My nephew (22 years old) has been living with me, my dh, and kids (13 & 11) for a year now. He has a wife and a 5 month baby girl.

I needed to do a load of laundry and they were taking a nap, so I went to take their laundry out of the dryer and lo and behold - marajuana in a baggie.

I'm very naive when it comes to drugs so my brother-in-law, who is a police officer, came over and positively identified it.

My delima is this: I totally agree with dh that they need to move out. We have kids in the house and we have 0 tolerance for drugs. My dh says they need to leave NOW. I would like to give them a couple of weeks to find somewhere to go.

What would you do? If I pushed it with dh, he would allow them to stay for a little while, but is that the best thing? I feel like I'm too close to the situation for clear thinking. I'm so upset - they have a baby - What are they thinking?!?

Thanks for any suggestions and sorry for the long post.

I am so glad that the lines of communication are still open. Hopefully this will be the little wake up call he needs to realize how serious this sort of thing can be. My prayers are with him and his buddi g family, and with you on your new fresh start.

So what are ya going to do with the room? a workout room maybe? :confused:

Ya, communication is definitely still open. We hugged, we cried and said our good-byes.

I have my workout room in my formal dining room: treadmill, bowflex, one of those big balls you work on with free weights and a hula hoop!

One of the rooms is our guest room and the other we are turning into my new office - I hope to start a business this summer because the school where I've been teaching is closing - I've worked there for 11 years! Scary stuff!

Well good luck, and I hope that next thanksgiving you can hug a very clean and healthy nephew. :confused: