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I am 6 weeks out from surgery. I have a few events that will be happening at bars. I have not tried fried foods yet, but I was thinking of getting the mozzarella sticks and just peeling off the breading. There are other options on the menus, but has anyone been able to eat breaded things successfully or do they cause issues because of the breading (ie: chicken wings)?

My first day was good. I was able to get all my protein and fluids in. Walked around on breaks and took a few minutes a couple of times outside of breaks to walk as well.

There are hundreds of people around that have had the surgery. The support groups at GHP would be a great place to meet up with people who have had the surgery.

I ended up taking some meat and cheese roll-ups with me and ate on the way there and then on the way home as well.

Are you looking for powder to make your own or do you prefer the pre-mixed? Pre-mixed: I like Muscle Milk and Core Power. Powder: I've really only tried a couple so far that were plant based protein. Both were a very noticable plant sort of flavor. I prefer to mix up my own smoothie using either the powder or pre-mixed. I add in things like powdered Peanut Butter, fruit, avocado, spices (cinnamon, pumpkin pie spice), pumpkin, cottage cheese, silken tofu, extracts...the list is very long.

@ My surgery is scheduled for December 30th at noon!! I'm crazy excited and cannot wait!! I had mine October 22. My mom is having hers December 23. I live in the GR area (Comstock Park). She lives in Greenville. I'm happy to get together sometime for walking, talking...whatever you need.

Thank you! I always seem to drink more water at work as well.

I'm glad you were able to get going. From experience, I know that it is very uncomfortable. I have not had to take anything for mine. I increase my liquid intake and walk around a lot. Both of those seem to help get things moving.

I hope it went better than you though it would. I head back to work tomorrow and am a little nervous about it as well.

Thanks for the encouragement. I don't tolerate well people who put others down. I did look at the menu online. I went last night armed with my own food on my car as well as a few menu options. I didn't end up ordering anything.

I had the surgery for things other than just the weight loss. I seldom went to bars before surgery. When I looked at the menus, most of the foods are fried. I was asking so that I can prepare myself and make better choices. That's not setting myself up for failure; it's setting myself up to make the right choice with some advice from others.

I think the thing to remember is that everyone's reactions to foods is different. I have friends that mention their taste buds have completely changed since surgery. I have not experienced that at all. I do not crave sweets like I used to, but my taste for foods is the same. One of my best male friends had the surgery almost 4 years ago and was eating his hot foods once he was able to handle solid foods and had no trouble. I had IBS before surgery and couldn't handle much heat to my foods. I plan to try a little bit of heat soon and see how it goes.

I am only 6 weeks out from surgery and I eat every 2-3 hours. Definitely talk to your doctor if this is not normal for you. It could be something to do with your blood sugar levels. Make sure you are getting enough liquids. If you are exercising more, then your calorie intake needs are usually greater. Another thing you could do is review what you've been eating and make lower calorie substitues (fat-free or low-fat options, soup, etc.).

World Market. They are $7.99 for a 750 ml/25.4 fl oz bottle.

I have yet to use the Torani syrups as my wallet says other things are more important. I use the extracts frequently. I have used mint, almond, and vanilla. There are lots of recipes out there that use the extracts. I have "pinned" a lot of them on Pinterest.

I like everything you listed. I like to add pudding into the mix as well as fruit. I have done just the pudding powder as well as actually making the pudding and mixing it together with the cottage cheese. I also, similar to @@kimby1029, have mixed it with marinara sauce (or any Pasta sauce, except alfredo), topped it with a little cheese (usually parmesan), and enjoyed. I have heated it up slightly and have eaten it cold. I sometimes add cottage cheese to Protein shakes for more protein and thickness. I have seen recipes for cottage cheese pancakes but I have not tried them. I think the recipes for ricotta pancakes sound yummier.

With the lack of intimacy, it sounds to me like there is something else going on with him that maybe he isn't talking about or is unsure of.

I was married once before and we were both very overweight. I remember many times I wanted to do better for myself and wanted him to be along the trail with me, but he had no desire to do so. I know that feeling. It is tough. Bringing up a touchy subject is hard. The best thing is to be honest, make it a safe environment for the discussion (no judging, accusing, yelling, shaming, etc.), and let her talk. If she's not ready, then make your statements, ask your questions, and ask to set up a time for follow up. It may seem like a business transaction, but the follow up is important. I truly wish you the best. Here are a few things I learned from my previous marriage that have been tweaked to this situation: *You most certainly can not change her; she has to want to make changes just as you did and made the decision to have surgery. *Before you talk with her or bring up the subject, do some searching within yourself first. Why is it that you want her to lose the weight? Be specific. Write things down. Are there things you'd like to do together, but she is unable? Are you concerned for her health and want her to be with you for longer? What is the real issue? Her weight? The way she eats? Does it bother you that, perhaps, she eats differently than you do and you would like to eat that way again? *Remember why you married her in the first place. You stated you made a mutual agreement before surgery. What was that agreement? Go back to that and ask her what is bothering her. There may be something holding her back (ie: fear, resentment, something about your journey that bothered her).

Were the wings breaded? I just started back on solid foods. I thought about trying some wings but everywhere I go here they are breaded and deep fried. We bake ours at home, but it would be nice to go out for them occasionally since my boyfriend loves hot wings.

I had surgery with Dr. Baker with Grand Health Partners. They have many different support group options; some are in the evenings, some in the mornings, some mid-afternoon. They typically give you a list of their support group schedule. You can always pick one up anytime by stopping into the office. I have not been to them since my surgery (October). I did the medical program through them about 5 years ago and attended support groups. They were wonderful. My work schedule is a little wonky at the moment, but if you would like someone to go with you, please reach out and we can try to arrange something.

I have not experienced this. I have heard from others that have had issues with their significant others not wanting them after the surgery. This most definitely requires an in-depth conversation with your spouse. If he was involved with someone else physically, his libido would have been higher. Since I have not experienced this, here is some advice from others who have experienced this or something similar in my support group: *Check yourself. This is not meant to be mean, but many people change with the surgery and don't notice. *Discuss. With being so focused on you and your healing and journey, there may have been a change in him you didn't notice either. *Be direct. State clearly what has changed, what you want and why (your libido has probably changed drastically with the weight loss). Ask him to be completly honest about what is going on so that you can come up with a solution together. *Rememeber that sex doesn't define a relationship. You will need to determine for yourself, once you talk to your spouse, what a good solution would be for the both of you (ie: couseling, scheduling physical time to get back into the groove with each other, a break from each other, divorce). I am very sorry to hear you are going through this and hope you are able to find a resolution that works for you both.

Do you have trouble with the lactose? Have you tried Fairlife milk? It is amazing. For some it takes a bit to get used to. I love it. It is ultra-filtered milk. No lactose. More Protein. Less sugar. More Calcium. I've used Lactaid as well, but I prefer Fairlife and buy a few of them at a time when they are on sale (a lot of fuel stations near me sell them in the smaller bottles as well).

Not all surgeons have the same program. My program after surgery was 2 weeks of liquids only, pureed consistency foods for the next 4 weeks, then on to a full diet. I just started the full diet yesterday and so far eat very little (about 1 ounce of lean meat, one string cheese stick). I still eat yogurt and make my protein shakes, but the amount of solid food I eat remains small. Most people have said it takes a while (sometimes many months) for the stomach to be ready to handle much more than that. I would definitely check with your surgeon and/or nutritionist.

I have tried every kind of sweetener out there. I prefer natural, primarily honey, but honey does not taste the best in everything. I love the Torani sugar-free syrups (they are made with sucralose - Splenda) in protein shakes and coffee. I use Truvia sometimes too. You will get different information from many sources. It comes down to your preference in taste.

I'm not embarassed by any of mine, but here are a couple: 1 - Sex is much easier (more closeness, less heavy breathing from being worn out); 2 - I don't have to dig my toes into the floor to provide leverage when I wipe my butt.