Big Momma is Shrinking

Randy, CONGRATS!!!! Glad to hear that your band went so smoothly...and it sounds like you are doing a great job adjusting to the new eating habits.... I've just completed jumping thru the last of the hoops for my insurance co and now we wait..... Fingers crossed I will have my band sometime in March!! Glad to know all is going well for you...and I hope to be following behind you shortly!!

There are a handful of ppl in my life that know....my husband, my aunt/best friend....and a friend I work with...the funny thing is I'm much more comfortable talking about it with casual acquanitencs then the (other) ppl who are part daily lives..... I guess for me personally....I don't really care to hear their opinion one way or the other....I don't htink it's as much a matter of judging me as it is I'm not willing to have to defend my choice.... To me it comes down to this....it's my body, no one else knows what it is like to have to live in it....and it's is MY chioce to make period! The small handfull of people in my daily life are very supportive...and I feel like that's what I really need right now....not someone that I have to defend my desicion to.

Donnainva, I would love to know how you are feeling/doing after haveing your band placed...I am still trying to decide if Realize is the right choice for me and I would love to know how it's going for you....and most importantly!!!! CONGRATS!!!!!! :thumbup: ~M~

K...so here's my two cents worth..... It CAN be very enjoyable and Yes you CAN have amazing orgasms ( literally soak the bed)....but first and formost it's a mind thing...if you are constantly thinging how gross and disgusting it is or how much it's going to hurt then it probably will.... My hubby and I were high school sweethearts and he's wanted to do it since we were dating....I tried it a few times way back when, but had no desire....thought it was disgusting....and didn't enjoy it one bit....I guess as I have gotten older I've become more open minded and willing to try kinky things.... You have to have a partner that listens to you...slow and easy...and if it's not working for you then hit the shower and go back to what you know.... I don't know the "How" of "how is this pleasureable"......but I can tell you that if you are open minded about it and have someone that cares about you and not just getting off then you can it can be very pleasureable

The "Lifestyle" can be wonderful as long as you and your spouse are on the same page... My personal opinion is that cheating is something that you do behind your mates back, but if you choose to open your relationship as long as you both are playing because you WANT to be then you can have a wonderful time. Sex IS NOT Love....it is a physical pleasure As far as where to find someone....the internet is a WONDERFUL thing....there are plenty of clubs in most large cities and a number of sites that will introduce you to "like minded people" (and just for the record I'm willing to beat you already know some ppl that swing...you just don't know that they do)

K....I was feeling really gulity when I read the original post...but then I read on Here I thought I was the only one that gained weight in order to qualify, imagine my relief to see I'm not alone!!! I know it sounds crazy to gain weight to have weight loss surgery....but I know the surgery is my only hope pf ever gaining control of my body and my health.... So I say if your close (and don't have a money tree in your yard) then eat drink and be merry....afterall don't you pay for insurance every freaking month?!?!??? I think you deserve your chance at freedom!!

I'm still a "pre-bandseter" myself, but I have to agree, stop and think about where you have already been and how you got to the surgeons office to begin with. If you just gained some weight and are looking for an easy way to lose it then yeah I would think twice.....but if you have been fighting with your body for years and came to this discission then maybe this is just a case of cold feet. If you are having success with the pre-op diet then just think how much futher along the band is going to help you to get. Good Luck!! ~M

I'm still in the Pre-op stage, but have been using the website since early Aug. Until I am banded I only have access to the food diary. So I guess I'm posing my question to those of you who are already banded and have full access. How useful have you found it to be so far? Also what does it have to offer beyond the food diary? Thanks!! ~M

Thanks Becky, it is nice to know that there are others out there willing to help that I can lean on. I consulted with two surgeons and decided on Dr Robert Marvin. He actually just removed my gallbladder 4 days ago (something I was planning to do in Jan, but my body had other plans). What kind of band did you go with and how has "banded" life been for you so far?? After hearing other ppls stories my husband worries that I won't be able to eat anything at all after surgery...I just want a sense of what life will be like. Thanks for the help!! ~Monica

well this is me saying hello to all of you... I'm about 3 months out from my band, still jumpin thru hoops for the insurance company :smile:... If all goes well I will be gettin my band sometime in March 09...since I have started my 6 month pre-op for the insurance co I've lost about 20lbs.... But then losing weight has never been my real issue....keeping it off for the long haul is I'm hoping that the band will be the tool I need to help me find my way to a healthy life where I can feel more like my own age (or maybe even younger :thumbup:) instead of feeling like i should be in the "old folks home" most days...