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So many issues come with losing weight for me, I am petrified of the impact it could have on my relationship with my husband. I have been married a year as of November to an amazing man, he supports me in every single way & has truly loved me no matter what. Since we met I have gained 80 pounds (& had two children) & not even that has phased him, yet I am afraid to lose weight. I am afraid that even at smaller sizes I will never be comfortable naked in front of him, that I will never stop wondering what he is thinking when he looks at me. I want to believe him when he tells me I'm beautiful not feel like he says it out of obligation. I know it's not healthy, not healthy to feel so uneasy around the person you've committed to spend your life with, & I know it hurts him. Part of this journey for me will be many hours in therapy, there is no point in having surgery & losing large amounts of weight if I can't get to the bottom of why I am like this in the first place. I have to admit I am a little frightened of that also, who knows what is hiding there, in the depths of my mind. I wonder what the key is, to making sure my relationships don't fall apart. Maybe including him? If he is part of it maybe he can change and adjust with me.

Hey Everyone! I'm Chelsea, I'm 25, I'm from Arizona, I'm happily married, I'm a mother of two, I'm very overweight & I've just made the choice to have VSG! I've been heavy my *entire* life & I just recently watched one of my best friends have WLS, in 8 months she has lost just over 100lbs & shown me that I can do it too, some day I can actually be healthy weight. Her journey has lead me here, to get support & (hopefully!!) make friends for the journey I am about to undertake! I am scheduled to go to my first seminar on the 19th of January after my family moves from WV back to AZ, for my insurance I have to do 90 days of surgical preparation! I am hoping to have surgery by May (is that too unrealistic?) & get this show on the road! So that's a quick introduction to me, hopefully I don't sound *too* crazy. What are the best & worst parts of VSG? Is there anything you wish you would have known going into it?

Thank you so much for posting this! I have my first appt next month & am super nervous, it's nice reading your day by day updates!

Here! Well I am moving back to Phienix on the 9th and will be going to a seminar on the 19th! I'm also going to Gateway.

My husband finds it amusing too.. I always tell him I'm glad he's skinny...

I guess if we must, nothing better than two fat people, naked hugging. Which reminds me I always said two fat people doesn't work...

Are you considering it there Fishy my friend?

See fake kindness it suits you Fishy!

It wasn't directed at EVERYONE, I am just saying he is that type.

I had hopes that you really weren't such a ... STRONG personality.

Awww I had hope for you. Always the optimist.

How have you not met those people?! They are worse than the depressed woah is me fat people, seriously. Overcompensating. We just met, we'll stick with clothes.

I second the hug, do you just need a hug?

LOL usually far beyond what they should be, they seem to all have this loud overbearing persona, probably just a front for how self-concious they really are, but you seem to fit the type. I mean there are the few women who do also, but I've found it's *much* more common in men.

Why is insulting people your best defense? I agree that I will probably be more open about surgery than some because I'm not really ashamed of it, though I don't know if I will be like "OH HEY GUYS!" I honestly think you could have approached this in a more mature manner & not made yourself look so bad, but I guess it's the internet & you have the typical over egotistical fat guy personality online.

1. Run around with my kids. 2. Shop in "regular" clothing stores. 3. Disneyland & Six Flags & Disneyworld I am actually afraid sex wont be as good! I've heard so many horror stories about husbands no longer being attracted (though mine isn't attracted to large woman, no idea how he ended up with me LOL) once the wife was smaller.

You don't lose all your hair, it will probably thin out but it will regrow & you can drink but moderation is key.

I'm 25, so a tad older, but still SO nervous, I am going to my first appt on the 19th of January. Just be proud for making the choices NOW instead of waiting, even 5 years. I would give anything to be able to go back & make this choice earlier.

I don't think I will tell many right off.. obviously you know JPSnAZ, & my husband will know, maybe my sister & that's probably about it. I think once I have lost a decent amount of weight, it honestly wont be until I have lost at least 100 I am sure, I think I'll get to a point I can be more open about it. It's like a lot of things where keeping it a secret & not openly talking about it keep the stigma there is. I think it'll be like breastfeeding was for me, as first I wouldn't leave the house, then I wouldn't do it without a cover, now I'll bust a boob out anywhere. It's all about personal comfort & usually the more you do something (or more weight you lose) the more comfortable with it you become.

Congrats! That's so exciting!

I've been an avid blogger for years so I figured where better to start this than with a blog. I'm 25, a wife, mother of two & severely overweight as I have been my entire life. Earlier in 2012 a dear friend of mine got VSG, in the last 8 months I have watched her lose over 100 pounds & finally for once I feel inspired, I feel that I might have a chance to actually be thin, or thinner as it may be. In a few short weeks (3 actually) my family of 4 will be moving across the country, home to Arizona & that is where my journey will begin, along side my best friend of over 10 years. We plan to do it together, finally stick to a lifestyle change, because lord knows we've started a million. I'm nervous, & excited, & scared, & hopeful. I can't wait to be healthy for my children, my husband, for myself.

I would hope the weight you were when you met your partner would play a role in how well your relationship does with the changes of surgery, that's a scary thought.

I'm also so concerned about my relationship with my husband, he wasn't 100% on board when I first started considering surgery, though he's beyond supportive now.

Thanks! We wont be EBF, as he will be over a year by the time I have surgery, I am hoping to have it down to once or twice a day.

My point was just there are safe alternatives for pain relief & anesthesia isn't really an issue. I haven't even spoke with the surgeons yet, as I am waiting until we return to Phoenix because I live in BFE WV & the nearest surgeons that I would feel comfortable with are over two hours away. I do plan to speak with them, I was just wondering if anyone had experience with it first hand.