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Yup, my ex-fiance was a fitness fiend. I remember asking him to help me work out and lose weight, so he had me drink two gallons of Water in about an hour (my stomach hurt so bad and my privates hurt from peeing so much), had me running up and down bleachers in the rain and he told me that unless you throw up after a work out you haven't pushed yourself hard enough. He exercised 3 times a day (he was in ROTC in college when we met, then full time, active duty after we graduated) and even though he ate fast food like most college students, his high level of activity kept the pounds off. He was always a naturally skinny guy, so when he worked out, he would just get super muscular. The entire time we were together he had six pack abs. I always felt fat and ugly with him. Like you, i slowly gained weight over time (was about 160lbs when we met, and closer to 190lbs when i called off our wedding). A lot of our issues stemmed from my insecurity. I got jealous easily, i didnt want to go out with his friends because i was embarrassed of my weight. I actually hid one time in a store where his friend worked because i didn't want him to see what i perceived as a big, gross, fat body. Unfortunately my ex didnt do much to make me feel better. Hs thing was "stop eating so much and exercise". He ridiculed me for being self conscious, never told me i was beautiful, and i used to get really hurt because he'd call people fat who were smaller than me (at the time Kelly Osbourne had just begun to lose weight and was smaller than me and i recall him laughing and saying she was still a fatty). I used to feel so bad because he loved to jog, so he and one of his female coworkers would go jogging just the two of them through the mountains. I hated it and i felt uncomfortable because that seemed kinda romantic to me. His thing was "well, learn to jog or get over it. If i want to jog alone with another female that's what i'm gonna do" I'm glad he is my ex. I hope your husband isn't like that. Even if he does not struggle with weight and emotional eating, he should be supporting you through this journey. My current husband truly gets it and without him it would've been a lot harder. As long as your husband isn't belittling you or feeding your insecurities, you've got a good thing. In fact, this is kind of exciting because now you all can bond on another level...getting and maintaining health. My current hub y is overweight too, but seeing me lose and change my habits has motivated him. We get excited now to eat at home and try healthy, alternative meals. Like last night i made double bake cauliflower which tastes almost exactly like a cheesy, baked potato and he was floored at how yummy it was with way less calories and fat. He also sneaks veggies into foods that we both like (puree) and tries to get me to guess how he's made the recipe healthier. It's a lot of fun.

I'm glad your surgery went do well! It sounds like everything i went through, except the part about pain medication. The medicine didn't bother me, but i did have terrible spasms in my chest for the first two weeks. Even the tinest sip of water (i'm talking using 4 swalllows to finish a medicine cup) would cause this pain that felt like gas to rise up and spread in my chest. It'd sit there for 30 seconds to 1 minute then disssapear. Eating and drinking became very difficult. Thankfully for me, the cause was the newness of my sleeve and it has since worn off. I only get that pain if i take too big a bite of food or eat something that diesn't agree with my sleeve (like a greasy, loose meat hamburger from Coney Island. NEVER AGAIN. it hurt a lot even though i didnt eat the bread)

thanks for sharing how you can tell that you're losing weight. i guess i was looking for some NSV and other cues because people keep asking me ''don't you see you're smaller? don't you feel smaller?'' and so forth. but i honestly don't. it's only when i put on my clothes. that made a lot of sense about my shape being the same. no wonder i look the same(derp!). i really hope my love handles melt away so i'll have a waist again.

When you find the name of someone you like click their picture. It takes you to their profile. Then look ob the right whete you'll see "add me as a friend"

Cute! I love it.

The exact same thing happened to me last month. I was not allowed to wear a tampon. They gave me a pair of disposible underwear and a weird pad that didnt stick ti my underwear that i kept on during surgery. The nurse said it was best i wear those panties because if i wore my own there was a good chance they might cut them off during surgery. It wasnt bad at all because the procedure was so short. In my hospital room room i put on a tegular pad once i could move around better. It's actually very common fir women to have periods right before surgery. I think it's th e stress or something that makes our hormones go haywire. I also heard that many women start their periods right after surgery.

i guess it depends on the people you work with. I've been working the same team for 4 years and no one has said anything to me about eating less. i don't think they care. If they did say something i'd just say the truth ''I'm trying to eat healthier so I can lose some weight and be healthier''. I thought everyone was going to notice and be whispering that I must've had WLS, but again, people just don't dig that deep. I guess they have their own stuff to deal with. I've gone from 243 ro 213lbs in about 2 months so people have been commenting that i'm losing, but that's all. Personally I don't believe in telling people about WLS b/c I don't want their opinions b/c I'm the type where I can get 10 compliments, but I'll obsess over the 1 criticsm.

Hey guys, I'm curious how are you able to tell you're losing weight? Do you go by the scale? How your clothes feel? What other people say? Looking at old photos of yourself? I've lost almost 30lbs since I first started my journey and even though other people are starting to notice and mention to me that I'm looking smaller/losing weight, when I look at myself I look the same. I can only tell I've lost weight when I put on clothes. Like I've had this XL, form fitting blue shirt for years that even at my heaviest (245lbs) I was able to get into. I tried it on yesterday and noticed that the arm holes and the part that goes across the chest aren't tight anymore. I also notice my rings don't fit anymore. I always wear my wedding set and a birth stone ring my dad gave me. The birth stone ring used to fit only my ring finger, now I can wear it on my middle finger (and it's still loose). My wedding set refuses to stay pointing at the ceiling. As I type this, it's slowly spinning itself so it's between the skin of my pinky and ring finger, until finally it's pointing toward the floor. Once I hit 200lbs, I'm getting it resized. My work pants don't fit either and all my XL yoga/stretch pants are now loose and keep trying to make a break for my ankles even when I pull the string tight. GOOD PROBLEMS!!! Funny thing is when I look at myself naked, everything looks the same. I still have a pouch of fat under my navel. My boobs are heavy and huge. Still got an ample behind. Thighs are still touching. My face is round with a stubborn double chin. But I'm LOSING! That's what matters.

That's so awesome! I'm right there with you. I'm not a mirror hog, but I've been putting much more time and effort into my appearance even at work (and I'm surrounded by 6 year olds there). So glad you posted about leather jackets! I've never been a leather jacket wearer (not that I don't like them, I just never think to buy) but my grandfather passed recently and my grandmother said he'd have wanted me to have his beloved black leather jacket. I've started wearing it and felt a little self conscious like, "are leather jackets in? is this cool?" But now that I hear you're wearing one, I'm feeling more confident.

Weight as of 1/17/2014: 213lbs (last week's weight was inaccurate because I was at my grandparents for a funeral house and I used their scale. The day I left, it said I was 210lbs. I got home a few hours later and when I weighed on my home scale, I was 217lbs).

Thank you for the condolences and advice. I'm trying really hard to keep up the good eating habits, but when I get highly stressed, it's harder. I've made an appointment to start receiving counseling because this has been such a big change in my life and even though you guys are awesome, I want someone to talk to in person that can get to know me and my personal situation(s).

I was losing weight like crazy. Then my grandfather died, so I had to leave home last Tuesday and travel across country for the funeral. While I did puree most of my foods, I allowed stress to get the better of me and ate some things I shouldn't have(ie: i had 2 Cookies, every meal was eaten out and not prepped at home, people brought oodles and oodles of food to the house, walking was difficult due to 3 feet of snow outside). I weighed myself several times at grandparents house and the scale said 211, so I thought I was fine. (they have those old fashioned scales,not the digital one that I have at my house) When I came home my weight Saturday night, I had gone from 213 to 217. I freaked and went back to counting calories, eating small meals, etc. By Tuesday my weight had dropped to 214.5 which is great, but freaking me out because it hasn't budged from 214.5 since then. It says 214.5 it in the evening, in the morning, before and after I pee. Is this the infamous stall hitting me? Is it PMS? (my last period was Dec 23...the day of my surgery). I want to go back to losing weight. I'm so scared I've ''broken'' my weight loss

WOOT WOOT! That's awesome! Pretty soon you'll be posting you're in the 70s, then 50s then 20s. Keep up the great work!

#1. Not having to wear shorts under my skirts! My thighs rub together something fierce so even on the hottest summer days i have on some kind of spandex shorts underneathe. it's so annoying b/c if the dress is close fitting you can totally see the shorts. Plus it's so hot and uncomfortable. I need some air up there (lol)

my anxiety seems to be increasing which has made my pica a lot worse. i am looking forward to finding a good therapist to talk to so I can get my mind right.

210lbs as of 1/10/2013

I've been on soft foods for two days but found even when i was on the full liquids diet i hardly ever use the bathroom. I used to poop 2 - 3 times a day. Now i go once every 3 - 4 days. The same thing happens when i pee. I used to wake up in the morning bursting. Now it feels like the slightest bit of pressure to the point i've often laid in bed an hour or so reading/enjoying bed before getting up to pee. In the past i couldn't do that because I would wake up and need to relieve myself right away or it would start to hurt. Before surgery i never drank plain Water because it'd go right through me and i'd have to pee within 20 minutes. Now i drink 17oz of water and wait an hour and don't have to pee. I probably urinate 3 times a day when i used to go 6 - 10 times a day. I am only drinking water at this point. No more sodas, coffee, juice, or Powerade. Occassionally i drink Crystal Light but i really just like water best. My pee isn't clear, but it's light yellow. I think that means I'm not dehydrated, or does the infrequent urination mean i am? What's going on?

I'm a married woman but i gotta say you are a cutie! Glasses suit you. Keep up the great work :-)

That's wonderful! Sleep apnea is the worse. You dont even realize how sleep deprived you are until you finally get a good night's rest. I've never heard of a band causing it, but i am a sleever, so i'm by no means an expert. i'm just glad it was able to be corrected. My bff has a band, and she has never complained of it causing her sleep apnea or anything issues with sleeping. I'm not sure how it could to be honest. My husband has severe obstructive and I have mild, so i understand your pain. well, regardless of what caused it, i'm glad you're doing better!

When i met my husband i was almost wearing a size 14 and he completely fell for me. While we were dating i gained about 35lbs and was wearing a tight sz 20 at my heaviest. Now i'm almost in a sz 14 again. I feel like his interest in me has remained the same. He loves my curves, but at the same time he wants me to be healthy and happy. Plus even when i was thinner, i always had decent sized boobs and an ample behind. So unless i lost a disgusting amount of weight and got down to like 100lbs or less, my big boobs and ample behind are here to stay.Sure, they'll be smaller, but so will the rest of me, so it's not like i'll go from a curly fry to a shoe string. When i was 150lbs i wore a C cup and had thick thighs and a nice perky backside. I think it'll be the same for you. If you have generous curves now, you'll still have them when you are smaller and really it's the curves most men love. My husband loves to put his hands on my shrinking midsection that is starting to go in and become a waist again and is like "whooo, look at you! Mmm, mmm, MMM!" He also grabs/smacks my backside (playfully) and seems to enjoy as much as when it was an almost 14 as when it was a 20 going on size 22.

i hated plain water prior to surgery b/c it always made me have to pee right after. now i can't get enough. i can finish about 8oz in 30 mins if i go slowly.

I think this is exactly why our (well-meaning) friends and family members often think we look unhealthy with weight loss...they've gotten so used to seeing us heavy that it's become our new "normal" and seeing us getting smaller is a bit jarring, especially since it becomes so rapid. I remember when I was at my heaviest (i'm 5'6 and was 245lbs) I mentioned to my mom that I wanted to lose 100lbs. Immediately my mom started in about how unhealthy that was and that if I lost that much weight I'd look anorexic/sickly, put myself in the hospital and possibly die. Now my mom's a smart, logical woman, but that makes no sense. If I had lost 100lbs, that means I'd have been 5'6, 145lbs. That is by no means sickly. I think it just seemed like such a big number to her because she was thinking of me at 245lbs as my "normal" weight, so 100lbs off a "normal" weight is scary. But it's like, "Dude, I'm morbidly obese. 100lbs off would bring me back to normal." Plus, my senior year of high school I weighed 150lbs and I didn't look sickly at all. Back then that was my normal. But I gained weight gradually over the years and I think Mom and most people have forgotten that yes, I used to have visible collar bones, thin wrists and my waist went in.

I think it's very brave for you to come on here and admit your mistake. It's even better that you have put a plan in place to correct it. Like i always tell my students " anyone can make a mistake and confess it, but it takes a truly special person to confess and correct it". Keep going and if there're any questions or tips or aditional support you need from us, the bp community is here for you. It mig help to join an offline support group or to have a walking buddy. I'm in the process of trying to find both.

Howdy and welcome! I'm happy to hear you're already working to improve your relationship with food and breaking bad habits. :-) I took off two weeks after my surgery to recover. I work a rather physical job tootoo (i teach 1st grade in a 3 story bldg) so there's a lot of walking to the copy room, library, playground, cafeteria, etc. The pain hasn't been bad at all, iI just felt weak/tired and needed time to get my energy up and work on getting all my Protein in and just getting used to all my physical changes.

I think mixing it with almond milk would be fine. The little card that came with mine recommended using milk with some of the recipes. I would email Dr. Ortiz because some doctors check their email over the weekend. Also if he is connected to a hospital they may have an answering service that will connect you to an on call doctor.