Everything posted by dhrguru
-
FMLA vent
My job mandates the use of sick time with fmla. Vacation time is optional.
-
FMLA vent
It's my understanding Fmla is if you need more time off after sick vacation pay is used? Many companies require you to run fmla and pto concurrently. It kind of protects the employer from someone who has lots of pto, runs it out THEN wants to use fmla. My job is one people can accumulate LOTS of pto, so we make people use fmla and pto concurrently.
-
Where to shop after you won't fit in plus size anymore?
Venturing into the non plus sized world had been overwhelming at times... I keep waiting for someone to point me over to plus sizes. I shop at the thrift store quiet a bit. My all time favorite is Macy's. I also like Burlington Coat Factory. I always hesitate with Kohl's, JC penny etc because I hated their plus size sections... I have to remind myself I'm not plus size any more. I do old navy for some pieces, but hate the quality of their tops. Eventually I'd like to venture into express, gap and Ann Taylor. H&M is not my cup of tea.
-
First Official 5k Run
I used c25k to get started, loved it. I'm now in love with running. I run about 3x a week now.
-
PosT-RNY: when does BP start to come down?
I couldn't come off medication until about 3 months post op. I had to monitor my pressure at home. Right after surgery I imagine pain, stress, etc kept it running high.
-
Taping?
I take measurements monthly, but haven't really tracked them all consistently.
-
Working out
For the activity you did that calorie burn still seems high. I don't have a polar though (have an Apple Watch)... And how does it determine calorie burns for weight lifting? I try not to eat back calories burned, mostly because it's nearly impossible to get an accurate count of what's burned. I just don't beat myself up if I go over my calories in a day. Weights watchers used to suggest eating back only 1/2 of what was burned.
-
New to the group
Welcome! You're off to a great start!
-
FMLA vent
I'm an HR Manager. Theoretically they could approve your fmla without the details....surgery is major, generally precipitated by a serious health condition. I would have approved provisionally until you submitted updated paperwork. They should have the details though, it will protect them in the long run though to show they are applying rules consistently.
-
Natural hair and hair loss
I've heard it can happen. I'm probably not the best person to comment since I I've had significant (permanent) hair loss pre-op. I'm 8 months post op RNY and don't feel I've lost any *more* hair though. i do think its a matter of chance-- some do, some won't. I'd avoid styles that pulls on the hair (braids, weaves). Some take Biotin. Some say it works, other says is just cause hair growth in undesirable places. I would avoid cutting the hair again until you see if there is loss or not.
-
Significant Other Support
Kudos to you for WANTING to be a support!!! Biggest gripe I have with my spouse is y weight loss is the "elephant in the room". He NEVER talk about it, comments, compliments etc. I don't want to seem self absorbed so I avoid initiating conversation with him. I have on two occasions when I couldn't contain excitement on milestones--- however, his response was lackluster. I think there are specific things she needs to be able to voice if she needs them from you (IE if she needs you to prepare your own meals while she gets a handle on what she can/can't eat). A vacation to Vegas post-op (which caused arguments with my husband who I thought was being insensitive) taught me a valuable lesson-- I am responsible for planning what i need nutrition wise for the rest of my life. I chose this surgery and can't blame anyone else for not getting what i need, i'm perfectly capable of getting those things myself, Her surgery can't become your burden. My thoughts: Celebrate her effort and success with her. Encourage her, and if you wish and she wants to, join her for exercise. Don't instruct her-- she's gotta figure out what works for her on her own. And respect the fact she may not want to share the details of her surgery with anyone-- its her story to tell-- not yours!
-
2016 Will Be the Year That…
Hmmm.. Can't say I've given this much thought. I'm 8 months post op RNY. My only hope for 2016 is to forge forward with the same zeal and enthusiasm as I did in 2015. I have mini goals set, but no specific timelines to meet them in. Fitness wise, I want to increase my workouts by 15 minutes. I'll continue doing the routine I've grown to love, but would like to add a warm weather activity. (Biking?) In life, I am working on exercising a bit more patience with my younger son. He wants instant gratification in everything he does, and it drives me crazy he won't listen when we say ' practice, keep at and you'll get there'. Also, still waiting with baited breath for my hubby to choose to work on his health.
-
My Kickstart Diet
I was on track through the holidays, meaning, I always did Protein forward, no alcohol and maintained my exercise routine. I did indulge in sweets that I baked, which I never do. Since the holidays are over, no more baking, so that won't be an issue. I also added back in a 4th meal for. the day. I had cut back to three thinking I didn't need the fourth (my hunger hasn't returned). Then I noticed I was filling that space with candy, so I went back to my protein friendly Snacks, better it be that them sugar calories.
-
band to revision in 3 wks
What are you revising to? With only 50-60 # to lose I'd encourage a sleeve over RNY, depending if your band didnt; leave to much damage behind. No you won't be able to drink 96oz daily straight out of surgery-- but eventually you will be able to. You build up to it. Be aware of the risk of complications so you'll know what to look for.
-
Ridges in nails
Are you male or female? If female-- do you get gel manicures? Gel manicures are notorious for destroying nails...
-
3 years 200 pounds and 2 babies
Wow- you lost an amazing amount of weight- and two babies/// wins all around! Hi and welcome! I've heard of the 5 day pouch test-- I think any concentrated effort to get back to the basics is worth the time, even if it doesn't yield in weight loss after 5 days. The weight loss will come, building those habits is the harder part. Do you still follow up with your surgeon or nutritionist?
-
12-Month Progress Pictures
Fantastic job!!!
-
TMI?
Now that's a gift he'll remember and beg for again!
-
NSV - Shopping at a Regular Store
You know what I'm finding-- the clearances deals in the plus size section are far better then the clearances deals in the 'regular' section. Maybe stores try to rid themselves of that stuff faster??
-
Gastric bypass revision. Am I the only one?
It'd be helpful if you outlined what type of revision are you having, along with what tests were run that concluded that you needed a revision? And how has your diet been? Did you main a Protein forward diet, not drink with meals, etc?
-
When you gotta go...
A long time ago I read that white, black or red poop is a problem. Did you have a leak test or have to swallow barium? Broil turned my poop whitish... If not Id call about it
-
NSV goal for an article of clothing?
Yup. I've been shopping a lot in thrift stores, stuff is so cheap I don't bother trying anything on. I currently have 1 pair of jeans and three pairs of dress pants waiting to fit me. My prize 'waiting to fit me' possession at the moment is a dress I bought at Macy's for the spring, it's a size 14, and while I was able to fit it, it will look better by the time spring rolls around. It was $13, down from $89. I write down the date I tried them on last with my weight for that day and tuck it in a pocket of the item, I like seeing how long it took to fit something.
-
Sleeve to bypass revision due to stricture
I don't understand the logic here. Stricture is making you sick, can't eat, drink, have pain. He says because the stricture makes the sleeve like a pouch, you should go to bypass?? So he wants to permanently make it into a pouch; knowing that the stricture imposed pouch-like design is causing you issues? Strictures happen with bypass patients too.
-
Mentor/Sleeve Buddy in the Philadelphia Area?
Damn, sorry you got off to such a rough start. I hope things going forward are status quo.
-
Mentor/Sleeve Buddy in the Philadelphia Area?
@@tdc I think you had your surgery by now, right? How are you doing?