TheOldMeAgain

Glad to liberate you from worry. I haven't read a lot of her posts but recently came upon some that offended a lot of other posters. A lot of context clues on her about some of her memorable comments....

Ok fun over. Im going to burst the bubble. I'm not on this forum much but I can put together enough clues to know its Ntvtxn. This is a catty thread. Clever and sly clues is an example of cattiness.

Sarah Mclachlan- In the Arms of An Angel Spend all your time waiting for that second chance For that break that will make it ok There's always a reason to feel not good enough It's hard at the end of the day... In the arms of an angel, fly away from here From this dark, cold hotel room and the endlessness you feel.... And the storm keep on twisting, you keep building on the lies that make up for all you lack ... You were pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie In the arms of the angels.. Lessons Learned by Carrie Underwood There some things I regret... Bad times I've been through.. Damage I cannot undo...but it don't really matter, life gets much harder, it makes you that much stronger. Some pages turned, some bridges burned, but there were lessons learned There's mistakes that I have made, some chances I threw away....but it don't make no difference, the past can't be rewritten, you get the life your given... The Whole Song is Amazing n Relatable AND Fix You- Cold Play When you try your best but you don't succeed When you get what you want but not what you need When you feel so tired but you can't sleep Stuck in reverse Lights will guide you home and ignite your bones And I will try to fix you... But if you never try you'll never know just what your worth...

While I do have old pics to look at I can't bring myself to look at them. This website is perfect. Thanks for the recommendation.

I thought I was the only person who ever thought of it. It was my choice escapism especially during my 30 days juicing diets.

I definitely plan on getting the sleeve but I have to lose 10 percent of my weight. My body don't seem to want to let go of the last 7lb I need. My clothes are looser so inches are coming off but I need my weight to go down. I'm tempted to go on a liquid diet to get the 7lbs off just to get the ball rolling. By the 21st I'm going to be seeing the doctor one way or another.

This is very offensive and uncalled for. We all are prone to snap judgements and ignorance. To call out all Africans Americans as ignorant only point out your own.

Being more sociable Going to Zumba and other dance classes instead of doing video workouts at home. Wearing all my fashionable clothes again Being satisfied with small food portions No more rashes under breasts

Sorry that happen to your sisters. I've seen info on it but never read too much on it. I'll make sure to ask about the paraguard. Thanks for the advice.

My doctor would not allow me to get a IUD after I got a blood clot in my toe. That IUD's still have hormones and once you get one blood clot than you're predisposed for them. This upset me because I really wanted the Mirena. I hated taking the pill. Now that I know someone else I got a IUD after having a blood cloth I will get the Mirena outside my doc office. I will of course tell the nurse or doc about my history with blood clots but this give me so much hope!

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Men are visual creatures. There is no way to get around that fact. Their going to judge, rate you and come onto you. It's not something you should be frighten of but embrace. Use it to your advantage. Especially if your surrounded by military men. Many of them are alpha males and will see you as a woman first. It may not be right but its something I had to put up with a lot when I was in the military. Your personally has a lot to do with it. The more pretty, confident and friendly you are the more men will be drawn to you. So many ppl look down on overweight ppl let alone obese ppl. That in returns effects most of our self-esteem. I feel that there may be some underline resentment there toward men from you. At first you were not worthy now you are because of superficial reasons. Don't let it eat you up inside. How others think and perceive you are out of your control. Very few are lucky to find someone who love them for who they truly are. The best advice I can give is give it time. Soon you won't be so self-aware and the attention will become normal. As for other females. They see you as competition now. Now you're a potential threat for attention, respect and admiration from others. Some can't handle that reality therefor come up with ways to make you look or feel bad. A lot of ppl think being slim and attractive makes life easier and it does, but it also become more dog eat dog. It's the nature of the beast.

My moment of truth came when I was in the hospital for acetaminophen overdoes. When the nurses weighted me I was in shock. I realized that I've been in denial for the last few yrs. Too embarrassed I was passed overweight into obese. After that reality check I has to admit my weight issues went deeper than I was willing to look. I stopped hanging out with friends, avoided social gathers or interactions, and looking in the mirror. My life somehow revolved around an illusion and self-pity which destroyed any chance I had at being happy. My sister had a friend who gotten Gastric Bypass. I started looking into it and discovered Gastric Sleeve. It had half the complications, no malabsorption issues and removed Ghrelin, the hormone related to hunger. Yes I know some may develop those problems with the sleeve but its less often. Now I only need to lose 7lb and I can setup a meeting with the surgeon at my VA Hospital.

Sigh--- I confess. My secret desire is to be a 6/8. Too bad my pear shape probably won't let me. Even when I was my smallest wearing a S in shirts, by bottom was huge and never got smaller than a size 12. Our looks are a big part of us. Socially more opportunities are open to us at a lower weight and size.

Sorry for the misunderstanding. Where I'm at sone of the MOVE coordinators are also over the Bariatric program. I would've never thought to contact the VA Bariatric team If I was getting it done elsewhere. That's smart to let them know in case complications comes up. Yea there is a lot of hoops to jump from. I also gained went from being average size to obese in 3 yrs. Mine was PTSD related and I got treatment at the VA Center. It worries me that I might get denied for psy reasons but there is no turning back now. Saving up to go elsewhere is not an option for me now but never say never. Can't wait to hear details about your trip and surgery once you get it done.

Im glad this person didn't discourage you. For whatever reasons the VA MOVE coordinators seem to have negative attitudes toward bariatric surgery. I was given all the cons and few pros. Even in the health field there is a stigma attach to it. I'm at the VA Center in Dallas. I finished the teleMOVE program and it was hard to get someone to call me back. Finally I decided to do a walk in. Got another lady that was more forth coming and neutral. Maybe you should ask to speak to a different coordinator.

Where are you located? Im having mine done at Fort Hood. Welcome to both of you!! Thank you. I'm located in Dallas. How was the process for you?

Hi, welcome. I'm also new but have not formally introduce myself yet. I feel like I'm in limbo because I plan on getting my sleeve done through the VA center but right now the hospital does not have a bariatric surgeon. Until the they get one I will have to wait for psy test and maintain my weight loss.