i've had surgery before that was the same amount of time that this should be so i'm not as worried about that. but i get what you mean about the pain. i hate it and i know that it is going to be bad. but i mean what are we going to do about it, we are starting new lives. i'm a control freak too so don't worry!!! and i was between getting the band and the sleeve for a long time. the reason i decided on the sleeve was because of college and not wanting to have the lap band for the rest of my life. but the 80 percent of my stomach being removed is scary. i'm worried about that. i'm also worried about the liquid diet and not eating real food for a month.