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I am 191 at the gym scale. 195 on home scale. just gonna leave my ticker alone for this week.

I just want my skin to catch up as much as it can. I am using lotions and creams. I am exercizing with weights 3X a week. I do not want to look 13. I do not mind some wrinkles, for pete's sake I'm 63. so some wrinkles are certainly welcome. It is just this deflated look. Yes I am waaaay healthier and I am so glad for that. I am not going to stop the exercize or the eating healthy, oh I just need to quit whining. sorry guys, just thought someone else might be going thru this and could co-miserate with me. misery loves company. Thanks for not joining my pitty party! lol I am better now. onward!

With divorce comes a whole lot of problems. Be sure you are ready for all the issues that will come up. Try to get some counseling from your church if possible. The man you are "throwing away" will be a treasure to someone else. Everyone is replaceable. But, what you replace with is always going to have issues to deal with. When a spouse dies the grief counslers advise not to make any drastic changes for one year. Do not sell your house, do not re-marry, etc. I think that is good advice for WLS patients also. Do not be idle for that year, get counseling, grow your relationships. I wish you the best life possible.

I am so happy you are starting well on this journey. I am happy to hear insurance is now covering this. I am a bit suprised it takes 6 months, but, maybe that is a better way to do it. We all want to be sucessful, maybe this way insures a better overall result. I am hoping the best for you.

I am not at goal. I am 5' 8" and 63 years young.:svengo: I am a size 14. I am happy with that. My hubby is happy with that.:001_wub: I dont think I want to loose any more. I look a bit like a deflated baloon.:scared0: My face has so many wrinkles now, not a place that is not wrinkled, unless I smile, so, I smile alot.:biggrin0: I look great in clothes, but, not so good without. No way can I go sleeveless. Swimsuits are so embarrassing. Even in a size 14. My lumpy legs are awful!:scared0: If I loose anymore it will just get worse. I do not want to have to go have more surgery. Besides, I am only 4 months post op. so, it is too soon. I am thinking maybe I should just stop the weight loss and see if my baggy lumpy skin goes away? Oh phooey, who am I kidding. That is not gonna happen. I am working out at the gym 3 to 4 times a week. I can feel my muscles. :thumbup: I just think I should put the brakes on deflating any more. What do you think? Anyone else dealing with this?:confused:

wow tiff look at you! happy happy happy. Dress is adorable on you! No wonder it was marked down~~~it was waiting for you to go shopping! lol I love the jeep story. too cute. we are all gettin just too darn cute!!! LOVE IT!!!

@Burnout Go out of your comfort zone for the gym guy. Get a "fat" picture of yourself. Go with some workout clothes when he does. Then just talk to him, show him the picture. He is showing signs of wanting to change himself. So to go "out on a limb" and talk to him seems approiate. AND, guys do that easier. I have to say here that a lady I never met before was a large (sorry,pun) part of my decision to do WLS. She had done a RNY and was adorable. She had a picture in her wallet of her at 300+. WOW is all I could say. I asked why not the band (as that was what I was considering at the time) Her answer made so much sense to me. She needed the weight loss to be permanent. She needed the choice of going back OFF the table. The band can be removed and then where are ya? She was so full of life and energy. I think her name is Tammy and she is from the Houston area and I just want to thank her for talking so frankly to me. She is also now a surfer girl. She had won a surfing trip to El Salvadore, that is how we got to talking in the first place. I had just come back from El Sal from a fishing trip. We met at the Houston Drag strip at a National event. (husbands race) My long winded point is this, establish a tiny bit of a relationship then talk frankly about the whole deal. That is the way to deliver the "message" most effectively. That is my never-to-be-humble opinion. lol

praying for him

Nikki, change up your diet like Tiffy suggested. Let go. I hear your discouragment. You need some peace in your life. Start over. 2 days clears 2 days full 2 days mushies. Then go on a calorie diet right for you. I had to do that to get back on track after the Christmas cookie addiction happened. Please be willing to change up the routine when it is not working. The sleeve will work for you, it already has. Breathe deep and go gently into the storm. We are with you. (((huge hugs))))

Yiiipee indeed. C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! way to hang in there!

when I had first dropped 30lbs after surgery, I made the "overenthusastic" mistake of going on and on to a person I did not know personally. Yikes what a goof up. I sure hope that poor woman forgives me in some way. I review that encounter in my head a bunch. It makes me not do it again. We are messengers by our actions and deeds, not words~unless asked.

Rose, good to hear from you! I am so happy for your success. goalin 9 months. amazing! Please post once in awhile about how you are doing keeping the weight off. That is still my number one concern and I am not even at goal yet. Good luck to you and your family.

Congrats mountian lover. I Feeeeeel GOOD. da da dadadah. Happy dance happy dance happy dance. grins and giggles all day at the strangest times. Onward and downward!

MidWestgirl:I am so glad you posted. I could not find this thread yesterday for some goofey reason! I am doing the happy dance. I am dancing for all of you and your success'. Get up right now and do it with me. Just 8 counts. Come on. I am at 194. -1lb from last week. Plus, a 6 week measurement revealed a 9" loss. I am gonna brag here, only one, a 32.5 inch waist. Me. my 4 month surgiversary was yesterday. -58 lbs overall. Only 29 lbs to goal. Now, I am going to have to step up the exercize to get to goal by June. One lb a week will not do it. So, I have to exercize on a daily basis. I have only been doing 3 times a week. It is up to me. I have to work with the sleeve to get better/faster results. I am still just so happy for us all. Just silly. I love my sleeve, and, I love my sleeve sisters!

Liz, Call your local parks and recreation Dept. Find out what classes theyoffer for free or next to free. I think you are back east so, you will know in advance what to look forward to this spring. My "senior" center here offers Tai Chi. I really like it, it is slow purposeful movements to music. Not as jazzy as Zumba, but, with my knees I cannot do jazzy. (yet) I even went to lunch at the center for $2.50. LOL Most people are older than me, but, it kinda felt like visiting my Mom. (passed 15 years ago) they play cards and have a pretty good time. I can't take too much of the place, but, 2X a week for Tai Chi is good. I still go to the gym to ride the bike vigoursly and do weights for upper body. I am looking forward to the day when I can take up a real dance class like Oregondaisy. I am so glad you are feeling better and better. Progress, in little steps or large, it's all about moving forward.

its all about the EGO. Males need the ego boost sex gives them . you know, conquring hero and all that crap. So, I understand the sex addiction thing. (don't condone it) Here is what I do not understand. Why do they think they can get away with it? Any addiction is transparent. Look at the guilt we all have felt about our weight. They must be feeling guilt also, so why not get help? BEFORE you get caught. I mean crap, the behaviors are there, clear markers on the path to distruction. These guys don't even try toget straight until they get caught. John Edwards makes me sick. How can some one so "smart" be so stupid? I just expect smart people to do smart things I guess. That is what happens when you "expect" things~~~you get dis- appointed instead.

Looser: get some melatonin. Capsuels. take them(it) before bed. I too wound up awake after a few hours sleep. I do not like the OTC sleep aids, for the way they make me feel the next day. Found the melatonin thru this site and am doing much better, (when I remember to take it).ha

DeeDee: Oh honey, I am just all puddled up here happy for you. 90 Pounds just gone from your life forever! Congratulations on meeting (exceeding) your goal for the first time! Tears of happiness boy, this weight loss thing is sure emotional at the oddest times. huge hugs

thanks for that! I am a bit tired of teas. I have every kind of tea made, I think. And broth. I think the creamyness of the coffee will be a good break.

Kai, I am 4 months post. I can remember your stage. I had it too. I was so frustrated that I could only get 3 tablespoons full of soup down before it got cold.I could not eat the tuna that everyone raved about. I just had to go MUCH slower into each transition. I stayed on pureed soups for an extra month I think. I still do not finish a normal bowl of soup. And that is my whole meal. I still drink a lot of protein. My tummy is happy with that. I am very healthy. (dr.s report) I could not eat a whole egg for the longest time. I wondered what was wrong with me. The answer is: nothing. We just are all different. Stay with each phase longer, give yourself more time to adjust. You will love your sleeve soon. I am 57 pounds lighter. These last 4 months have not been without worry and concern, but, they have been a journey into the unknown with wonderful results. You will eat normal foods, not as much, but, it will be regular food like everyone eats. Have patience with your new tummy, she is trying to catch up to your head as best she can. I named mine.(Angelbaby) I talked to her like she was a new friend I was getting to know. (i tried not to do this out loud) I invited her into my life for the best benifit of us both. Giggle back at her when she gurgles at you. She is making a joke, don't forget to laugh. Try acceptance.

Excellent advice you are getting here. I am going to use some of it! I hate the thought of going to a buffett, paying the full price and not even eating a kids portion. Wan ton soup for me! Bossy/Nosey Lady problem: you will ALways have these type of people in your life. Learn NOW how to deal with them. Believe it or not, that person has something to offer. Ask her questions about her dogs/hobbies/schooling/kids/family/claws/horns.(kidding) You have to divert the focus of these people. It can be interesting or tiresome, but a good lesson for you either way, because, it will get the focus off you. I do not mind being the center of the Universe, however, I do not like it when it is focused on my weight! Yikes! So, polish up you people skills, go have some soup, and have a great experience.

Here is a tip you haven't heard. You will be a cheap drunk if you do the surgery first. Seriously. 2 drinks in rapid succession and you are toast. I used to be able to drink ALOT. a whole lot. full bottles of wine, plus cocktails. No wonder I was fat. Hey, I just used past tense for my self. Wow! Back to you, If you follow all the dietary guidelines after surgery, until your "cruiseofalifetime", you will be fine, feeling so darn great, and if you do drink, I guarentee you will not have a big drink bill. A bit more, since you asked for "older" support, Stop putting all these expectations on this birthday. You will dis-appoint your self. When ever you "expect" you are more likely to be dis-appointed. How can you be suprised in life if you expect everything to go a certain way? Just let the suprises happen, and giggle. Alot.

I second Tracy's advise. Here is another tip: buy only 2 or 3 pair if pants at a time. you will go thru (down) sizes rapidly. I was going to try to buy my clothes "used", but, it just does not work for me. So, I went to Sears and Penny's and bought on sale. I was suprised I needed tops. I just thought the tops I had would always be fine, just big. um no. I was a 20 22. am now a 14. Do not buy anything expensive, in 2 or 3 weeks it will be BIG ( sloppy) on you. I am a fan of Target right now. My jeans keep getting baggy in the stomach and legs. Yippee. This will all happen for you, please be patient and do not measure yourself by what others have done. It is not a race. This is the rest of your life. A very wise friend told me, "Start slowly, then taper off". Now, there's a bumper sticker!

Cajun: Has Dr. Aceves had any "intestinal" leaks? Not staple line leaks. A small hole in the upper intestine caused by the co2 gas used to fill stomach during surgery. I have heard of 3 of these by other Dr.s. Have not heard of any from Dr. Aceves. I am just wondering how common an occurance this is? Do all Dr.s have these types of leaks? They result in major hospitalization time to clean out the infections. I would like the info so I can honestly and clearly reccomend this surgery to friends and people who ask me. You seem very "in the know" about the medical side of WLS. I did not know about spinal use for Sleeve surgery, until your post. Thanks for the info.

OK Tiffy, so you can not exercize. NBD seriously. Take up scrapbooking, re-organize all your journals. Knit sew, cross stich, work a 10,000 piece puzzle. use your mind. Right now you have been given a gift of time to work your mind. You are such a great gal, you can find lots of important things to do with this time. No more whinning. You will not loose that much in the way of "progress" towards your fitness goals. You were not training for a marathon anyway! AND< even if you were, so? Life happens, make the best of this time. It will make the best of you. This is just one more step in your Journey. March on my little friend!