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I'm in Fresno too. No surgery yet but met my pre-op goal weight as of yesterday so hoping to be scheduled soon!

There has to be more behind that than just her weight. I was lucky, I have been fat my entire life but I can not think of one single time that I've been made fun of because of my weight. Any time that I've felt "less than" for being fat has been my own doing. I do know what its like to grow up as a fat teenager though, and I know what its like to not fit in. I also know what its like to be a mother to a teenage daughter. Its not an easy job.... As mothers we want to make life easier for our children than it was for us, and to help them avoid pain whenever possible. My fear with you allowing your daughter to have this surgery at such a young age, is that she will still be going through puberty (where bodies change almost daily) and still growing and not having the necessary nutrients to support healthy bone growth. If she runs into kids she knew while fat and all of the sudden she's liked by these kids she's going to equate her self worth to her weight loss and that's a very slippery slope. I wish you luck

I was told I had to lose 26 pounds and so far I've lost 20 since the beginning of May. These last few pounds are coming off soooo slow, I feel your pain. One thing I've found that works for me is instead of saying I can't have something, I say I don't want it instead. Kinda cheesy maybe, but I feel like if I'm deciding I don't want it versus I can't have it then its not such a big deal to go without that burger.

I've had many straws. The most recent was having blood work done and it coming back with me as borderline diabetic. My mother and sister are both diabetic and my grandfather died when I was in my teens, of complications from his diabetes (this was after having both legs amputated many years before). I just don't want that for myself. The other is my children. My son joined the Navy last year and he's stationed in Guam now. That's a 20 something hour plane ride away, buying one seat is going to be expensive enough let alone having to buy two seats because I can't fit! I want to be able to walk around the mall with my teenage daughter and not huff and puff along the way. I want to be able to try on clothes in no matter what store we go into. I'd like to go to amusement parks and actually be able to ride the rides! Also, I don't want to be invisible anymore. When I was younger, and smaller (not thin, I've never been thin) people would notice when I walked into a room. Now, more often than not, people tell me they didn't even know I was there when I speak up or join a conversation. I guess that's vain, but I want to be noticed... I haven't had surgery yet, I'm still trying to lose the pounds the surgeon asked of me prior to scheduling the surgery. Six pounds to go according to my scale this morning!

My Doctor suggested that I have the sleeve, and told me that I always had the option to revise it to a bypass later on if the weight didn't come off. He seems sure that I can be successful getting the weight off with just a sleeve though, I started at 378. Haven't had the surgery yet, still need to lose 7 more pounds before I can get scheduled!