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I was thinking the same bout the Dr. I hate calling them ugh. Its normal to swell up like a marshnellow either. . So

Ok I feel so stupid what's defensive driving online? LoL I read that three times and still did the monkey head scratch. When I lost down to ny smallest I actually developed a pressure ulcer on my behind from driving. I had no clue what it was til I went to the Dr. O.o

U know I use to hate cooking bc my feet hurt to stand when I was obese. Now that I can I've turned into a Paula Deen lol. Pinterest is my haven. I go there and try stuff constantly. My kids don't realize how often they eat tofu (they think its a jiggly cheese lol) however becareful with tofu and ur boyfriend husband or whatever bc I can't remember what my nut said but it can kill testosterone or something like that in men and if u plan on kids that may affect. I can't remember what it did but u can Google it. I love to cook so much now and its theraputic to me. I laugh bc ny exs never got to eat like my bf does lol.

Oh gosh. Yeah been there. All I can say girl is u keep pushing and yelling something isn't right. Dont take no for an answer. Its hard to deal with incompetence and we run into this sorts thing constantly. Tomorrow call around and tell ur story and see if that gets u anywhere. I know it took me driving two hours to finally get help. I hope and pray u don't. I know how aggravated u feel bc I feel it frequently. My insurance wouldn't pay for migrane medicine and I asked how much out of pocket and I couldn't afford it. I sat crying on the phone begging them to over ride and get the medicine they told me no flat out. So that night I had to suffer with a migrane so bad I was vomiting which made it hurt a billion times worse. I know its insignificant but ur not alone in this and I'm here for u. Don't get discouraged the Lord wouldn't let u come this far just to stall. We will figure out something. Ok??

Were u diabetic before?? See I was starting to have problems w my feet before surgery. Like I worked 19hourd and didn't realize I had rubbed a blister so bad on ny toe it resembled a 3rd degree burn. A lot of drs doesn't understand bariatric surgery. I still have to remind no nsaids etc. and then I still get a look with a well why not? SMH! O the joy of explaining mal absorption and medication that one is always fun too. U may wanna ask to be referred to a neurologist that also specializes in pain management. They may be able to do something there for the nerve damage or at least make the pain bearable.

Over the past month I have had times where my feet and hands will swell up so huge they feel like their gonna bust. Im not a salt eater so Idk why I'm retaining like this have any of u all experienced it and were u able to fix it w medication?? [ATTACH]3159[/ATTACH] Its sudden and I can't figure out why.

I'm five yrs out n May. I have never had the numb extremities before but I do stay cold. I shiver constantly and I am almost always lethargic. I never miss a dose in Vitamins or b12 and I'm still tired. I was staying very anemic which can contribute to being tired but they sent me to a oncologist and I did a full day of Iron transfusions. So far my levels has stayed above 10. I don't know what to tell you on how to go about getting help bc I can barely get help myself. Doctors look at us as if we're idiots and we are treated like we are less than a human bc we chose to ha e bariatric surgery. Its very depressing not being able to get help or to even have support behind you when your sick everybody just assumes all we do is sit around and whine. I always say I wish my body had a meter that would show my pain illness etc bc then and only then would ppl start treating us with respect and a tad bit of empathy. I wish I knew what to tell you to do to get help but I just don't know and that breaks my heart for ya. So all I can really offer is support and to let u know in here if u need to chat. ((Hugs))

Shyanne I feel the same way. I look at it like I had to go through all of that to be where I am today and where I am today includes so much more than just weightloss. It includes an amazing partner who gave me an amazing family to rely on since I had lost mine and I look back often and say I went through that hell but the Lord rewarded me greatly in the end. My surgery and everyones changes more than their weight I say it changes their life and that's why I always say the Kelly that got on that table in May died and a new one woke up and to that I thank God for that. There's a song by Mary J Blige called stronger and one lyric says : I'm stronger, stronger, stronger Sometimes I can't believe That you are with me There's nobody lucky as me So I get on my knees To make sure that He Knows that I'm grateful For what He gave me I will survive I will survive As long as it's you by my side We've been through the storm We've been through it all We had some close calls But never would fall We climbed all the mountains Walked through all the valleys And you never left me behind I found my way through the clouds No more runnin' scared and closing my eyes, oh I will be true, this love from my heart I'm laying my life on the line Oh, I will survive Thought somebody could relate to that song also. Its kinda my anthem

Becareful with oils bc if u lost ur gallbladder u can get the runs and that ain't fun.. I have a recipe for baked fried chicken and it tastes just like its been fried..if u wanna try it.

My brains fartin... Let me think back and see what I can search down recipe wise from my files. Can u let me know what u like and can tolerate??

Now with that said lets move the hell on and be nosey about what's for dinner tonight!! LoL Lotsa love to all yall. And naw for real what we eatin I'm hungry. . . <3

Idk. I didn't even know they had one out. Next grocery trip I will try to scope one out and see. Basically bout all ya can do is SIP and wait. If ya feel sick u got ur answer lol.

LoL!!! We all do and funny story my bf who is a Marine has this issue now also. I put him on my diet and I control his portions from June last year til now he went from 230-192. He's on that thing constantly. I don't weigh myself bc typically my clothes tell me. Its hard not to get addicted to it. From a 20--> a 10 wOw!!! Girl its kini season and prob time to hit Plato's closet if u have one. Congrats u gonna be smoking for beach season!!

Ok. Well that's a start. If you need help u holler at me anytime day or night!

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No one is shoving anything down your throat its online u have the choice to read or you have the choice to ignore. So why not ignore and just stay with all the non complicated perfect ones? Nobody stands over yal yelling read my story so even make such a problem about a issue that is so easily solved. :-/ And if you experience a problem just know we are all here to listen to you and try to help. Period.

I've had the same thing. Endo was bad and the cysts were terrible. I had to go through infertility treatments to get my girls. I had a lot of mc also which hurt me a lot. After my son I had my tubes tied. That seems to have caused my cycles to get heavier! I've never had them like now. Until I can get approved for that I'm ok dealing with it. Its just weird going all those years w a cycle maybe three times a year to now.

Gosh. I hope u get better! Glad it wasn't a clot.. shew

How do u know that by us giving a snippet in our replies that somebody despirate to find out why this or that's hurting isn't going to change and improve their life bc they did a random search on Google and up comes one of our threads? Honestly u can be as informed as much as possible but until you experience u really have no idea all you know is facts and honestly that doesn't compare to living it. Out of all the research I did I never read about volvulus, Hernias, spasms, unknow diarrhea, new sensitivities etc. I read on the prior forum how wonderful life changing and happy they all were. . .then here I sat thinking oh my god I'm the only person with this so I wouldn't even talk about it. My family really didn't understand nor did my friends. I don't think its right yall think we need to censor our posts bc you don't like to read repeats. Well I'm sorry if that's how it is but I have no family and all my friends are states away. So yeah I may repeat myself and annoy the hell out of you with my bad days but know that when your posting about the positives and progress the ones sick are behind yall supporting you and encouraging we deserve the same no matter if we do repeat ourselves a billion times we all cope differently and I for one am one of those habitual repeaters but look at my situation. My mother is dead, my biological father left me at 9mos I have no bros sisters aunts uncles. I'm disabled I spend my life inside the house day in and day out talking to a weiner dog. My bf just said yesterday how much more happier I seem since I joined this site. I go to a therapist weekly but I want friends I can rely on bitch to and laugh with. I already get treated like crap by medical profession all we want is to come here bs laugh and know there's support. Its not support if ur bias and only want to hear the good. Sorry but that isn't how things work and don't you think thst while yall are reading our bad days that we aren't sitting there mad we aren't apart of the non complicated groups? We don't like being this way matter of fact it pissed me off my surgery came with complications.

I've tried to get that also. Mainly bc I've had to have so many transfusions but my great insurance says no.. bit they'd rather pain thousands n hospital stays and transfusions? O.o

Yeah u def will know. I tried muscle milk and Lord thought I was dying.

LoL I see that stuff constantly and I'm subbed to Paula Deen lol good Lord. I'm also finishing up a prednisone pack and I swear I want to eat my phone LOL. U def don't need to see that. I know my first food porn was after surgery and s burger king commercial came on I had never really ate there before but oh my word I sobbed like a baby! Then felt like a goober lol. See if u can turn off their feed that way u can at least see the inspiring posts on fb instead of those. I'm sittin here giggling thinking about my post op days lol. Hang n it will pass soon or u will got nuts and wind up with just a handful of fb buddies lol

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I'm 5yrs out and I am brutally honest about this surgery. I am the type I'd rather you tell me like it is instead of sugar coating it. I've lied to myself almost my whole life with the "I don't eat that much.." excuse. I am where I am today because I did it to myself. The obesity I did myself and the surgery I did to myself. I accept my actions and trust me its a dark life when ur in a hospital and all u have is urself and ur thoughts. I do not intend to terrify ppl to have the surgery but I can say this I care enough for my fellow bari patients to tell yall the truth and what can happen. Bariatric surgery has became so mainstream now I fear a lot don't take this seriously hence why suicide, sex addictio. Or alcoholism rates are so high for us. The reason you will probably hear about my story in every post is bc I would have truly appreciated someone in my pre-op post-op days coming to me with the truth. Instead I felt dooped. Out of all the reading on forums etc not once were there a person openly honest about how it truly affected them. Do you know how hard it is to be deathly sick and you hear rude comments from nurses such as "bet ya wished u had just got a gym membership huh?!" Or to have your family just get tired of listening or you lose relationships bc of your condition? It really hurts to come to a site and literally pour your heart out only to be berated by somebody you look to for support. We may weave our story in all the time but we do so bc we know or HOPE fellow bari pt will listen and not mind to do so bc unlike everyone else we r all supposed to be on the same road. Accept us all no matter what bc haven't we lived a life of hell prior to surgery due to the constant degeading conments and stares...let this be the one place u can trust to come to and know ur not going to be hurt..we r all entitled to that. =)