm not as successful as I am. It chipped away at an already fragile ego.

Weird how stupid comments can hit you some days.

I'm supposed to go biking with her next week to reconnect. It is not something I'm looking forward to now.

Make other plans.

Make other plans.

You have three choices then.

You can either go and dread it, not knowing what kind of ridiculous comment she may make.

You can cancel and feel relieved but continue to be justifiably pissed.

You can take back your power and let her know that while you appreciate her concern, you have been VERY successful with your dietary choices and outside input/advice isn't really necessary or appreciated.

If you choose option three, you have to say it with confidence and a smile. You don't need to explain or justify your statement. Basically it's a very polite FU without opening the door to further discussion.

I usually answer any unwelcome/rude questions with a very wide-eyed, smiley yet sarcastic, "Well now, that's a very odd question/statement to ask/say to someone". And then you smile and move on.

You have three choices then.

You can either go and dread it, not knowing what kind of ridiculous comment she may make.

You can cancel and feel relieved but continue to be justifiably pissed.

You can take back your power and let her know that while you appreciate her concern, you have been VERY successful with your dietary choices and outside input/advice isn't really necessary or appreciated.

If you choose option three, you have to say it with confidence and a smile. You don't need to explain or justify your statement. Basically it's a very polite FU without opening the door to further discussion.

I usually answer any unwelcome/rude questions with a very wide-eyed, smiley yet sarcastic, "Well now, that's a very odd question/statement to ask/say to someone". And then you smile and move on.

No one should be able to have that kind of power over you.

Take it back with class and dignity. You deserve it.

No one should be able to have that kind of power over you.

Take it back with class and dignity. You deserve it.