Cynthia5

Interesting discussion. When I talked to the psych doc before being banded, it was one of the things he talked about. I didnt have a good marriage but wasnt looking to leave, but within a year of being banded, my father passed and then within 6mths of that we separated and divorced. It has been a very difficult 2 yrs. My 3 yr Bandaversary is this Saturday. I think that if you have a weak marriage, it can break it. For me there has been sooo much in my life. I had a dbl mastectomy 4 yrs ago, and he was not there for me. I had 12 breast tumors, 9 lumpectomies and my risk for breast cancer was huge, my doctor advised that I have the mastectomy, I went to grief counseling and made the decision. I do not regret that decision at all. This was a huge precursor to knowing he wouldnt be there for me when my Daddy passed or for me when I had WLS. When things are weak, it doesnt take much to break it.

...my last fill is too tight or if I am just still eating too fast or taking too big of bites, maybe not chewing enough...sigh. I had my 2nd fill the end of Oct and I went back to liquids and soft foods for first week, not an issue, except couldnt keep jello down, weird, but ok. So I start back on some regular foods and the foods get stuck, and it comes back up, then after a few minutes of PB'g I can eat...is this weird or what?

...they charged you to redo the port???? NO STINKIN WAY! **faints** How do they get away with that? Did you say something?

...you may want to ask them to take an xray if they have any more issues finding it...that is what my doc assistatn said they do when they have issues. I certainly would have had them do it, when I went for the 2nd fill if they had any issues! Thank God it went ok! Hope your next visit is MUCH better!

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I am not sure who you are asking - but I dont have any pain in either area...just been having problems keeping solid food down...sigh.

When I went for my first fill, I passed out. The thing is that I had a dbl mastectomy almost 3 yrs ago, had a port for the expanders for my reconstruction surgery. They pretty much do the same thing, put a needle into the port and fill the expanders to slowly stretch the skin and muscles for the implants. So when I went in for my fill I KNEW exactly what was going to happen. The difference was this, when I had the fills for the expanders they had a PORT FINDER, yes, a port finder, a sweet little instrument that finds the port center they mark it and in 2 seconds the needle is in, you are filled and there is NO poking, prodding or passing out! I have told them that they SERIOUSLY need to invest in one of those, seriously! I didnt have any problem with my 2nd fill, but I still think it is totally un-necessary to have to go thru the poking and prodding if they would just invest in that sweet little tool!

I just had my 2nd fill about 2 wks ago and I am very slow about getting back to eating solid food, but I have noticed that I am having some issues eating anything more solid than soup or oatmeal. I kinda dont want to go back for a removal of fluid, cuz I know when you start losing the weight the band will loosen up. I also know I started back on Celebrex for arthritis in my back, so I am not sure if I am having some acid issues due to that either. I am leaning toward the Celebrex being the issue rather than the fill and I may need to cut out the meds, grrr cuz they really help me...on top of having pain still from having had a softball size tumor removed from my lower back...:thumbup:

Well, now there ya go!!! :embaressed_smile: :cool2: :w00t: :tt2:

oh yeah that is another issue I forgot about - gallbladder! Definitely could be. i have had that issue in the past, not related to the band, but it was yucky. I would definitely talk to your doc about it. :embaressed_smile:

I was going to say too it probably is the OJ and cayenne pepper...even though it is liquid I would certainly ask your doctor if it would be ok to be drinking that, but it sounds like your body is telling you to stop anyway. Just an FYI, OJ isnt good for us, it increases the blood sugars. Several doctors I know have said if you want fruit eat it, dont drink it. Hope you have no more bad tummy problems!

I told everyone too and I still do! I was at an Ave store and had a group of 4 women listening to me share my journey and about the lapband!:drool: I had the naysayers, some within my own family, but man after all I had done to lose weight and fight this up hill battle - I think it takes guts to make this decision and I think we are brave, not one of us is thinking this is a *magic bullet*...but that is what *they* think we are thinking, but they are ignorant of the truth and it is up to us to tell them the truth. My brother said to me that if it *just* makes you eat less why cant you do it on your own? I said to him that my body for one has several real issues that actually make weight an issue. 1) PCOS (poly-cystic ovary syndrome or disease) 2) pre-diabetic/insulin resistant 3) underactive thyroid 4) and other female related issues including having 12 breast tumors that resulted in a dbl mastectomy 2 1/2 yrs ago. These are hormonal issues that definitely contribute to the female body holding onto our weight. And because of that my body aint doing the math (drop 500 calories form the amt of calories it takes to maintain your current weight x 7= 3500 which =1 pd lost) and because it aint doing the math it is demanding that I eat way less than I have the ability to, and if that makes me weak to you, so be it, YOU try eating what my body demands and lets see how well you can do it! I can admit I need this tool, because I journaled my food for 4 yrs and realized that someone shouldnt HAVE to be perfect to lose weight, but my body was demanding that, so I knew something else was hindering my weight loss. I think we each have to decide within ourselves what and when we share, but no matter what our personal decisions are to share or not, I would encourage every single one of us to KNOW that we are making amazing, bold and courageous decisions that we should be proud of...what we have to go thru to get to this point aint been a picnic and anyone who thinks it has been or that this is the *easy way out* is bonkers, besides being ignorant. Here is to another pound,one ounce at a time! Cuz it all adds up and matters! :tt2:

I am sooo glad to read that I am not the only one that was diagnosed with PCOS and came to understand that it effects our ability to lose weight. I actually journaled online for almost 4 yrs before I realized that it was really what I was eating but the things going on in my body...pre-diabetic, insulin resistant, underactive thyroid and PCOS that actually hinder us from losing no matter how hard we try. I was eating 1300 - 1800 calories a day, exercising 20 min/day and could lose 4 lbs/wk but then the next wk gain back 3lbs, it was maddening and was so discouraging I wanted to quit! I knew the math...I knew that if you eat 500 calories less than what it takes to maintain whatever your current weight is you should lose 1lb a week 500x7=3500 caories which =1lb and my body wasnt doing the math or it would but it would do everything the following week to undo what I had done! I found after time and journaling that those things were demanding that I eat way less than I could, after all I didnt think you had to be perfect to lose weight but man was my body demanding it!:biggrin: The other real important thing I learned was the whole starvation mode thing, I didnt know that our body will take whatever you eat and hold onto it, if you arent feeding the metabolism fire, I had a hard time grasping that concept, but I understand it know. It is one of the biggest changes I made in my 8 yrs journey. So when all was said and done and journaled and learned (I have so much more to learn still) that is when I decided to go the lapband course and I am so glad I did! I cant wait til my 2 mth anniversary, cuz at last weigh in which was on Aug 18th I had lost 38pds already! I wish more doctors would realize that there are OTHER reasons that make the body hold onto weight and that many of us aint sittin around eatin bon bons!

You ARE doing good! One thing I learned after having a dbl mastectomy, is that we share our stories, we dont compare our stories. And I think it applies to this too. You should be VERY proud of your 18pds! Please dont take away your 18pd victory by comparing it to anyone else, k? We each have our journey, there will be ups and downs for all of us, hopefully more downs (on the scale) than ups, eh? :thumbup: Your journey is valid, real and important and every pound has worth as you reach for your goal weight, so dont sabotage yourself (we all do it on some level, so I am talkin to myself here too :cool2:) with this kind of thinkin and comparing, it is a waste of your precious time and valuable life. So, here's to just 1 more pound, even if it is an ounce at a time! (((hugs)))

I LOVE SF popsicles! And I found SF fudgsicles too! I was banded on July 9th, stayed on the liquid/soft for about 2 wks. I ate chicken and beef broth, SF jello & pudding, SF popsicles, SF fudgsicles, farina, and Ensure. I would also make protein drinks with 100% whey protein powder I found at Walmart, about $12 for a big jug of it and it came in chocolate, I saved a ensure bottle and would funnel in the powder and then fill and shake with water til it was well mixed and full, put it in the frig and then have it sometime in the morning. I found thatif I had it tooo late in the day it would keep me up for some reason, but the 2 scoops gives 52grams of protein!

what is pb'ing? I have had the pain in my chest when I ate something. Man that hurts! I think I have chewed enough or taken a small enough bite, but sometimes I guess my body is telling me that I am not! Before a fill I could eat a banana - after I cant, but I can eat and english muffin with some mayo and a tomato (been cravin them!) - go figure! I think my biggest issue is that I dont eat slow enough, so that my stomach knows it is full...I may eat small bites, chew it really good, but I dont wait long enough between all that for it to settle - I think it is bad habits that I soooooo need to break! Also anyone have issues with being *regular* since the surgery? I finally went back to having my oatmeal this morning, it was the only thing that kept me regular. I had no issues with eating it - THANK GOD! I am new here, just gettin my feet wet! :thumbup:

I was banded on July 9th, and as of Aug 18th I have lost 38pds, so we are like band sisters! LOL! :thumbup: I had my first fill on Aug 18th - it didnt hurt, so know that...and relax it will go just fine!

I had my LapBand surgery on July 9th thru the Kane Center and I will tell you they were the best! I have had alot of surgeries in my life and I was never more prepared for a surgery than I was with this one. I had some issues with my insurance company and they referred me to a lawyer who dealt with the insurance company and between my paper work and their help, I got approved. Everything is laid out so you know exactly what step is next in the process. I had amazing care in the hospital and since July 9th, my last weigh in was August 18th I have lost 38 pds! They have counseling, support groups for before and after. No practice is perfect, trust me I have had my issues with doctors over the years, but I think they are a center of excellence and make sure that whoever gets a gastric surgery done is well prepared by them. But lets face it, we have to actually do the work too, after all this is a working relationship...as we have heard it said before - it dont work unless you work it. If you have any questions, feel free to email me.:thumbup: