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I wish now that I had just told my DH since he really is the one that supports me in anything I do to better my life, new job, go to school, every diet I've done in the past, ect. So I decided not to talk to those non supporters about it anymore. I even told a few of them I changed my mind just to get them off my back. DH backs my lies too, isn't he the best? One of my off the scale goals is to feel comfy enough to get some sexy undies to reward him.:biggrin:

you know i actually asked my mom if she would pick on me like she does my little sister (who is super skinny but healthy) if I lost my weight and got all thin and she said yes! can you believe my own mother would be such a bitch! she's 46 and like 210 at 5'1" and has be so for as long as I can remember. I think she's scared i'll quit my bad habit and we won't have anything in common anymore.

you all rock, you know I almost let the negitivity get to me. I was going to cancel my consult and pysch eval but they are tomorrow and if I cancel now I'll get a big fat fee and I don't need anything else fat in my life:biggrin:.

Thanks Suzanne, with the DH being so great and telling him about what other people were saying he told me to go b/c it would be better to start the process and change my mind later then stop now and change my mind back and have to wait forever to get another consult. I'm going to Dr. Bautista at Commonwealth Surgeons at St. Mary's in Richmond. I think I've told you that before. I'm going to continue this journey and get fit.

thank you, I needed to know that others felt the same. I am terrified that I'm going to be the fail factor, questioning my ability to become disiplined enough. I love this site.

I’m 5’2” around 204lbs Not Banded Yet. Healthy weight/BMI range: 101-136 lbs/18.5-24.9 Weight loss goal: 68 – 103 lbs True Goal: 104 lbs / BMI 19% I have a small frame so I want to be on the lower end of my range. I was 104 lbs when I was 15 and a size 6 (I'm hippy), I'd be happy at an 10 and estatic at size 8. I've had 2 kids so I figure that I won't get much smaller then 120 but my gol is going to be 104 so I keep pushing myself. I think if you are small frame go for the lower end, medium frame in the middle and large frame at the top of your scale. But in the end you should be happy with the junk in your trunk.

I am going to my consult tomorrow morning and the psych eval in the afternoon, my surgeon recommends doing them both in the same day so things move faster. For the last few weeks I've been getting a lot of pressure from my friends and family except my wonderful hubby, to forget about surgery. Everyone love me and really don't believe that I'm 204lbs since I carry it all between my breasts and knees. I can dress to hide most of it. I'm so confused now. I almost cancelled my appointments b/c no one but hubby are supportive. Hubby wants me to do what makes me happy and healthy. He doesn't care about my weight, he chalks it up to me giving him 2 babies that were too big for me to carry well. Any encouragement would be great.

How do you deal with people's comments that you don't need surgery...you can lose it on your own...there are risks....blah blah blah negitivity everywhere. I have people telling me what I can and can't do like I don't know that you can lose weight without surgery but not everyone can and keep it off. I hate people telling me oh you're fine the way you are, you shouldn't have surgery. They don't understand how I feel or what I've been though the last 11 years bouncing up and down on the scale or breaking that I'm never going to be X number of pounds and then you wake up and you are. People ask me questions and then jump up on their soap boxes. I can't stand it!!:tongue2:

Just went to seminar last night and have my consult and psych eval on 3/20. Doc says once insurance is approved can be done in 3-6 weeks after! I'm on my way!

My first reason is to be healthier for me but I know that my behavior impacts them so it helps drive me forward to being better.

I'm afraid that when I'm asked why I want to be banded that I'm going to have a break down. My reasons are many but a very important one is b/c of my kids. When I think about them having to grow up with a fat mummy I feel ashamed of myself and I break down and cry, even now as I'm writing this. Especially since I have a beautiful little 3 year old princess that I never want to feel like I do about her weight. My mum and gran are both fat so a assumed that I would be too and now I am. Maybe if my mum had learned the right way to eat and deal with her emotions she would have taught me how. So I want to learn how to control my eating habits and get active so I can teach her how now as a little girl so she'll never struggle. If I tell this to the surgeon or say it in my pysch eval will they hold it against me as an external factor? I feel this is a very justified reason but should I share it with the docs?

I've been justifing eating everything because I made the decision to have the band but haven't got it yet, and DH is such a inabler sometimes he said aw F it you're going to loss it all again anyway. :thumbup: Love that man he just wants me happy so I'll keep cooking all the crap thats making him fat too. But he's 6'3" and 240 large frame and I'm 5'2" and 208 small frame. that 13 inches in height warps his thinking. but I'm a big dummy for letting myself believe that crap. don't get me wrong DH really is supportive and loving he just lives by the rule that if i'm happy he's happy and really means it:wub:

i hope i pass mine, i've been in the out patient program at our local nuts house for two weeks, was on anti-depression and anti-anxiety meds for like a year (haven't been since Aug). i'm probably have adult ADD 'cause i live in a constant state of chaos (or is that my two kids?) and i am a federal employee. I'm going to be a top shelf nut case!

haven't done my psych exam but I did go to a mental health hospital b/c of depression last year and part of it was coping with emotions in good ways. so i think i've got a head start on knowing how to get though the rough stuff without food

I thought I was the only one willing to do something like that. I'm so self absorbed sometimes. :cursing: I'm 16 lbs away from the 40 BMI and told my DH what I was thinking about doing and he said hell if it'll get you approved do it, you can lose it on the pre op diet and be okay.

I'm going to the seminar next wednesday with my mom whose thinking about it too, we're about the same hieght but she's a bit heavier and has been as long as I can remember. I found out that I'm 16 lbs from being at 40 bmi so I'm going to push that little fact with the insurance company. I really want to do this so I'm going to fight to do it. If it turns into self pay so be it. I want to be healthy so my little girl won't be like me.

Thank you for sharing such intimate thoughts, I feel scared about this process too and wonder if it is the right thing for me. It makes things so much eaiser and less scary when there are others that express their fears and insecurities.

anyone planning to attend seminar at St. Mary's 2/2/08 @ 5p hosted by Dr. Bautista? He did my gall bladder surgery and is great.

I'm pre-op and have been worried about this subject because I already have issues, like I go every 2-3 days now. I'm gonna be down to like twice a month!:mad:

Don't put a lot of faith in Lotions, concentrate on keeping your skin healthy from the inside by taking thinks like fish oil and drinking water and soy milk like Silk light.

I have issues with skin already (preband) from having kids, my hubby was an 11lb baby. Our kids were pretty big for my 5'2" self. I spoke to multiple doctors and all have the same opinion. Stretched skin will stay stretched. But when you're losing weight you should do toning exercise, lay of caffine, and drink tons of water to help increase elasticity. After a few years of that have a PS take care of the rest.

I'm 27 and haven't even gone to the seminar (2/20) yet so that I can schedule my consult. I've got a BMI of 37.1, 5'2", 203 lbs. My goal is 125 lbs. I had a weight problem as a teen but when I really hit the gym I could take it off. Once I had my son at 21 I couldn't anymore and then I had my daughter at 23 and really couldn't get my weight down. I did lose 20 lbs in 2005 but once I stoped the low carb thing it came back with a vengence and I can' t lose more then 5lbs and for every 5lbs I lose it seems I gain back 7. I want to get this under control once and for all before my big 30 sneaks up on my and my metabolism really does a flop.

Has anyone ever used this brand, it's an organic protein shake made from rice bran?

Hey SuzanneG, I'm going to Dr Bautista over at St Mary's in Richmond, VA.

The surgeon I've choose actually removed my gall bladder in Nov 2006 due to gall stones which he contributed to me being overweight. I'm hoping that will still count as an additional medical condition since it almost killed me because a stone got into my gall duct. I'm not diabetic because of it though.