I need some opinions here...

I am almost 28, married and have a 14 month old daughter. I have been overweight my entire life (from the time I was 8 or so). I was over 300lbs when I got pregnant.

I have lost right at 50lbs in a little over 4 months. I am scared to death of becoming pregnant again. I know that fertility often increases as our weight decreases. I have been on the pill since about 6 weeks postpartum and was on it a long time before that.

I had a horrible time with postpartum depression starting before I even left the hospital I have sought treatment and continue to be on antidepressants that I am unable to get off of because of withdrawal symptoms. I will spare the details of my PPD, but it was horrible and I never want to go through it again.

I asked my ob/gyn (same person who delivered DD) to tie my tubes at 6 weeks postpartum and again 7 months later at my annual exam. She told me to wait 6 months and we can discuss then, she only offered me the IUD (which I don't want) or another prescription for the pill. Its been over 6 months and that doctor has moved out of state.

My question is 2 folds.

Does anyone know an OB/GYN in the DFW area that will listen to me about MY wishes instead of looking at the fact I am 28, with 1 kid and a history of PPD??

Has anyone gotten pregnant on the pill after having Lap Band and losing weight??

Thanks!

Carrie, i have a wonderful obgyn at Presby Dallas I will get his phone number tomorrow and get it to you. It is Gregory Chapman. I LOVE him!! He did my hysteroctomy and was so sweet about the entire thing. Not a surg by choice but rather by necessity!!

Any way I have SEVERAL friends who use him and we all adore him!!

He has a wife and told me she makes sure he understands what it is like to go through female things...lol

ok here is his number

Gregory Chapman, MD

8160 Walnut hill Ln

Dallas, TX 75231

In the Margot Perot Building

214-365-1150

Good luck and let us know if you were able to get in to see him before new years!!

Thanks, I spoke with his nurse and she said that he would have no problem speaking with me and they could get me in probably next week that their system as down.

I spoke with one of the doctors that took the place of the doctor who moved and he wanted me to wait until I was over 30.

I'll keep you posted.

One word: vasectomy

Not to get all feminist on you, but our bodies go through enough with pregnancy. Time for hubby to get a little snip snip.

LOL

I am interested in Essure. It's done w/o surgery. My hubby isn't exactly supportive of me not wanting more kids so no vasectomy.

I think 30 years is the standard point in which Ob/Gyn like you to wait. Although, I'm sure with the right reasons and right doctor, that you can convince one earlier. Since you're almost 28, it's pretty close.

In the meantime, birth control pills + foam + condom!!!! If you are 100% sure go for it! My husband had a vasectomy, with minimal discomfort, and it's a great way to go. Shawn

Ahh...

If hubby wants more kids that could be why they aren't supporting your decision to get your tubes tied (in addition to your age of course). I went through a period last year (before hubby's vasectomy) where I was deathly afraid of pregnancy, so I know what you're going through. I had a scare and cried for two weeks until my period came.

I only had the baby blues for a few weeks after my two kids, and that was so awful. I can't imagine what full on PPD would be like. There's always adoption if he wants another. I'm looking at my friends beautiful adopted toddler right now. He is the spitting image of Blair Underwood. Wonder if he's his love child, lol.

Good luck with the new doctor!

Carrie,

I have come to not trust any form of birth control. My first child was "planned." With the other three I have a birth control pill baby, an IUD baby and a condom baby. The last was after the band surgery. I had a tubal after the last one was born. With my luck I'll still become pregnant somehow. I know some people really want to have children but I have definitely reached my limit. Good luck!

Tell hubby it's like this... It's probably under $500 and about half hour for him to get a vasectomy in the doc's office, or it could be thousands upon thousands for a pregnancy and subsequent birth and cost of raising a child. If you're both not interested in that happening, then why take the chance? Just my 2 cents..