Thanks for this post! Are you hourglass-, pear-, or apple-shaped? We have the EXACT SAME STATS and I'd never considered Ann Taylor or Ann Taylor Loft for someone my size. I'm built like a Coke bottle (big boobs, wide hips, thick legs, relatively narrow waist), an hourglass/pear hybrid*. Nordstrom's, Macy's, Eloquii (before the closing), and Lane Bryant (mostly for jeans and underwear) are my go-to places.
Afrodite82, I definitely second using the sales assistants or (free I think?) personal shopping services at someplace at Nordstrom's or Macy's. Go at a less busy time of the day and don't worry about buying anything, just let an outsider open you up to clothes possibilities that you hadn't thought of before. Even better and more fun is to have some really stylish girlfriends to help you out!
*I'm African American and one of my biggest worries is losing my booty, er, shape post-surgery