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Yep you got it!! I wish my surgeon didn't keep up with his patients so closely You are so right though.. Thank you. And why can we see this so clearly to tell others but are so hard on ourselves.,

Welcome Susan And yes the host thing, sorry daisy after catching up last night I knew I'd forget a few things in responding. My fast went ok yesterday I went over by a tad because I ate some plain Greek yogurt last night.. It's become a comfort food for me. Not sure if thats good or bad.. Today! Ugh I wanted today to be so different. But after life whacked me upside the head this weekend, I am disappointed but at the same time don't much care.. Today I have a weigh in and meeting with my surgeon, I've known about it forever and in the last month I just wanted to walk in there and step on that scale and be solidly in the 140's (with clothes on) I'm 149 so that means getting to at least 146 unclothed.. It didn't happen. It's my thing not the doctors thing (I hope) and I think he will be pleased but I'm not.. I wrote a thread yesterday about balance. I need to find more of it, including balancing my expectations and responses to them should they not be met perfectly.

I'm 47 and the thighs have seen better days. They are a little (ok a lot) deflated looking .. But most definitely I feel better. I had planter fasciitis, I was at a point that walking was excruciating.. It's an non issue now. I walk up escalators now instead of standing. I can run up my stairs with out hurting oh And without feeling like a heart attack will strike at any moment

Great question.. I moved your thread out of the vets section and to an more appropriate area. I'm more pear shape than anything else, my thighs are definitely not my best feature out of clothes. I've lost the weight for the most part, but if I wanted to have "perfect" or better thighs I would need plastic surgery. I look ok in clothes but there will be no bikini modeling for me!

I felt the same way.. Isn't it odd that we find doing something to take care of ourselves as a selfish act?? Well if that's what it takes:) I do think as mentioned by several in this thread I can only be better for me and my family if I do things to take care of myself.. Like I said now I need to figure out a balance that works.

We are at the point of jumping the shark here.. I think the points were made. Correct me if I'm wrong but the horse is dead why keep beating it..

Ok I just caught up!! I hope I can remember everything because boy it was a lot!! Sarsar it's nice to see you back. Same with you swizzly. I'm sorry things are not going the best right now.. I worry about wanting to drink sometimes. This weekend was pretty bad and I wanted to drink my troubles away.. So I didn't. Oregondaisy and Jane! Oh dating! Wow is all I can say.. But it is interesting the thing you said having your pick, that's got to be such a weird feeling scrolling down a page picking out one. I'd probably be picky too! Eh this one has a butt chin... NEXT! Fudge?? Did someone mention fudge??? Something I must avoid! No baking this year! GT. You have been through the ringer. I hope you can just come back to the states and take care of yourself and go to school, skinniness..., daughters, my bad weekend had to do with my daughter.. It started with a knock on my door from another parent and it ended one hole in the wall (by my daughter) and emotional wrung out and shell shocked me... Ok it's settled we all need to treat ourselves with love and kindness through this holiday season. We will work on maintaining our successes. Because face it we are successful! I fasted today and it went well... I'm at 456 so I might have some "diet" hot cocoa tonight

Great mother of earth really?? What the **** do they out in there?? Wow ok I've never been (though my daughter says its the bomb or some other thing like means good) I will keep it that way...

Ok I have fallen of the edge of the earth the last three days... I'm going to spend as long as it takes to read what I've missed here!

Rebel...

You are going to be able to eat more when you eat things like soup and even mashed potatoes. You really want to try and move away from those things a bit (cottage cheese, tuna, and eggs are good protein sources) and start incorporating more dense proteins.. Some soft fish for dinner or even chili will fill you more and stick with you longer. I eat a lot of chicken but in those early stages I ate canned chicken just because it was easier to get down you will find that when you get to those denser proteins you may be eating less of them..

Well my first reply would be to ask your husbands qualifications are?? I'm going to go out on a limb and assume he's not your nutritionist.. I can't speak to if you are taking in to much because quite honestly we all have different capacities. Are you overly full? Just because you measure out that much doesn't mean you need to eat it all., but if it just satisfies the hunger without over stuffing then you are on target. To be safe I would read your post op instructions and make sure your measurements are following their plan. And if they are? You're all good

Jane I am glad you are one of the vets that has stuck around.. You are not only a sleeve success but a wonderful woman whom I am proud to call a friend Happy happy day girlie!!

Yes butter, I'm taking care of myself, overcoming so much.. I knew I swung a bit far into the other direction. I saw it, but needed wanted it.. People in my life want me to go back to the way I was before to some extent.. But how do I do that without losing what I've become.

I think a lot of our lives were put of balance so to speak, before the sleeve.. The years leading up to my highest weight, then the sleeve, I became a non person.. I was just a mother and a wife, my family mattered more to me than me.. Not only did I get rotund, but I think some respect was lost for me. From my daughter in particular... It's funny, for every step I take in life there are multiple ripples in so many different directions. I take care of others, I forget myself. I forget myself and others forget me too.. I take care of myself and others think I've forgotten them.. Maybe I have to some extent. Thats the balance I need to find. I need to take care of my family but I need to not forget myself which is so easy to do.. I did not binge this weekend.. But I did not take care of myself either..

If your husband can't control his outbursts he should leave the house.. He is damaging two young children by saying these things more than you can just see at the moment it's said..

For those of you that don't know me, My name is Laura and I have a food addiction. My addiction it is being managed through the sleeve and hard work, at the moment... I have/had a food addiction yes, but I also have an addictive obsessive personality.. For the last year plus my life has been about the sleeve. It is my focus from the moment I wake until the moment I sleep.. My "social time" is spent here with others that live the same life now as me. They "get it", well most of them anyway.... There is commonality here and that is huge to me. After all, my food is taken away how else will "I fill the hole"? Along with my time here, I spend time working on the mechanics of my sleeve life. I plan my liquids, I take great care to get them in. Time meals to come 1/2 hour after finishing a round of liquids. Try and start my liquids up an hour, if I can, after my meals. My meals are thought out to the extent that they are Protein and veg. These are the "rules" I live by. In the beginning I have referred to the Water schedule as a full time job. And in a way after all this time my eating drinking schedule is still like a full time job. Or at the least a very choreographed dance I do.... If my day includes activities out of the "norm" it can disrupt my dance.... This past weekend life, and I should say one the more challenging parts of it "got in the way" of my sleeved life. It made me realize the road to hell truly can be paved with the best intentions.. My real life and my sleeved life collided with a force strong enough to knock my sleeved life off its axis a bit. I simply could not spend my time dealing with the all important dance of food and liquids and the support of friends.. Did I eat this past four days? Yes. Did I eat enough? To much? Protein? Trigger foods? Timed just right? I honestly don't know and didn't much care. Did I drink my fluids? No, that I can guarantee not. Unless you count take away coffees and chi tea. In fact several days I'd notice that it was afternoon already and not a drop of water had past my lips. All or nothing... The life of an addict. But this does not work, it is not realistic if you want to succeed in the sleeved life and life combined. You need balance. I'm not good at balance I realized that this weekend. I am a one trick pony, a one hit wonder.. I will spend my next year trying to find balance.

Flippity floppity Wow WOW AND WOW!You look hot!!!

I don't personally understand it but it happens to a lot of people with eggs, they are just hard on the sleeve.. Oh but you are the opposite? Well even if it's puréed it's still a dense protein.

One year before surgery I gave up one thing it was a very very small thing but it was bigger than I could of imagined sugar real or fake of any kind. It was really hard at first to find things that didn't have any sugars even bread even deli meats!! I will say I was still fat after a year (I lost a little weight) BUT I felt great. I was no longer getting dizzy and the shakes.. Well as you know this surgery and the months after it's hard to stay away from artificial sugars so... But I try to limit my intake now that I'm further and use liquid stevia in my teas and coffee if I need sweetness... But even then I'm trying to cut down I have weaned myself of it in my Greek yogurt.

Brown the protein debate..I don't know I'm going to look into it but not stress at the moment about it. Now the weight loss! Imma stressing But really I am going to do what I can right now which is maintain through the holidays. I wanted to lose during this month, but I've come to the realization that my schedule is really out of whack and special occasions are being thrown at me left and right... New goal maintain for three more weeks

Fluff have you ever thought about suggesting this site to him? It seems to helping the rest of us that have these issues...

I'm going to give you the most precise answer you can ask for....It's a crAp shoot. There is no definitive answer or study to back it up either way. Some with reflux still have it after, some will have it worse, some will lose it Same goes with people that NEVER had it... Some will get it after the sleeve to varying degrees. Some, it will still not be an issue. Some bariatric Drs will not perform the sleeve on someone with bad reflux but really the reasons behind it are neither confirmed or denied by stats and studies.. Luck of the draw..,

I haven't checked in on this thread forever! The holidays I wanted to actually lose and not "just" maintain... Yeah... At this point I will hang on for dear flipping life to try and maintain!! If 5:2 can help me maintain through this period of celebrations I'll take it. Started June 11th. Start weight 171 Current weight 149

Yep, it is, most of it, in our heads! Our stomachs are "fixed" now we need to put the hard (but doable) work on our thoughts about food and the compulsion to eat.. 5:2 is a good method but for people under a year it's really not effective because the calories are already so restricted.. Most people doing it are eating 1300+ calories a day