superbariatricbabe

I'm self-employed so I'm not totally qualified to answer this question. But I think a lot of it depends on your priorities - there's nothing wrong with putting yourself first - You are the only one who can do this for yourself. But there's also nothing wrong with putting it off til December if you think that your work is important and you feel that's the way to go. So... go with your gut. What would you be proud to tell your mom you did? Taking the high road and doing you think is right is worth it in the long run. sorry - I hope that didn't come across as preachy. I once worked for some really unethical sh*theads (shockingly morally bankrupt individuals), so work-place ethics are a passion of mine.

Great thread! Thank you Veterans for your insight!

I'm actually pretty thrilled for an October recovery time. Going for walks when it's cool outside and the leaves are changing to their fall colors sounds like a pretty perfect day. Infinitely preferable to a sweaty hot & humid summer recovery. Plus it's just in time to keep us away from all those tempting Halloween & Thanksgiving goodies.

You can do it. You are very brave and must just be bursting with hope and excitement to be going through with this surgery. Remember how brave you really are when temptation strikes I quit smoking a couple months ago and it was agony. But every time I'm tempted (And ohhh boy it can be tempting), I remind myself that smoking will interfere with my healing after the surgery and increase the likelihood of complications. After reading all the complications and horror stories on these boards, that is enough to keep me from lighting up.

Nope, I'm doing it at a local hospital that has a good reputation in central virginia. Are you in NoVa?

Hi ya'll! Greetings from sunny Virginia. October is just two months away and I'm so excited! My surgery is scheduled for October 6th, and I'm just freaking out with excitement, terror, and hope. Can't wait to hear from other October RNY-ers. Age: 29 (only 22 days til I'm 30!) Starting Weight: 315lbs Goal: 145lbs

Central VA over here!

Wishing you an easy and uncomplicated surgery! Remember: You are your own superhero today.

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Quit smoking on the day that the surgeon said he wouldn't operate on anyone who uses nicotine products. I gained 8-10 lbs when I quit. >_< I've had a few moments of weakness, but overall I'm staying strong. it's rough. I loved smoking. But now I love breathing easier.

omg same here Tootles! I was expecting... well I don't know what i was expecting, but something more 'doctory' than a conversation. I had my first consult earlier this week, and it was basically a chit chat... We just talked about goals, he agreed that the bypass was the right choice for me, and cautioned that it's not just a quick fix. He doesn't even want me to do a pre-op diet - he said it's only for patients over 350lbs. I weigh 310 right now (gained 8 lbs when i quit smoking last month!) But I kind of want to do it anyway if it will make the surgery safer. (I am f***** terrified of complications and surgery itself.) But in the next 8 weeks, I need to get a physical, some blood work, cleared by therapist, and then see a dietitian twice. Easy peasy lemon squeezey. What is your pre-op diet regimen?

Yikes! Was that your first meeting with him? That sounds pretty terrible. I'm sorry!

Preface: this is not meant as an accusation or judgement about you personally. These are issues I have struggled with, and I totally understand how you feel about your psych doctors. Sometimes they can seem pretty unsympathetic. That said, I feel like its unlikely that people like us can reach our degree without mental or emotional problems. It's simple unreasonable for me to claim that my weight and my mental health are not related. Your stomach does not have arms to feed itself, your stomach does not have lips and teeth to chew, your stomach doesn't have a Visa card to buy groceries. You as a whole person do those things, so your doctors want to make sure that your whole person, mind included, are invested in making these changes. (Even if your weight has a medical cause (thyroid etc) there is an immense mental toll. Although in that case it's more effect than cause, it still usually requires therapy.) becoming mentally/emotionally healthy is a huge part of this journey- it's not enough to fix your body, you need to consider your mind as well. Depression is not as simple as feeling sad. You may feel unmotivated, lonely, lethargic, tired, and a myriad of other things. Depression can be so isolating, it feels like no one is there with you. Even when someone is literally listening to your problems it can feel like they will never understand. Being told by a doctor that you have depression seems really awful at first. If you really believe they are wrong, seek a second opinion. If even a tiny piece of you thinks that it might be true, then addressing that might be the key to a successful weight loss journey! And that is GREAT news! Because some of us never get that lucky. 3 True Things 1. You are not alone - we're all struggling with doctors and mental health. We're here for you, and we understand. 2. Doctors aren't perfect and sometimes they are wrong. If you really don't think there is any tiny smidgen of a chance that this diagnosis is true, go see someone else. 3. Therapy doesn't hurt as much as surgery. But they work pretty well together.

Coming at this question from another angle: sugar is mega addictive and toxic- reducing our sugar intake is one of the most important parts of the process- and one of the reasons successful WLS patients stay successful long term. I'm pre-op but I've decided to give up sugar before the surgery to make the transition easier. it's only been 48 hours and I feel like I have the flu. Nausea, diarrhea, vomiting, and pounding headaches. Sugar withdrawal is super real. Replacing sugar with artificial sweeteners is a personal choice. I'm wary of chemicals, (ironic since processed sugar is basically an awful chemical) so I'm using a little bit of low-glycemic but not calorie free alternatives like agave and fresh unprocessed stevia for my morning coffee.

You are your own superhero! Wishing you the best tomorrow.

So I love reading WLS (specifically RNY) blogs during my downtime at work, but I'm looking for some new quality sites! Anyone have WLS blog recommedations? - If you want to post your own that's cool too! Here's mine: Super Bariatric Babe Summary: Pre-op, 300lbs, I have a tendency to get pretty personal. All part of my attempts to figure this whole thing out.

Oh gosh I'm sorry they made you feel like that. You are right; I think it's just as hurtful to be ignored as it is to get negative attention. But to answer your question:Why would people ignore someone until they become socially acceptable? People can f****ing suck sometimes.

I'm so sorry! That's awful. :/ Therapy can be rough but it's worth a shot. It's better than suffering alone and numbing your feelings with food. I hope!

Yikes. Apparently I'm alone in this. :/ Is this a bad question?

Uhhh. It sounds like neither your surgeon nor your nutritionist are giving you the right information. A nutritionist should know that your stomach doesn't absorb nutrients. A surgeon should know that WLS is not a 3 week decision. I'd consider talking to my primary physician for an informed opinion. See what he or she recommends doing.

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Have you said something to him? Ideally he would be considerate and try to anticipate your household needs, but sometimes people can be a little clueless. My husband is sweet and an equal partner when it comes to doing things around the house, but sometimes he doesn't *see* that things need to be done. I've literally seen him walk by chores totally clueless, but if I mention it he seems happy to do it.

Ride a bike without feeling like a circus act. Walk my dog more than a couple blocks Wear necklaces without worrying about my neck fat Run on a treadmill without my butt hurting (you know when it bounces so hard that it hurts?) Not feel like a total failure when I run into people I went to high school/college with No more thigh chafe Having cheekbones Being able to garden without destroying my knees See my lady parts (TMI?) and MOST OF ALL... Better sex

Ladykatie, I shared your worries! I started therapy about two months ago and it is rough. I've actually gained weight since we're digging around in some traumatic stuff, which has triggered even more emotional eating than ever. I'm a mess, filled with shame and all kinds of nasty bubbling stuff. But I think it's worth it. I keep going back for more. Because I want to be prepared for my surgery, and I want to have tools to use when I suddenly can't turn to food to anesthetize my feelings.