Hello, I get where you are coming from. I was going to do this surgery about 3 years ago. I went to all the classes. And when I was ready, I let my mom talk me out of it....at 40 years old. Now I am 42. I am down only 25 lbs from my high weight and going up. I am finally done with my second set of classes and will see the surgeon next week. Hoping to get the sleeve in April. Don't let people discourage you. They do not know your struggle. If they did, they would support you.