So today my mother told me that she doesn't think I shud lose anymore weight and that I'm on the verge of looking sickly from my weight loss. .... I started out at 240lb my day of surgery which was 8/24/12 I was 217lbs and now I am 156lbs my goal is 150 but I was thinking maybe 140-145 and she says no. Along worth get and every one else I know. Lol I admit I don't feel how small I actually am but I think I wud look good at that weight and not sickly now I don't know what to do. Smh

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Tell her "thank you for your concerns, i appriecate your support" and then do what your heart tells you to do. as long as your Dr doesnt think your too thin or unhealthy... go for it.

if your mom or anyone brings it up again... just remind them that you dont go around telling them what they should weight.

I truly think that the change is what makes others think that. You have lost almost 100 pounds!! That's FANTASTIC!!! You must look tiny compared to where you started. The advice you got above is good - as long as your MD is comfortable with your goal, and you're healthy, I think too much about what others say.

Thanks for the Advice I just mainly want my stomach gone and being that I have to wait over a year before my insurance will pay for my tummy tuck I want to lose as much as I can to get it way down. Right now at 156 I feel my stomach shud be smaller but I stepped it up at the gym so hopefully that works

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Thanks for the Advice I just mainly want my stomach gone and being that I have to wait over a year before my insurance will pay for my tummy tuck I want to lose as much as I can to get it way down. Right now at 156 I feel my stomach shud be smaller but I stepped it up at the gym so hopefully that works

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U have to go with the weight that makes u feel best. After all YOU are the one who went thru all the work to get the surgery and lose weight. U deserve to be happy. I can relate to the whole tummy thing. Its my worst area:(

Someone told me today I had to be careful.. I asked why and she said she was worried I would get too thin. My answer was....you have to see me naked to be able to make an adequate judgement. I still have 30 or 40lbs to go...ya I look better, but that still puts me in the middle of my healthy BMI range...I'm not going to be stick thin.

If it were my mom...I'd just lie about your weight and let her be happy. She does not know the diff between now and 6lbs

So today my mother told me that she doesn't think I shud lose anymore weight and that I'm on the verge of looking sickly from my weight loss. .... I started out at 240lb my day of surgery which was 8/24/12 I was 217lbs and now I am 156lbs my goal is 150 but I was thinking maybe 140-145 and she says no. Along worth get and every one else I know. Lol I admit I don't feel how small I actually am but I think I wud look good at that weight and not sickly now I don't know what to do. Smh

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I did not know what I could do with this 'tool' we now have. My physician's goal was 150, I wanted a 5 lb 'pad'. There are many people who will think you are too skinny and/or should not lose any more weight. I lost too much and made myself get back to my goal. At one point I was 18 lbs below the doc's goal.....it was like I couldn't quit. I finally figured out, with the help of my dietitian, that all I needed to do was 'lighten up' a little, add a couple of snacks, if a topping is available I.E. peppercorn gravy, with a dish ordered, get it on the side and dip. Life is good!!I gained back to a healthy weight and at 31 months out, I find it easy to eat like a naturally thin person and stay between 144 and 148. I'm comfy here. So, my advice is listen to your body and your physician. Get past the numbers, because it is real tempting to get lower and lower just because it's possible!!! When my size 4's were getting baggy, I knew I needed to seek the help of the dietitian.....face it, size 2's are hard to come by. It's obvious what my priorities are!! LoL Good luck.....enjoy the ride, it is sooooo much fun!!

I did not know what I could do with this 'tool' we now have. My physician's goal was 150' date=' I wanted a 5 lb 'pad'. There are many people who will think you are too skinny and/or should not lose any more weight. I lost too much and made myself get back to my goal. At one point I was 18 lbs below the doc's goal.....it was like I couldn't quit. I finally figured out, with the help of my dietitian, that all I needed to do was 'lighten up' a little, add a couple of snacks, if a topping is available I.E. peppercorn gravy, with a dish ordered, get it on the side and dip. Life is good!!I gained back to a healthy weight and at 31 months out, I find it easy to eat like a naturally thin person and stay between 144 and 148. I'm comfy here. So, my advice is listen to your body and your physician. Get past the numbers, because it is real tempting to get lower and lower just because it's possible!!! When my size 4's were getting baggy, I knew I needed to seek the help of the dietitian.....face it, size 2's are hard to come by. It's obvious what my priorities are!! LoL Good luck.....enjoy the ride, it is sooooo much fun!![/quote']

Lol I agree I sort of feel like why not get as small as I can get! ? Lol but the real part of me wants to maintain at about 140-145 but everyone is saying no you look good at 150 lol

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Our family/friends see us in just as skewed a light as we see ourselves sometimes. My husband likes a larger girl. And by larger, I mean LARGER. The man loves me to death but the smiles on his face got bigger the bigger I got. Eh, to each his own. In any case, he wanted me to stop losing weight more than 30 pounds before I did stop.

And he still calls me skinny, when if anything I'd say I'm "small but curvy."

He'll get over it. I love him and I take his opinions seriously, but this wasn't about him. I lost weight for me.

Same goes for you. Stop when you're happy. Be cautious about losing too much but realistically, that BMI chart (that I hate with a passion) will tell you if you're underweight.

Keep two things in mind, though. One - your body has a happy place, a natural stopping point. It might not be what you think. It might be larger or smaller. That point will become apparent when you try to lose and can't lose any more and when you can maintain your weight effortlessly. At less than 5'2" I wanted that stopping point to be snugly in the 120s but it wasn't meant to be. My body LOVES 137-139 pounds, though, and I can hang there and eat whatever I want (I don't, but I could) without any issues. If I try to go much smaller it becomes a hassle. So be prepared for that.

The second half of that is that it's possible to hit a lower goal if you push it. But many that go beyond their body's comfortable point will experience bounceback and will slowly regain what they lost. This isn't a personal failing - it's that we get so into the dieting mindset and get so focused on our goal that we ignore the fact that it's not what our body wants.

So, push it to 140 if you want. Ten pounds will likely drop you another size. It might also make it harder to maintain, or make it impossible to do so. Stop when your body is ready. Pay attention to the signs that you're done.

Because ultimately, you want maintenance to be easy. If it's a constant struggle and diet, you've defeated the purpose of having the sleeve over doing another willpower diet.

Good luck, and congrats on your success so far!

~Cheri