Freckles

Firstly, so glad its over for Shoes and Kakas daughter, its always great when friends return home and are 'done'. Thanx everyone for enquiring about my meeting, all went well, I will send a pm to you Mmm shortly. Big sis, I am so looking forward to the meal, what time does she want us, and do we also bring sleeping bags as I will be too drunk to go home.:confused: I love madras also, thats why my email addy starts with pattymadras ...really it does:thumbup: Well done Wishful for your weight loss, tell me again how long since your op Garry, good link hunny, thanks. My stitches came out ok, just stung a bit, it doesnt feel so tight, such a relief. I have to use Vaseline though cos they are still scabby, which i put down to stress. Now I have that damn pain in my chest, that Gillian had and I cant remember what to take...do they still sell Gripe Water?

I read this from an American lady, on here,and thought it may be of interest to all those of you who have had a few fills and get discomfort eating certain foods. Someone has actually mentioned it before, but thought some of you may not have read that far back. Hope it helps, i will certainly remember those pills.

OH Big sis you do make me laff. Did anyone see the post by mr lapband in the new posts? Apparently this forum was advertised on the WLS network in the USA...how good is that!!!! I watched the video clip an it did show it. I would like to thank all my friends here for their wonderful support, I would have sloped off into the wilderness but for those. Thank you friends.

Thank you Flirty

Well that was some speech Flirty, bet you're worn out now :thumbup: Thank you for your support, but what I dont understand is why Vanessa chose to take my posts as a personal insult to her, yet nobody else did??? I have a cousin who is very close to me and is a staff nurse in an NHS hospital, it was him that told me to arrange the meeting, because he felt my Mum (his auntie) wasnt being monitored properly, and the NHS were failing her. His mother is my Mums identical twin. My point being I was not having a go at Nurses and Doctors in general as I previously stated. I think this has gone on long enough, dont you? One person's post to cause so much annoyance.

I havent had the discomfort you mention in ribs and chest Big sis, sorry. But I can feel the port more than the last one I had. I used to get that same sort of feeling Gillian, like as if the port had dislodged somehow and it took a day or 2 to move back to the right place. I think this happens to a lot of people, but if you are really in considerable discomfort, then why dont you mail Dr Chris and ask him sweetie, I'm sure he'll be able to give you some help xx The whole port area is still very swollen, and tight, I am hoping this will disappear soon, when I have had the stitches out tomorrow.

Thank you Fatpants, you are very understanding.

Well said Fatpants I agree with you about this thread being kept for lapband talk only, this is one of the reasons I have chosen not to continue with my story in the future, although as Garry and other have said it was a release. The system is surely at fault, but in this circumstance I feel that the person in charge of the nursing staff, being the Ward Manager, then its her I need to consult with, this being the reason for the arranged meet. Even though Vanessa's post was quite rude and hurt me I notice she is still standing her ground and not apologising to me. So be it. Matter over, I have more important things to think about. Thank you fatpants for taking the time and trouble to air your views. Is there a mod on here that could split the topic, because i dont think anyone needs to read all of this. Thank you.

Thank you Garry, its really nice of you to say that, but I dont feel I want to upset anyone on here by posting inappropriately. I will actually continue by private messages if anyone wants to know anything. Thank you again. xx

I apologise to you Vanessa if you feel that I have insulted nurses and doctors in general. Deep down you really know.... that was not the case. I know how hard they work, but I still think my mothers well being and life for that matter is worth far more than someones feelings. Without doctors and nurses we would be in a sorry state, and it was not my intention to insult anyone. I will not start a flaming match on here, the board and my friends here are too important to me. I will however refrain from posting anymore regarding my Mother. Mmm I am so sorry all of this has upset you so, please accept my sincere apologies.

Tonight she was better in herself, but hallucinating again. Three nurses came over to speak to me, to tell me how she was doing...they've never bothered before unless I have approached them....actually in my Mums notes there is reference to the fact that I have requested a meeting with the top knobs (such as they are). They are also now monitoring her fluid intake and output and there are pages of it, that werent there before. Maybe this has scared them somewhat, and that wasnt my intention, I just wanted to voice my concerns really. But I suppose if it keeps the staff on their toes and they take better care of my Mum and the rest of the patientsa, it cant be a bad thing. Maybe they never met anyone like me before

Cheers Gillian, I thought the same about the infection, but then read the symptoms of dehydration on the NHS website dry mouth (xerostomia), * chapped or dry lips, * dry eyes,dry, * loose skin with a lack of elasticity, * sunken features, particularly the eyes (enophthalmos), * clammy hands and feet, * headaches, * light-headedness, * dizziness, * tiredness, * confusion and irritability, * loss of appetite, she had nearly all of those symptoms, as well as vomiting which is another symptom. I am appalled that it could have been sorted out so much sooner, if we hadnt been fobbed off with 'its because she has had major surgery' I'm going to the hospital soon, I cant wait to see her, I hope she's still back to her normal self. xxxx

For anyone on the slop diet, like me, I made a lovely soup yesterday and have just finished it off, and am making more. Asda's organics, soup mix...it doesnt need soaking you just simmer it for about an hour, it says 40 mins but I gave mine longer as I wanted it very soft. I put an onion and garlic in it, a few Knorr chicken stock cubes and salt and pepper and it was lovely, so tasty. I am not a great lover of pulses, but I know they are very nutricious so thought I'd give it a go. The husband also loved it, though he added chilli powder to his. At least you can eat something with a bit of adult flavouring in instead of baby food.

Fatpants and Wishful, thanx for your comments and I agree with both of you, it is a disgrace to treat anyone this way more so the elderly who are at their most vulnerable time of life. I hope nobody else has to suffer this, and I wish we had picked up on it earlier, rather than be fobbed off by the nurses saying 'well she wont be herself, she's just had major surgery' I asked what was going on last Sunday, 3 days after my own op, because I felt that she should have been getting back to some sort of normality by then. Thank you again girls for your support and I will be as strong as possible on Monday, at this meeting. My 2 daughters are coming with me and they both have things to say. I'm going to write mine down and print it off, just to make me remember things.

Thanx Big Sis, you are a sweetie xxx

Just a little update on my Mum.... Well my moaning and asking for a meeting, and telling the surgeon about my Mum's dehydration has worked. Sarah went in to see her tonight and she is back to her old self. Sarah says she has plasters inside her elbows, where they've had a drip. But when she asked the nurse, she played dumb They have noticeably had her on a saline drip to put the fluid back in her body I am so relieved, but will be voicing my complaint on Monday @ 9am when I have an appointment to see the sister and Doctor. After all what would have happened if I hadnt spoken up?? B**tards !!!!! It's inexcusable, busy or not, I thought the idea was to keep patients alive not to put their lives at risk, maybe in the future they will be more vigilant with the elderly. I have to get my stitches out that day too at 10:30 am, so wont have time to waste with the Sister and Doc, will have to get straight to the point.:thumbup:

See!!!! I knew it, so glad you asked that Gillian...I still wonder why the anaesthetist said a long haul wouldnt affect the band, prat!!! I have a meeting with the Ward manager (sister) and the surgeon on Monday at 9am to discuss my concerns about my Mum. Last night when I went in, her cup was still there that I had bought her, but 2 dirty nighties, one with dinner all down the front and the other one was er umm, well ..soiled. So have been out today and bought another 3 nighties, as she's going through 2/3 a day, and I dont want her in those hospital gowns. Now she has about 12 so will make it easier for me. She wasnt good at all last night, asked me why I woke her up when I went in???? Poor old sausage, many thanx for your kindness Gillian.

Wishful and Gillian. My fella gave it up for 18years when the girls were little and then started again, when we were on holiday and got in with a big gang of Scousers who all smoked, and being a Scouser too, he felt a bit left out. He has given up twice since but put loads of weight on so started again. So I'm just taking each day as it comes.

I just wanted to say that I have never felt restriction like I have now, without a fill, except like i have said before after a long haul flight. I have had 3 teaspoons of scrambled egg, really more liquid than scrambled and was full. Its now obvious to me that my first band was faulty from day one. lets hope the weight begins to fall off. My 2 daughters say I look thinner already, which is great as i havent smoked since the day before my op. I have the Patches, couldnt do it without as i have smoked all of my life except when pregnant. I have to fight the urge though as its still with me.:laugh: But its early days, and I like the idea of being a non-smoker, so wish me luck girlies. My thoughts are with those having their ops today.

Mmm I apologise for there not being a piccy of me in my profile, but there is now. This was taken 2 years ago when I had lost 2 stone, the most I ever lost with my dodgy band. Only head and shoulders, but you can see the difference to now.

Sammy have a lovely break and come back feeling good. My thoughts will be with you hunny:thumbup:

Hi Maincat, my apologies for not spotting your post before now. The manufacturer offered me a new band and the Bupa (Spire) gave me a 20% discount so I opted for that. It worked out cheaper than going to Belgium. I have every faith in Michael Van den Bossche, he is a terrific surgeon and a wonderful man. It was because of his persistance that the company gave me a new band, the old one now removed is, by now in the USA waiting to be examined ( I hope). I will have to await their findings and remarks before i can move on with this. I will however keep you posted , I usually am to be found in this thread http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f11/anyone-know-dr-de-bruyne-chris-41669/index73.html#post1164269 many thanx for your suggestions and comments.:cursing: BTW why did you have 2 ops Steve?

So sorry Christine that i didnt reply, I had no idea that anyone had replied to my thread. I have now had my new band fitted, I am a week out of surgery and feel I have restriction like I didnt experience with the first band initially. Have you any news about your plight? What a dreadful experience for you, I bet you're so upset and angry about this. Please let us know how things are going.

many thanks Wishful and Gillian for your replies. Wishful, my Mum is not in a care home, she actually fell and broke her hip, she's in hospital, where i know the staff are overworked and underpaid, but that doesnt excuse stupidity does it.

My Mum is still not so good, I am really disappointed with Whiston Hospital, she is talking broken biscuits all the time, and is shaking, she cant hold a glass and keeps tipping her squash all over herself. I have lost count of the nighties i have had to wash, not that I'm bothered its just the fact that she's tipping more than she's drinking. I am also sick of asking the nursing staff to give her a beaker with a spout, they get one and the next time I go in she has a glass again so in the end bought her one of her own. It just better be there when we go in this afternoon. She has had conjuctivitis in both her eyes since the surgery and each time we go in we have to bathe them for her, and she cant see properly. I think at last they are getting eye drops for her!!!!! Bloody disgusting. Are they blind or do they just not care?? She has had a water infection and needs to drink plenty, and she's not getting it as nobody seems to have the time or inclination to help her. I also had a nightmare with her hearing aid, it was fine when she went in, and then some stupid Staff nurse admitted to finding a part on the floor and throwing it away cos she didnt know what it was!!!!! We had to run around taking it to the next town to get it fixed, as the hospital's audiology refused to repair it cos she didnt live in the area!!! What crap. I am waiting for a meeting with the Ward manager and the doctor, so that I can air these issues. I want her home with me so I can take care of her, she has lived with me for 6 years and I have built her up so she is strong, and its all going downhill. They dont seem to be able to get her to stand up, she wont bear her weight, if she doesnt walk soon, she never will. This is driving me nutz, and I'm sorry to bore you all, but sometimes its helpful to share. Thanx for reading this xxxx