DevilMayKare

Well Lisa, I HOPE your LBT compulsion will stop you from sticking to that! You know we would all miss you terribly. Yep, you're pretty shocking sometimes--but never, NEVER have I been bored by a word out of your fingers! LBT w/o DeLarla would be like unsalted butter.

I can't even tell you how disturbing I find that there is not only a NAME for that -- but an ACRONYM!! It's been a loooooooong time since any man's been with me naked--& here I was only worrying about my squishy belly and sagging boobs! Little did I know. :omg:

I was thinking how sad it must be for someone like Star Jones because she has to keep her personal life secret & she can't come share her band & emotional conerns someplace like LBT. And then I realized since we're all incognito she could actually be a registered user and we'd never know it! Just imagine if Star was one of the board members posting and reading this thread. It could happen. Hey Star.... ya out there????????

Thanks Bandayed (& everyone). The waterline break was really a mess--but in a way it made this bday more memorable. The new driveway (interlocking pavers that have a cobblestone look) look REALLY nice--but of course now the house looks like shit. Wasn't really planning on having to paint this year. It's always something! This $6,000 job turned into an $8,000 job. There goes my buttlift!!

1760 calories! Oy vey... it must be nice to be a guy. My exercise would have to include climbing Mt Whitney to lose weight on that!

Wow--another lovely Aquarian! You and Crystal have the same birthday?! The stars must REALLY been shine on February 19! Have a GREAT DAY and watchout for the cake!

Happy Birthday Beautiful Lady! Your wisdom increases more & more with every passing year. We are thankful for and Celebrate this day of your white light arriving on the planet. You make it a better world. :clap2:

Oh gosh... those threads are just in fun. I think they are clearly marked by their titles & easy enough for someone to avoid. If someone doesn't want to come here because they can't stop themselves from clicking on an XXX subject then my first impression is that they are going to be waaay too sensitive for some of the other threads also. Religion, sex, politics, whatever... it's a live and let live sort of issue to me and I love it here where all have a right to express their views without censorship. If some people don't want to come hang out--there seem to be plenty who DO. I would imagine some people (like Alex) might get more than a few PMs about a restricted separate area. And actually, I think it would probably fail because most of us would probably not use it or just ignore it. Just my opinion.

Probably too much acid in the soil. Does she use a mulch w/ coffee grounds in it? That's how I keep my hydrangeas blue. ('scuze the hijack, just couldn't resist sharing a bit of gardening lore.)

SMOKE IT??! OMG! Don't do that! A combination of the munchies and PBing while stoned could be a baaaaad trip!

He's 22, has a baby and lives with his aunt... thinking isn't big on the list here.

Big whoop--it's only February.

I totally agree with that. Marriage--and life is so interesting. The older I get the more sides of issues it I see. There are so many decisions to be made in life and we usually try so hard to make the "right" one. Even in hindsight it's often hard to tell what's right because hindsight changes all the time. I love living in an age of indoor plumbing, travel and such a variety of EVERYTHING all around us. That being said, sometimes I wish there WEREN'T so many choices. And that goes from cold medicine to men. BUt before I get off track here... as far as marriage, I'm really struck by the one my parents have. They've been together for 55 years now and there was about a decade in the middle of that I thought they'd break up. My dad was just a real ass to my mom for some years in midlife when (I think) he wanted to be with someone younger and sexier (his older bro had just remarried that). TIme passed (the brother's young wife left him) &, once again, my dad seemed to realize how good he had it with my mom and started appreciating her. Now they are old together and read each other's thoughts. I think it's too late & I'm too set in my ways to have a LIFE PARTNER like that, but I can sure see the beauty of it. Sorry, I'm rambling... but my point (kinda) was that 10 years of living with someone being crummy is a loooooong time when you're in those years, but in the scheme of things... not so much. Anyway, life changes and whatever decisions you make...

Well, as long as you get all of the part that counts... Jeeze Lisa--what the heck've you done to us?!!

Notice how much more interested we all are in dicks than vaginas?

I heard that's a bad thing. They say men w/ big dicks often are unfaithful because they always want to show them to everybody. So next time you can say, "So who ya been showing it to??" Just a theory. We could take a poll.

Oh Vera, what a terrible thing! I can do no more than add my condolences and emotional hugs to all the others. So, so sorry... ((((HUG)))

So will wasting decades of your life in a marriage that is sapping the life out of you. IMO it's much better to escape before you have children. I was married 17 years & should have left at 10. I think it's safe to say that everyone has strong feelings on the subject. Loopy, there are many ways to go on this path. NO ONE can tell you what is the "right" thing for you to do here. We can be here to offer support and many shoulders to cry on. Many of us have been thru it and survived. You can too.

Sorry if I came on strong DiDi. I guess I still have a lot of energy on the pain I went thru in my marriage. I really did try sooo hard for so long. When someone finally explained to me what was going on (it wasn't all in my head) it was a revelation. My family is all pretty aggressive/aggresive so I just did not know the power of passivity. Anyway, that may not be what is going on with your husband at all. I just had such a strong reaction to your post that I responded with my gut emotion. Also, we shared our 50th birthday week and I've got some pretty negative energy on that too! I'm so relieved it's over. Do you feel that way as well?

Dawg, you write clearly and well. I would never be so foolish as to try to make such an obviously intelligent person look dumb. I honestly was ribbing you--everytime. I apologise. I won't do it again.

Gosh, you would DO that for ME??? That would be sooo helpful. Thanks! (Oh, while you're at it, will ya grab those typos & redline the grammar for me? I've noticed a real dive in my composition proficiency lately.)

Well, that explains a lot...especially the spelling thing. Serioulsy, I've been reading a lot of Bryce Courtenay lately (a WONDERFUL Austrailian writer) and there are a few spellings used regularly that kinda throw me (like "practise"). Yeah, got that. (lol) And whatever thread it was where you posted that my post was silly... you were absolutely right.

I don't care what you say Dawg, I just find it judgmental. "judg·men·tal ( j¾j-mµn"tl) adj. 1. Of, relating to, or dependent on judgment: a judgmental error. 2. Inclined to make judgments, especially moral or personal ones: a marriage counselor who tries not to be judgmental... or nonjudgmental, like an online forum that likes to use alternative spelling of words. judg·men "tal·ly adv." American Heritage Dictionary

How can I say that Susan? Because I believe it. You don't know how much I WISH someone had said it to me early on. It is OF COURSE just my opinion. (Do we really have to go thru all those disclaimers again?) No, I don't know what goes on in her relationship, but I have enough experience with that particular dynamic to recognize it when I see it. And could I be wrong? Without a doubt, but that behavior sure as heck warrants a serious discussion. The problem w/ PA behavior is the person being subjected to it so often thinks THEY are IMAGINING things. It's really hard to stand up to something so aggressively hidden. I am sorry but if someone doesn't even make you coffee (when they usually do) on your 50th birthday they are sending a message loud and clear. Words are often just a bunch of talk over what is truly being communicated. Gasp away. I'm entitled to my opinion as much as the next person. I did NOT say it to hurt her--I said it to EMPOWER her!

Well, that does not sound like insensitivity or "without a clue" behavior (often seen in both sexes) but like pure PASSIVE AGGRESSION. It's really a tough one to put your finger on or call someone on, but it IS real and for whatever reasons (resentment?) he DID want to hurt you. I was married to an extreme Passive Aggressive personality for 17 years and it wasn't until I left him that I finally understood the aggressive portion of that. I have no real advice for you. Just want to tell you that you are not out of your mind, and you are not imagining things. A psychologist told me it is without a doubt the most difficult type of personality to deal with. It really helped me with the GUILT I felt getting a divorce to know it wasn't so much that I was a failure as that I had signed up for an impossible task. There are some things communication can overcome and there are times to cut your losses. No matter how longing and lonely I may be at times I have NEVER been as lonely alone as I was in that marriage.