Marimaru

My guess is, that like many of us, you've spent a LONG time being ALL ABOUT EVERYONE BUT YOU. Now that you want to spend some time ALL ABOUT YOU people are getting upset and seeing you as selfish. Tough Cookies. Yeah, it's the holidays, the time for giving, but that doesn't mean you can't be all about you either. Sheesh, just because you don't have your Christmas shopping done BEFORE THANKSGIVING?!?! I went through a tough time with my family before they finally admitted that I'm allowed to think about myself, and I'm allowed to say no to them and I am allowed to not put up with their shit when I DO say no to them! It took some time, and we joke about it now, but I think it was hard for them to get used to. Congrats on your weight loss so far!

First of all, while I think you should discuss it with him, I don't think you need his 'permission'. If you have to, you CAN find a way to do this for yourself, by yourself. Secondly, if you haven't had an intimate relationship for years, it sounds like he rather expects you to hang around no matter what, which isn't good either. I mean, yes, you should mean it when you say "for better or for worse" but that doesn't mean that you'll put up with being ignored either. If you don't agree that your relationship is "fine" I think you need to address that with him. Just my opinion on that matter..

With this new information, I would definitely go somewhere else. It's a horrible bedside manner to start out with!

I just moved to Oregon a little over a month ago. I'm living in Aloha.

Thank you

Faith, I was always a crammer too, but I'd make sure I had my stuff before 9pm the day before

Some things just aren't going to go down well. You'll have to experiment and find out what your limits are.

Glad you updated, and glad you went in! Maybe you could call the hospital manager and see what they think about that nurse?

A good book will do that. They can be dangerous. I've turned off my computer at a decent time, then picked up a book and found I'll stay up later with the book than the computer sometimes.

Your students amaze me, lol

While I don't necessarily agree with what she says, we need to steer this thread away from being an "Attach Jodie session". This story is a bit anecdotal, but the moral is that you should take any online (only) friendships/acquaintances with a grain of salt; I was friends with a young girl for a long time (online). We played online games together, she told me about her school woes, girls she liked etc. Once day she disappears off the face of the online planet not to be heard from for more than 2 years. She messages me out of the blue one day and says "I have to tell you something" and proceeds to explain that while her age is the same, 'she' is in fact a 'he' who had been depressed and therefore created an online persona that had nothing to do with his real life. To be honest, either could be true. To be honest, I had fun conversations with him, had fun playing games with him, and I don't care. Sure, it's hard to wonder when he mentions his real life, but seeing as I'll never meet in person, I choose to just have a friendly online friendship with him. Maybe what Jodie says is true. Maybe it's mostly true with some embellishment. Maybe some of it's true. Maybe none of it's true. At the end of the day, does it matter? Does it affect your daily goings on one way or the other? I hesitate now as I hover over the "post" button, but this thread has long since gone from "subject debate" to "character attack" from both sides.

I agree completely. I also agree in the idea for a bonus for surgery to avoid children, but at the same time, a lot of welfare people have more babies on purpose, to get more money. I think the welfare system is in line with healthcare in that it's going to breakdown soon, or explode and have to be rebuilt.

I would find a different doctor, unless you plan on paying for the surgery even if insurance denies you. The program fees that I have heard that people are charged that seem to 'go around' insurance is very fish to me.

If you go to Nordstrom you can try them on. I like mine. FYI, I wore a corset under my wedding dress (couldn't find a bustierre in an F cup) and it didn't bother my port at all.

Chicken broth is your friend

I don't understand this statement at all. What does it mean for you to say "America isn't ready" for something, and doesn't that go against the point of voting? If something is voted in, it means the majority wanted it and "is ready" for it, does it not?

Perhaps you should report your local clinics to the medical board. It sounds like they are all being very unprofessional. As for your knee (I am not medically trained) you should bandage it asap, and be prepared for what could be a gnarly scar if you don't get it stitched. Also, I think after a certain amount of time going to get stitches is moot because it's already started healing the way it is going to. But ouch! I hope you're feeling ok!

I heard the term va'jj long before Grey's Anatomy was a show. I'm pretty sure it's much older than that...

Tell you dad you had surgery so that you didn't have to be on a diet. Tell him there is a big difference between changing the way you eat for life (your goal) and being on a diet with a tool.

This I totally agree with. I don't understand how suddenly "Merry Christmas" became an insult. Of course, I don't understand why saying "Happy Holidays" is so bad for some people either, it's not THAT big of a deal. BUT this comment I think says it all: "I can see how some may say that they are not being represented so go ahead and expand on it but don't take away others traditions."

I'll give anyone the benefit of the doubt, which includes a certain amount of respect, but they do have to earn more, or they can lose what the have. And yes, how a person sounds when they open their mouth is going to affect my opinion of them. As for being nice just being easier, I agree with that and I practice it myself... but I don't see what that has to do with respect in all honesty. I have zero respect for some of the people I work with, and I manage to be perfectly pleasant with them. You don't have to be nasty to someone just because you don't like them/don't respect them. As for the race issue, I think all races experience racism. The racism that I experience is vastly different from what a black person, or hispanic person my experience, but it's racism none the less. I also think there's a difference between being racist and 'stereotypist'. If that doesn't make sense, I'll come back later and elaborate. I need to get some work done!

Like Jasmine said, I assumed the struggle would be over. Which also relates to the fact that I had NO IDEA how much head hunger I truly was dealing with. I thought dieting would be over, but for me, that is not the case. The dieting work I have to do basically on my own. Where the band helps me, is that when I fall off the wagon, whenever I get my s*** together I can pretty much pick up from within 10 lbs of where I left off. I also thought weight loss was steady. Even when I am working hard, I will go up and down anywhere from 5 to 10 lbs. I've had to learn what my fluctuations are, and learn not to panic when the scale goes up and it doesn't mean I'm 'gaining weight' as it were.

While I haven't been told this by a doctor, I would not be surprised to find out I needed to get a new band 5 or 10 years from now (I've had mine for 3 years now). It just seems by that point the technology would be far more advanced (There is/was a device being tested in Germany for a more mechanical band where fills are done by remote instead of saline). It doesn't bother me to think I'd need to have another lapband surgery that far in the future.

I would let it go until he says something else. Some other things to consider are things like yeah, you only have 4 weeks left in his class, but is there a chance you could get him again? If there's a very low probability you'll have him as a teacher again, I'd probably let it go altogether, (unless he says something else, or something more innappropriate). Also, if he's really just flirting that's one thing. Completely different than intending to bait you to get a better grade, you know?

jeebus....