Evilah

Are you excited? Congratulations! Do you go to the Washington thread?

Hi puddin, I read your posts every now and then, just saying hello! My lap band surgery is coming up and your after PS looks like my high school pics. Hoping I can look like you again. Maybe I'll need PS like you? dunno! Thanks for the inspiration! Evilah

So you asked for a male opinion... my guy here says they look really big! but not bad with your arms down. I personally can see EXACTLY what your talking about, and I'd be crying my eyes out about it. I'd either get some counseling to deal with it, or go to ANOTHER doctor and have the previous doctor cover the some, most, or all of the cost. Very hard decision, aaaaaaah!!! maybe there is a minor procedure that can be done to straighten them out, but then you don't want to end up with the "really short haircut b/c the hairstylist couldn't get it straight" Best of luck! Really, I hope you can work it out. After the band and everything, the way your body looks has to mean alot.

Hi everyone! I've been around here for awhile but am still working on scheduling my surgery with Dr. Oh and Dr. Hirai. I'm hoping to connect with anyone else who will have surgery with them, or who has had surgery with Dr. Oh. How did it go? How did you choose Dr. Oh/St. Francis?

About immigrants and foriegn language.... The acadien people immigrated to louisiana before the louisiana purchase (in 1803). They spoke French. The first Acadians to arrive in Louisiana consisted of 20 Acadians who came to New Orleans (via Mobile) from New York in 1764. (Notably before 1776) These people enjoyed the use of the French language until the early nineteen twenties and thirties when children were rounded up by truant officers and forced to go to school and speak english. Children were whipped in school when they spoke english, by english teachers who were sent down into louisiana to rid the area of the french dialect spoken there (which was considered a bastard lanuage). Children were taught to believe it was an indication of inferiority to use their own language. That language is now called "cajun" which is an insulting word to start with since it was a derogatory term like "nigger" used to refer to acadian/american indian racial mixes found in southwest louisiana. " A blend of the words acadien and injun. Acadien is pronounced with an almost absent first letter a, "cah-dee-anh" with the emphasis on the nasal syllable anh. There is only one "french immersion" public school there now, and the people who lived there fought for it. It's an elementary school, and parents fight to get their kids to go to school there. The cajun dialect is not used, Canadian French is taught there by Belgian, Canadian, and French teachers. It was wrong of the schools and establishment to teach people that their language was inferior and to try to force them not to use it. But it has long been American policy for American citizens to speak the language of the constitution, declaratation of independence, etc. And despite the barbaric way the French was "whipped out" of acadien children, I still think all people who live here should be able to speak English properly. I do not advocate the abandonment of any laungauge, but I support the use of a single national language to promote solidarity and community in a country full of different cultures and lanugages and ethnic groups. It seems only right that this language should be the language of our founding fathers. People who live here need to know the history of this country, the values it's based on, and be willing to JOIN the communities of people living here and not attempt to create little enclaves of their own country in this country, ignoring the values and customs of american people. Evilah

I know of a man who got rid of his cancer by eating only living organic foods Evilah

HEY! I didn't know their was a christian thread, I'm glad I found you all! With love, Evilah

Did you guys know that sharon osbourne got the lap band!?!?!?!? that's how she lost 125# in one year. Anyone else know for sure of any celebrities who had lap band? I saw the bit about sharon's lap band on E! True Holywood story.. the osbournes. Evilah

susannah, I want to add-- I'm not trying to stigmatize Texans. I know people are prone to prejudice, but we all need to fight it everyday. I do appreciate your concern for Texans. Evilah

susannah, I try never to go with gut feelings, unless the issue is directly related to myself and my own decision. When it comes to evaluating populations of people that you don't know personally, statistics are invaluable. It is one of my lifelong dreams to open a non-profit, independent, statistics gathering firm. Information is golden, it changes the world, there is never enough of it. When you can make a conclusion about what is exactly happening (even it concerns only one aspect of a problem) without the slant of emotion or predisposition or prejudice then you've made huge progress. It's valid to want to know if there's a reason all of the news stories I've heard about filicide in the past ten years were about Texas residents. To me... My "gut feeling" is that it's really strange to hear only about Texas filicides. I mean, it seems to be common sense that it's occurs everywhere and according to total population, and that such horrendous crimes would recieve equal coverage by the national news regardless of the state the crime happened in. Based on the facts I just found, I think the state of Texas could very well have high rates of filicide (compared to other US states) as well as a large population, which would account for the news reports about Texas filicides that I've seen over the past decade. Also, I've noticed that over the years, statistics and studies that could be controversial are often withheld from the public when possible, to prevent mob behavior, mass discrimnation, and other undersirable behavior by a large number of people. The first step to fixing a problem is knowing exactly what it is. Examples: race and IQ scores, SV-40 and polio vaccine. Could it be that Texas, because of it's level of poverty, and public policy on mental health spending have higher rates of filicide? If state policy is causing an unusual problem, then perhaps there needs to be intervention by the federal government or policy reform. Different problems prevail in different states because of factors uniquely related to that state-- among those factors are total population, population density, spending, public policy, religious prevalence, race, immigrant populations, economics, climate, pollution etc. It's totally valid to question a certain state's particular susceptibility to any one problem.

Has anyone else found out their July surgery date? I was originally scheduled for the 10th, but can't find any childcare for the 4-6 weeks of no lifting... ugh. Evilah

krystal, YOU CAN DO IT! I find for myself that curbing hunger means eliminating trigger foods. Also, (someone correct me if I'm wrong) the fundus of the stomach is stitched around the band to the pouch during the surgery. Pressure on the fundus (top) of stomach causes part of the feeling of fullness, the idea is that if your fundus is attached to your pouch, you will feel pressure there when your pouch is full, and feel fullness that way too. Some people's fundus' don't work, and some people can't feel their pouch getting full... could that be a problem for you? I know you can do it! (lose the weight) Evilah

puddin, there are several books written by pastor (? exact title) DOUG WEISS about sexual relationships and sexual addiction in the light of god's will/ scripture. he suggests that single persons (especially women) form a relationship with a happily married couple in their congregation... to get support and have accountability. I'm very happy that you've found relief! Please keep posting here! We enjoy reading your threads! You're very charismatic, and magnetic, and dynamic! It's so inspring to read about your new found lease on life.

StateMaster - US Statistics, State Comparisons

Why Some Mothers Kill Their Children - Associated Content 1. Homicide is the leading cause of death for children under 4. 2. Although women commit less than 13% of all violent crimes, they are responsible for 50% over parental murders. 3. Women commit only two crimes as frequently as men: shoplifting and the murder of their own children. (FBI) 4. About 30% of child murders by parents are premeditated (Medea killings). A high % are blamed on impulse (rage and frustration). 5. Severe poverty lends itself to infanticide. 6. infanticide is correlated with famine and political unrest. http://www.publications.villanova.edu/Concept/2005/Filicide.pdf parents who commit filicide 1. Filicide is a leading cause of child death in developed countries. 2. Most muders of children under twelve are committed by mothers. 3. Social isolation, environmental stress, spousal revenge, mental illness, lack of support network are major contributing, or primarily suspected causal factors. Filicide-Suicide Home Page http://www.jaapl.org/cgi/reprint/33/4/496.pdf spousal conflict, poverty, social isolation, environmental stress, mental illness... Mental Health Services Locator Texas and california have the two highest number of resident persons with serious mental illness. But Texas had only the fifth highest amount of money spent on mental health. California had the second highest amount of money, outspent by new york, who by the way had the third highest number of residents with serious mental illness. 34% percent of Texas adults have poor mental health, which is middle of the road. When mental expenditures, PER CAPITA, are calculated, texas is 47th. So Texas is a HUGE state, with lots people who have mental illnesses and spends just about the least amount of money per capita on mental illness. (new york was 2nd, and california 15th) over 16% of texans live below the poverty level. (near the worst and preceded by low population states) about 13% in california, and 14% in new york. 22.9% of Texas children live below the poverty level. (near the worst. #9, and preceded by low population states) So Texas is a huge state (2nd only to california by popluation, and followed by new york) yet it has very high rates of child poverty, poverty and almost the lowest level of state spending on mental illness. It's track record is on par with smaller poor southern states like louisiana and mississippi and alabama, yet it is a high population state. 6.5% of homicide victims in texas are under 14 (california, 4.1%, new york, 4.6%) In the absence of a dedicated study, I guess people are left to draw their own conclusions or none at all.

Hi! how is everyone? Still working on getting childcare and scheduling the surgery here... wishing you all the best of fortune, Evilah

I've read a year. My surgeon didn't give me a time frame, but said pregnancy is okay after the band. Maybe after I get it, I will get a time frame from him. Evilah

I'm telling you that based on what I hear in the news, I've never heard of a woman killing her kids in any other state. I'm not a news or history buff, so I can't claim expert status. </p> <p> </p> <p>I would appreciate a decent reply post however. Like a link, or data relating the rate of child killlings by their mothers in other states. California has alot of people too, and I don't hear repeatedly on the news about mothers there killing their kids. </p> <p> </p> <p>I didn't say women in Texas are prone to kill their kids. I said it seemed that way, based on those news blips. I was hoping someone would post about why (if it only seems to be that texas mothers are prone to killing their kids) another human being might get that impression. A reason like skewed news coverage, or factual stats, or excess/novel Yates coverage. </p> <p> </p> <p>Evilah</p> <p> </p> <p>PS. Why are you so oppositional? Can't you just take a comment for it's face value instead of assigning negative connotations?</p>

Anyone have any ideas why texas mothers in particular seem prone to killing their kids?

(A texas mother hanged her 4 kids (3 died, the 8mo. old survived miraculously) and then herself in a little town west of ft. worth texas) Less than five years earlier, another Hudson Oaks family was torn apart when Dee Etta Perez, 39, shot her three children, ages 4, 9 and 10, before killing herself. Andrea Yates drowned her five children in the family's Houston bathtub in 2001. In 2003, Deanna Laney beat her two young sons to death with stones in East Texas, and Lisa Ann Diaz drowned her daughters in a Plano bathtub. Dena Schlosser fatally severed her 10-month-old daughter's arms with a kitchen knife in 2004. All four of those women were found innocent by reason of insanity. Yates initially was convicted of capital murder, but that verdict was overturned on appeal. Anyone have any ideas why texas mothers in particular seem prone to killing their kids?

leatha g, I think it's an outrage that mexican's and islanders get to come here and stay because they can walk or boat in. I've never lived in Mexico, or one of those islands, but I have lived in the east, and it's just not fair. In fact, people who live in those countries (so far away, they would have to fly in) complain about the unfairness of it. Jasmine, I really resent it when people choose not to learn and use english. Even if your english is heavily accented or your sentence construction is wrong, I will try my best (which I've been told is pretty good since I speak other languages and have lived overseas) to understand your english. For me, when I see a hispanic person who isn't even close to speaking english, I begin to suspect he/she is illegal. Otherwise, I probably would never think you're illegal by your looks unless I saw you standing behind home depot asking for "trabajo". But then one of my two best friends in college is hispanic, and the other is half hispanic. Both are intelligent and well-educated and are an asset, I think, to this country. In fact, the one whose parents are both Mexican, has 7 brothers and sisters and most of them have college degrees. But I also think that this is not the typical situation for the children of Mexican immigrants Evilah

I love flaxseed oil, but I made a huge mistake trying to take it straight. I threw up and now I have that feeling about it--- the way you feel about things that have made you vomit. I have had some success with mixing a serving of flaxseed oil with a tbsp of nut butter-- I can hardly taste it that way. I think your tongue and nose only have so many receptors that can register lipids and aromatics of oil, so if you mix it with something else fatty, not so much of the flax taste gets the chance to touch your taste and smell receptors. Also, I keep mine in the fridge. Evilah

Pinenut, I know I've never met you but I look at your haircut /picture every time I post here and sort of feel like I recognize you. The point is, at the gym, I saw someone who was skinny but had hair like you do in your picture and sort of looked like you and I thought, HEY that's what pinenut will look like soon! YAY! Wenjea, I took a fat picture before I decided to lose my "last meal" attitude. But thanks for reminding! Dr. Oh patients--- Do you guys do barium swallows to check the band location? Did you get catheterized?? ljuht! I'm so glad you're doing well!!! That sounds like a long ordeal, but at least you're not having gas pain! Did you ever find out what the emergency surgery was? Was it a bariatric patient? Evilah

I'm sorry I read this thread again... it makes me sick to think of children being mistreated. I know it exists... but it's so horrible. Evilah

Bjean, I encountered a similar situation on another board. It seems every board has it's own pack of wolves. I got several PM's from others on the board telling me not to let them bother me, and not to leave. BUT! After some reading in that board's equivalent of the rants and raves section, I realized that most of the posters were very young ... not so mature, and not very knowledgeable. It's ashamed that people can gang up like this, and it seems to happen with all age groups and all sorts of people. Sorry it happened to you, glad to hear your opinion, even if it's dissenting, as long as it's politely put. Evilah