I am not sure how to handle this. I am still preop. Surgery is still 6 wks away. I love pinterest and have been actively pinning wls surgery stuff to a private board. I made the mistake to follow an entire board so it posted to my public profile. My husband's cousin who I see every 2-4 years just added a pin to the board about.. a post it note about are your excuses more important than your dreams. I am not sure how to read it.

I had not planned on telling any of my inlaws about the surgery until after for many reasons but mostly I do not want the debbie downers. I have thought about telling her I am not telling anyone about my looking in to surgery to please keep it private. I thought about ignoring it completely and not saying a word. And of course I could be over thinking this whole thing.

Wish I knew what to tell you. It is nice to know that I am not the only one not telling the in laws.

There is no true obligation to tell ANYONE. You do not need anyone's approval. It is your business and no one else's!

Well, in a way, it's true, right? Your dreams & the way you want to live your life are much more important than any excuses you may have used to put off surgery or change your mind or whatever. You ARE moving toward your dream & your vision of your future, right? I know many people struggle with negativity from the folks around them, but if your in-laws find out & are negative, then try & ignore them. Your life is your business & your responsibility. Good luck!

I really wanted to control who knew and when they knew. If L is suspecting that I may hav esurgery, do I say something to ask her to keep it hush hush or do I ignore it?

In many ways I could interpret the pin to be supportive or I could interpret it to the common way of thinking wls is an easy way out. She has never been over weight, but I do not know if that has been a struggle for her or easy. We are not that close, she is about 20 years younger than me and we haven't spend a lot of time together.

Thank you all for your input, it gives me stuff to think about an how to proceed.

she pinned it on your board? I am confused.

Yes she was able to add to to a board I was following. I opted to follow the whole board rather than individual pins which I could have pinned to my private board that only I can see

I'm not telling till after it but should they (my adult children of other family and friends) I'm just gonna tell them if they can't be supportive then please keep quite to me about it. It is after all my decision. Only a few close friends know now.

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You are doing this for yourself, and you don't have to explain it to anyone. I have told a few family members and have gotten everything from I am vain, to why don't I just eat healthy and have discipline. This is my journey and my decision. I have decided not to tell my work about it, because my job is not too strenuous, but after if I need to I will. You have to do what is right for you. Don't let this feedback rob you of enjoying your journey. I will be sleeved in 24 days, and I am stoked about it!!