I am still waiting for the insurance company to approve my surgery but I understand what you are going through. My husband who is very supportive on whatever I decide to do, told my mom that I had a referral to see a bariatric surgeon. He did not know I did not tell her, so she went off. She said there are to many things that can go wrong and so on and so on. I have not told her that I am following through and getting banded. I want to but I do not want to hear the negative stuff that she will say. My friends are very supportive though and I am thankful for that. I have only told one of my brothers and his wife and thats it. I am at a cross to tell the rest of my family or not. I do not want the negative that you have received. Also I have not started my pre-op diet so I cannot answer you question on that. Good Luck!