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Andree, Im sorry your mom acted that way . I honestly told my parents because I thought they would understand and be supportive . My dad is a GOOD 100lbs overwt at least. So i thought of all people he would understand. They didnt. They just think I have not done everything I COULD/SHOULD to loose it. I told them " Just because you dont think i have done everything to YOUR satisfaction doesnt mean I havent done evrything I KNOW I CAN and its not about YOU its about me and MY Satisfaction and my life " I Hope you get the surgery soon as well. Feel free to email me anytime .

Donna , Thank you for your response, I agree that at $12K its best to stay in the states and its a great price . The doc I have chosen is really awesome. I understand what your saying about the money ...The main reason im having them put it in a savings account for me is to keep it seperate from our household accounts. I didnt want the easy access to it in that way for myself. I wanted the money seperate from household bill money and household savings . If that makes sense. ANd I have not in the past been great with money . I'll be the first to tell anyone that. Something I understand w/my parents as well. However in the past few yrs I have been and myparents know that. my parents will give me the money back I know that . That's not an issue for me at all. I have looked into a bank loan as well as the surgery type loans and I just cant get ANYTHING on my own because we had a bankcrupcy discharged in Feb ... If it was a yr or 2 later I could get something but no one will lend to you with in the first yr of a discharge. Thank you for listening. Im glad I have this board I dont know what i would do .

Thanks for your help . I have considered going to Mexico . However with the price that my doc i chose is going to charge I think for a few thousand more it would be worth it to me to stay in the states. I had thought about it quite a bit. IN fact knowing someone that went to Mexico and what she paid is what really got me thinking " I can do this Now" after thinking about it for a year and it not being an option due to money until this point. Thanks for your help

I have given my parents info from my surgeon about 2 months ago . I have also given them some really good informative threads on PCOS from this board. My dad thinks that i have self diagnosed myself with PCOS and that it doesnt affect my wt loss at all. I also gave them some other really good threads to read from here. Also some other info . As of today neither of them have taken the time to bother to read them . Maybe at some point they will but I guess its not on the top of their priority list. It does remind me to take hubby to a seminar though . After Friday im pretty sure he'll listen to just about anything i have to say lol Thanks Susan Mindy

Thank you , Its been rough quitting smoking. I am sure that has not helped much either. My husband looked at me yesterday like he was waiting for my head to spin around . LOL I see you have been recently banded and your doing very well also . That's awesome .

My anxiety I think is that I KNOW its what I want, I know what sugeon I want to use , I have been to the seminars, I have made several really good friends who have had it done . I just need the darn money . So I guess im just ANXIOUS to get the money so i can get it. Im almost afraid to see the surgeon now , and to do the pre op stuff now if its going to be at least a yr before i get it done . The surgeon I want to use is $12,000 which includes all the pre Op testing. He said once I get the loan/cash to come in I can have my pre op testing done and surgery scheduled in about 8-10 days. So dont ya think going in and doing everything before hand would make me feel worse ? LOL I just need money . So we'll see how it goes. I just need patience. Something I am not good at. Ive smoked for 15 yrs and If quitting smoking doesnt show everyone how determined I am to have this surgery Frankly I dont know what will . Mindy

Thanks Gonnabethin for your quick response. I needed to hear quickly that im "normal" right now. I am all consumed by it right now. I am obssed with it. I actually feel I had a pretty good plan set up for my parents as far as the cosigning went. I started cleaning houses for "extra"money for the surgery . We own our own company ( just started up) so we do not have insurance right now and even if we did the kind we could get wouldnt cover it , ive checked. So i started the house cleaning so it wouldnt take money from the house hold savings or expenses, im making $1000 a month doing that. I give my parents the money every week so im not tempted to spend it. I told them, that money would be used for the loan payment , one months cleaning would be at least a month and halfs loan payment. So most likely it would be paid off quicker than the loan time frame anyway . I told my parents that im getting the surgery weather they cosign a loan or not . Just by them not helping me its going to take me longer. Because they think I havent done everything THEY Think i could have done to loose the weight they dont really agree with the surgery or they are scared or "Surgery" itself. So Im just dont talking to them about it and being disspointed . At this point I just stopped talking to them about it . Ive become very defensive and franklly nasty to anyone that doesnt agree with it or chooses to put their 2 cents in , I tell them " I really dont care what you think , you dont know anything about it if you did you wouldnt say the things you did about it so until you educate yourself just SHUT UP about it " Im just so sick of being the one people turn to to "Fix" their damn problems but when i need something they run for the damn hills . Its my personality to be the helper , but maybe I just need to stop . It takes me literally LOOSING It to my husband to get his damn attention , when i was done with him he looked like a kid that had been to the principals office with his parents ! . At least I know im not the only one that feels like this . WHEN Does it go away ? What do I do to NOT Feel this way ? Mindy

Ok Im an emotional wreck right now and I have NO Idea why . I thought if i came here ya'll might be able to relate. The ONLY Thing I can relate it to is my lap band surgery or should i say the LACK of lap band surgery. I had my hopes up that my parents were going to cosign a loan for me to allow me to do the surgery sooner rather than later. Well, that's pretty much not an option now. Why ? My parents are NOT really being supportive of this . Frankly NO ONE IS . I have 2 good friends who are totally supportive of me getting my surgery . But as far as family not so much . Hubby is coming around but it wasnt until I had a "nervous breakdown" and screamed at him yesterday did he get my point. I just feel anxious and upset quite a bit now . Granted I quit smoking 3 weeks ago , Im using patchs and im already on Welbutrin for my migraines. But the only thing i can equate my emtoinal status to right now is my frustration of having to wait around a yr now to get my surgery . I guess i got my hopes up TOO high for the loan and Just crashed emotinally when that wasnt an option anymore . I just feel at this point that NO One understands how important this is to me and no one is supportive of this . I also feel that I have done and do so much to care for everyone else that the ONE TIME I ask for some help to to do something for myself I get nothing in return not even support. Im sorry im rambeling but , I guess what im wondering is , does anyone or did anyone feel like this leading up to getting things in order for their surgery ? Is the emotional roller coaster "Normal" ! Im starting to think maybe I need to go see someone lol Thanks for listening . :help::think Mindy

SW Baratrics is not the place where Rincon Practices. SW Baratrics is in Austin and Dr Rincon Practices in San Antonio . Here is Dr Rincon's Website http://www.saweightlosscenter.com/, it has his email on it as well. I have a friend who speaks to him reguarly and I have her inform him that you called and see if she can get him in touch with you . I know he's still in the process of getting his office set up so that might be why there was no call back yet. If you can IM Me your name I'll let her know that your trying to get ahold of him . Thanks Mindy

I have not been banded yet , but when I do im going to use Dr Rincon . I live in Austin and have been talking to him and looking into him for quite some time. He's AWESOME. I called his office to talk to then about pricing one day . It was around 4:45pm his office had already switched over to the paging service. So when I called my call went straight to his cell phone. He answered the phone, which kind of caught me off guard lol He spoke to me for over 30 mintues himself. Answering any and all questions I might have had. I asked him " are you doing any seminars " He said " Im working on this now , but I have about 20 mintues to spare any questions you might have that would be answered in a seminar Ide be happy to answer now" I was VERY Impressed. NOW Keep in mind that his staff is new (He recently went into Private pratice ) and they do not have alot of answers for you, BUT If they say " let me get back to you "Chances are HE will get back to you via email or phone call " . Also FYI SW Baratrics will not take patients from Mexico . That was something that was told during the seminar I went to with them . But even though I have not actually " Seen" Dr Rincon yet I do recommend him ... I Have a friend that goes to him as well and she LOVES him . HTH Mindy

Even though I have not had the surgery yet , I had been looking into it for over a year off and on . Well of course I was tired of not breathing well and my back, hips and knee's hurting . But MY LAST STRAW was a few months ago I saw an old friend that I had no seen in about 8 yrs ( when i was Skinny) He patted my stomach and said " when are you due " I wanted to crawl in a hole and die . I just said " Im not pregnant im just Fat " and walked off. I went home and cried the rest of the night. I realized then that the only time he had seen me overweight was when I was pregnant with my son , so he just assumed. That was when i decided I had enough and wanted the surgery . I'll be 31 on the 6th and use to say that im glad i had my kids young so I could enjoy them and be the " cool " mom that played with them and took them cool places. I cant do that now . what's the use of being a cool mom if you dont want to or cant go anywhere due to your wait. I HATE Living where i live now , its the same area i went to high school , I am modified if i run into someone from high school . I know they think " God what happened to her " . SO im READY , just need the $$ . Sorry that felt good to say . Thanks Mindy PS 48 hours with out a cigarette lol :angry

OH I Like this thread, Can I play lol . My Ipods' not really for working out but im cleaning houses to save money for my surgery (does that count ?). So i wanted some upbeat music to keep me motivated : I have to say my FAVORITE is Footloose by Kenny Loggins I can NOT Listen to that and NOT dance . LOL Here's my list : Live Like You Were Dying 5:00 Tim McGraw Summertime 3:26 Kenny Chesney Who Says You Can't Go Home (Featuring Jennifer Nettles) 3:50 Bon Jovi & Jennifer Nettles Have a Nice Day Rock Have a Nice Day 3:51 Bon Jovi Livin' on a Prayer 4:09 Bon Jovi Footloose 3:42 Kenny Loggins I Want to Be Loved 3:49 Bon Jovi Duck and Run 3:50 3 Doors Down Kryptonite 3:53 3 Doors Down Señorita Margarita 3:50 Tim McGraw A When the Sun Goes Down 4:50 Kenny Chesney I Got a Feelin' 3:13 Billy Currington In the Air Tonight 5:35 Phil Collins Novocaine 4:48 Bon Jovi Not Enough 3:14 3 Doors Down Last Cigarette 3:38 Bon Jovi Since U Been Gone 3:08 Kelly Clarkson Down On the Farm 3:08 Tim McGraw Lose Yourself 5:21 Eminem 8 Mile Bells of Freedom 4:55 Bon Jovi The World 4:01 Brad Paisley Jack & Diane 4:16 John Mellencamp Be Like That 4:25 3 Doors Down Living In Fast Forward 3:31 Kenny Chesney So I Need You 3:50 3 Doors Down Down Poison 4:21 3 Doors Down Smack 2:29 3 Doors Down My Wish 4:08 Rascal Flatts Life of My Own 3:58 3 Doors Down I Am 3:53 Bon Jovi Fast Cars and Freedom 4:23 Rascal Flatts Story of My Life 4:08 Bon Jovi Loser 4:24 3 Doors Down Who Says You Can't Go Home 4:40 Bon Jovi Me and My Gang 3:38 Rascal Flatts Complicated 3:37 Bon Jovi By My Side 3:16 3 Doors Down Wildflower 4:13 Bon Jovi Last Man Standing 4:37 Bon Jovi The Better Life 3:07 3 Doors Down When the Stars Go Blue 3:55 Tim McGraw Welcome to Wherever You Are 3:47 Bon Jovi Mindy

LMAO I didn't even notice I'm a HORRIBLE Speller . Mindy

Aussie Chick, By the way you look great. You look like a totally different person in your before and now pics.(All before and after pics amaze me ) How are you feeling now after your TT ? Just HOW painful was it ? LOL Not as bad as you expected ? Sorry for all the questions. I just want to know everything NOW , im a very impatient person lol Thanks Mindy

So you didnt wait a certain amount of time after goal ? Just when ever your reached your goal you felt comfortable enough to do it ? Im sure its an individual choice everyone is different on when they choose to do it . I didnt know if there was a "recommended " time to wait or not ? Thanks Mindy

Thanks Jachut , Im ok if i have to have a TT , In fact I had already planned on having a TT and a breast lift lol. Now if i can just hurry up and have the surgery so i can get to the TT and Breast lift . lol How long after surgery do people typically wait to have PS ? Mindy

Abbey , I can not be of much help since I am not banded yet. But I am sorry you are stuck. It never fails though as a question comes up that I wonder about for when I do finally get banded. So im waiting to hear what is said to help you out. Does drinking water help maybe ? I dunno . I seem to remeber a thread under food I think about tortillas . I'll see if i can find it. Good luck Mindy

Im also interested to know if you have excess skin prior to surgery ( around my waist) if that can get any better with working out ? I have pretty much convinced myself that i'll neeed a TT and im fine with that. My other question is if you need a TT when do you get it done ? Im assuming after you meet your goal but how long after that ? Mindy (Not yet banded)

I had my gallbladder out about 5 yrs ago . Less than 3 months after having my youngest son . About a month post op I started having phantom attacks and I SWORE They didn't take my gallbladder out . After going back and going back to the doc he finally asked me " are you on a diet " I told him yes, He told me to avoid eating a lot of lettuce or other roughage several days in a row . And in fact at that time I was on Weight Watchers and eating a salad almost every day , several times a day . Apparently ( according to my doc) with no gallbladder your body can not process the roughage as quickly out of your system , and that is why the attacks . SO If i avoid lettuce and roughage on a regular basis I seem to be OK. But if i eat a Salad say 3 days in a row I'll have them almost every time. They hurt like hell and I swear I'm going into labor because that's what they feel like to me. Mindy PS Im not banded yet if that helps too .

One step ahead of ya . lol I have a notebook started . As I find info I feel I need to keep i print it out and put it in there. As i find questions I want answered I write them down and pretty much all of them and then ALOT more was on that list I found. ( I just found that list last night) Thanks Mindy

Thanks , that is what I thought but was not sure lol . I was sitting here last night reading messages and looking at before and after pics crying. ( I know im a dork lol) But im SO ready to have this done. I have not even been to the seminar and im ready . I am not sure how long it will take me to get the money together but im just so SICK Of being this way . I have to say this is one of the most SUPPORTIVE forums I have ever seen. So I look forward to staying for awhile. Hopefully i can be on here sooner rather than later as a post op poster lol Mindy

THANK YOU Tricia. To be honest i dont expect my migraines to get " better" after surgery . I just want to make sure that wont get worse . I have had them since I was 11. now if they got better that would be a HUGE plus. Your stats are great , that is VERY incouraging to me. Ive been confused as to the stat numbers is the last number where you are or your goal ?? Either way yours are awesome. The stats and the before and after pics are VERY encouraging to me. Thanks Mindy

Yeah definitely stay with fresh non preservative drinks/food, i try to do that anyway .I can not handle anythign with nutrasweet or even splenda in it . Does anyone know if pomegranate juice is ok to drink ? LOL I LOVE that stuff. the canned broths I try not to do either due to the preservatives in it . Even if things say " No MSG " or they dont say MSG there is about 100 different names for MSG. But i guess I could make broth fresh ? Im interested in the PCOS response too . I HOPE its a good one lol Good luck on your seminar as well. I'm excited about mine. Mindy

Hi ,My name is Mindy and I live outside Austin TX. I have been really thinking about Lap band Surgery for over a yr now. I hope its ok to post on here since i haven't had it done yet ? I found this group and I have to say its really has some inspirational stories and the PICTURES are amazing. its one thing to see the numbers but the photos are fabulous. Everyone is a real inspiration to me. I'm going to a lap band seminar for Southwest Bariatrics tomorrow . I have a few questions that i thought some of you might be able to help me out with . I have 2 major concerns with this surgery, that I'm not sure if it will get addressed tomorrow or if i have to wait to go to an appt and well frankly I'm inpatient. The first is I have migraines frequently . I was looking over the post op meal plan . My question is , does the fasting post op ( and it looks like pre op as well ) cause any of you that have migraines to have them more often or do you not notice any difference ? My other question is I also have PCOS ( Poly cystic ovarian syndrome ) one of the "symptoms' of PCOS Is its difficulties to loose weight. So anyone with PCOS have any problems loosing the weight post op and then keeping it off ? I realize no one can give me medical advice just what your own experiences have been if you have PCOS or migraines both would be better lol . I know everyone is different especially with those 2 conditions. Thanks Mindy