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you def want a surgeon who is very experienced with the surgery. the more he/she does, the better. the more surgeries per year, the better the patient outcome. look for a center of excellence, with a doctor who does AT LEAST 100-200 a year. my surgeon probably does over 500 a year.

well then, you are probably right that the risks are too great. this surgery is for people who feel they have no other good options available to them to recover from obesity and the illnesses that come with that.

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you said you have kids... my hair loss was pretty much the same as after my kids were born. if you take care of yourself after the surgery, the hair loss is minimized. people who seem to have the worst hair loss seem to have other issues also related to poor nutrition. you def need to be ready to have this surgery. if the surgery scares you more than being morbidly obese, you arent ready.

i believe she already decided to not have surgery.

this is probably the worst analogy to use for us, but, here it goes.... when you go to a buffet and there is a dish there you dont like, do you get angry and rage at the chef for making and offering you something you dont like? do you feel offended and take it personally? do you feel like the chef's choice was made specifically as a way to hurt you? probably not. most likely what you do is say, "oh what is that over there that i do like?" and you move on to choose the dishes you do like. you dont let those dishes you dont like ruin your meal or wreck the enjoyment of the food you do like. online forums are exactly the same way. people will offer you all kinds of things. you get to pick and choose what you want to take in. you need not get angry, enraged, offended, take it personal, or allow it to wreck your experience here at bariatric pal. take what you want, leave the rest. of course its your choice. but ultimately, your experience here is your responsibility, no one else's..... only you can choose your attitude.

call the doctor that does your well woman care.

if you have been "in" therapy for 12 years and are still binge eating, you A.) arent being treated for an eating disorder and B.) need a new therapist and C.) are most likely not being honest with the therapist about your eating behavior and what is really happening with you. as a former chemical dependency counselor, private therapist and human services professional, i will tell you that any therapist who agrees to see a client for 12 years is crappy. (unless you are seeing a psychiatrist for meds, thats not therapy) no self respecting therapist should see anyone for 12 years! you need to look for eating disorder treatment regardless if you have this surgery or not. you need to get rigorously honest with yourself. and do what you know in your heart you need to do to overcome your ED. i will tell you i wasnt able to really get a handle on my food issues until i was able (with this surgery) to stop eating! its not easy to regain weight after weight loss surgery if you are aware of and healing your food issues... it is easy however to remain in denial about your food issues and disordered eating.

american in general need to stop fooling themselves into believing that anything on TV is real. even news is carefully edited and presented in a certain way to manipulate people and push their buttons so they keep watching. its not real, its a carefully created fantasy. all of it... sports, news, reality TV, etc. there is nothing wrong with watching, but you have to know what you are watching and not get manipulated and sucked in.

whenever you are cleared for beans and veggies. i had a different timeline for cooked versus raw veggies.

. i think thats what happens to my smilies.

yeah, the first link has a recipe that uses chicken feet. ????

pho can be made with either beef or chicken stock. http://www.lovingpho.com/pho-corner-everything-pho/pho-broth-soup-stock-vietnamese-pho/ this is a great article.

i have been online friends with a few women for 10 or more years. some of them i love dearly. i get real support from them that is very meaningful to me. ????

. yup, its commonly recommended for babies and children who are constipated. people should do what works for them, i just want to mention, for noobs, that juice can cause dumping. my H, who suffers from IBS, eats an apple and a yogurt every day. this works for him. there are lots of ways to treat constipation. my MIL eats a pear or dried fruit every day.

some people, even with sleeves, dump from drinking juice. its pure sugar and leaves the stomach very quickly. this may be why it works so well.

this was in my feed yesterday. i love jamie. i really prefer the taste of freshly cooked chickpeas, but canned is much easier. just make sure you rinse them well. http://www.jamieoliver.com/news-and-features/features/best-basic-hummus-recipe/

just go easy on the seasonings, i found i wasnt great with my usual amount of aromatics post op. i wanted way less.

how to make traditional bone broth and why its so good for you. http://nourishedkitchen.com/bone-broth/

i am 13 months post op and still losing!

i believe this thread was moved by a moderator.

thanks jane, i like a lot of what you said! at our support group we only talk about actual food with noobs. the inside work seems to be about everything but the actual food. eating behavior and feeling hungry yes, but not about the food.

thats why you have to get to the bottom of your food/carb/sugar addiction ahead of the surgery (or at least try)! if you have zero insight, and you have no plan for soothing yourself without food, you will figure out how to eat around your surgery. too many people seem to say "i wont eat that after surgery." and that is their sole plan for coping without food afterwards. there are many ways to fill your needs after surgery... but no plan usually means nothing happens. you fall back on your old coping mechanisms, which means food.

i will, interested to know how you think that is relevant post surgery. i find all this so interesting, as all the vets i know say its "all about the insides" after a year or two, but so few people i talk to seem to focus on healing that... sure i see lots of behavior change... which goes a long way to change the feelings, but i keep circling around to the emotional stuff and seem to come up mostly empty. huh.

let me google that for you! ???? http://www.squattypotty.com/