Hello All,

Here's something I've been really struggling with.

I'm 4.5 months pre-op (out of 6 total) and I just met a girl. She seems pretty nice, and taking the surgery out of the picture, I think I would be pretty excited.

But in the back of my head, I keep thinking... a year from now I'll be an entirely different person.

How do I know I'll still like her? or her me?

How can I try develop a relationship with all this crazy sleeve business going on?

What if she bakes me pies or something.. or we end up eating out all the time and it sabotages my WL efforts?

I'm getting to the point where I kind of feel like maybe I should just wait until a year post op before I even think about dating..

Has anyone else been through this?

You are already on a journey, why would you want to start on another one?

haha yeah, it was reaaallly awkward. I get the impression that she didn't even have something she WANTED to be passionate about.... she was quite content to be in her little bubble, and more power to her.

But that's not where I belong

I know everyone says you don't change on the inside after weight loss but I think it depends on the person and how much your weight has affected you on an emotional and psychological level.

I think this is a *great* point I hadn't considered.

GAINING weight definitely changed who I am inside. I'm less outgoing, less social, more fearful of being judged...

Maybe we're looking at it wrong, maybe WLS won't change who I am inside, maybe it'll just let me get back to who I really am?