mumof2boys

Every single morning...get up, go to the restroom and get on the scales...lets me know if I need to "alter" my eating for that day and it's been working pretty well for me...however, everyone is different and when you find what works best for you...Stick to it.

Last year I had a lower body lift and a breast lift with augmentation and it resulted in about 5 lbs. of skin being removed. Good luck.

Well...let's see...I'm almost 3 years out and I have rewarded myself along the way. When I lost my first 50 pounds I rewarded myself with my very first COACH bag (I have about 10 now...couldn't get enough...lol). I have bought LOTS of clothes throughout the journey and last year I had a lower body lift and breast lift with implants. In one month from today, I take sail for my very first cruise...I'm going to the Bahamas and probably the biggest reward that I have received in all of this...a divorce...I didn't ask for it but once all of the information came to surface about my soon-to-be-ex-husbands cheating...I fell in love with myself and my new life and me and my boys are happy as can be. Life is wonderful and I love my band.

Good luck to you...I went through just about the same thing one year ago. I had a lower body lift (all the way around my body) and breast lift with implants (didn't do the thighs). You will do great! Can't wait to see pics. I hope you have a speedy recovery and enjoy those drains. :thumbup:

Hey there everyone...I hope that you are all doing well. Alright...I need your help...I need to be hit with a 2x4...I have picked up some pounds and I'm sooooooo mad at myself. :ohmy::cursing::ohmy::cursing::ohmy: I got a fill two weeks ago and I have dropped 8 of the pounds but I still am having a problem with what I "want" to eat...this truly sucks. I was doing so well and I know that I haven't gone overboard but damn...I'm really coming down on myself because this is depressing. I am going on a cruise to the Bahamas in one month from today and I want to drop 20 pounds...I know that is a lot for a month but geez...I need your encouragement. I bought two new bikinis yesterday for my trip and there is NO way that I will put them on my body unless I drop this weight. What the heck is my problem? :thumbup: On another note...I go to court on Monday for my scheduling conference for my divorce. The ex has been out of my house for over a year so my divorce should be final real soon and I'm getting excited about that. My "friend" and I are doing wonderfully and my youngest son turned 7 next week...life has been SUPER busy with the kids and their schoolwork and extra activities...I need to make the time to exercise and I need to stay away from the junk food. Well...enough rambling. I hope you are all doing well and I'm just waiting for all of you to hit me and get me back on track. Thanks, guys.

Hey hey hey everyone...so...in my earlier post, I stayed away from telling everyone that I have put on a few pounds, obviously because I'm not proud of it. So...I have an appointment at 9:30 this morning to get a fill. I'm nervous about going because I haven't had a fill since August 2008. I don't think that he's gonna be mad at me...I haven't gained that much. I'm also a little excited because I haven't seen him since my plastic surgery. I'm really curious to see what he's going to say to me. Wish me luck everyone.

LMAO...Plain, you are too funny. So...today is the "ex's" 30th day to file his answer...the anticipation is killing me...nothing yet...could be interesting. I'm waiting for either no answer filed or some sort of bombshell to go off...I'm hoping for no answer. Keep your fingers crossed for me that this turns out in my favor.

Well hello everyone...it's been a long time. I hope that you all had a wonderful holiday. So...here's the downlow on me and my life as of today: My (soon to be ex) husband was served with papers on December 12. He has 30 days to file an answer so I'm waiting to hear when that happens. I cannot get an "absolute" divorce until March, which is one year after he moved out of our residence. Believe me...I am counting down the minutes. I have the absolute greatest attorney in our county and I feel great about him representing me. I was very worried about my ability to afford everything on my own but after speaking to my attorney, my worries have subsided. My Christmas was wonderful. It was a little weird without "him" there...not because I wanted him there at all, it was just different. I provided my children with a Christmas just like in the past (which I'm paying for now...OUCH). My youngest made me cry when he opened up his PSP...my boys are absolutely my world. Now...I was completely hooked up for Christmas like never before. You see...all of my past Christmas' consisted of gifts for me that I wrote on a list for my ex. He would go straight down the list, buy what was on there and nothing else...no thought put into anything, no meaning behind it. Now...this year was something really special. I never knew that it could be so good. I got clothes, jewelry, perfume and all kinds of things that I just LOVE. My "friend" was completely sent to me from up above. New Year's Eve was also wonderful. My boys and I went to my "friends" relatives house for a party. We all had an absolute wonderful time. My 2010 started off with a bang. What can I say...I am happier now than I have EVER been in my entire life. In two months I should be free from baby daddy drama (as much as possible) and I can begin living my life as a truly single mom. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever want to be a divorced woman but I know in my heart that I made the right decision. I was completely miserable in my marriage and just in it to survive and be a part of a family unit. I have realized that me and my boys can be happy, which makes life great. My boys just love my "friends" kids to death. We spend lots of time together and in fact my boys ask where they are on the weekends if they are not with us. They are always asking if they can come over and spend the night or if we can all go do something...it truly is wonderful. Well...just thought that I would give a little update because it's been a while. I hope everyone is doing well and I hope to hear from you all. Thanks so much for all of your support and friendship throughout this difficult time. You guys truly rock!

OMG...almost forgot...the ex is talking to "HER" again...the homewrecking whore...can you believe that? We still have a joint cell phone account and I was looking at his records the other day and sure enough...there was her cell phone number. I was numb...I couldn't believe it. He will NEVER change and I know for sure that my decision to end that horrible marriage was the right thing to do. Life is GREAT!

Well hello, hello, hello everyone! Long time...no talk. So...life has been pretty good despite the fact that my soon to be ex will not agree to any kind of separation agreement that I come up with so. So...went to an attorney yesterday (the highest priced one in my area) and I retained him. My ex will certainly wish that he had agreed to my paperwork when he gets served. Looks like he's gonna be pretty damn broke for about two years, until I have to sell the house. I'm not trying to bleed him out of money but it is what it is. So...looks like I'll be able to feed the kids afterall...lol Things are going fantastic for me...he will be "served" with the paperwork probably the Monday after Thanksgiving. The attorney said that my divorce can be final in March. Once the paperwork is all done and everything is final and I'm divorced...I'm off to Vegas to celebrate...NO JOKE!!!! So...my "friend" and I are getting along fantastic! He's so damn wonderful I can't even describe it. I'm getting excited about the upcoming holidays even though I don't have the money that I would like to have to buy Christmas gifts. It's alright though because as long as I get to spend time with family I will be alright. Oh...did I tell everyone that I'm going to be an Aunt? My brother and sister-in-law are expecting in May and I couldn't be more excited. I will have a baby nephew and I can't wait. I have already started buying baby clothes. I hope that everyone is doing well...just wanted to give a little shout out to everyone and let them know that I'm floating on cloud 9...legal paperwork is in the works and I'm happier than a kid in a candy store. Oh...I have picked up a couple of pounds but I'm nipping that in the bud...started counting my calories again and working out...want to lose 13 pounds by Christmas...it can be done...NO...it WILL be done. Well...I would love to hear how everyone else is doing!

OK...so, I forgot to mention that today is office dudes last day working in my building. He won't even be working in DC anymore so it's most likely that I won't see him anymore unless he happens to come here for a visit or something. My new guy doesn't know about the discussions that me and office dude recently had because he already feels threatened by him because he works here and he feels that I will get back with him. If he knew that office dude told me that he was in love with me, all hell would break loose. So...today's his last day here...my new guy is having big anxieties today, thinking office dude is going to take me to lunch...even though I wouldn't go. So...I will be hiding out in my office all day long today. :thumbup:

Good morning, my friends...lots going on. So...the soon to be ex husband is really off of his rocker. We were attempting to be civil and do this divorce without involving attorneys but it's not going to happen. I guess trying to save money is out of the question. I have an appointment today at 2:00 with a lawyer. As far as infidelity goes...I can't divorce on those grounds anymore...in Maryland...once you are aware of the infidelity, if you have relations with that person after finding out, the courts view that as "forgiving" the other person and you cannot use that as a grounds for divorce. Well...I stayed with him for almost a year in an attempt to save the marriage so......you can all read between the lines. Now...on another note...my life with my "friend" is absolutely fantastic...couldn't be better. I met his ex-wife last weekend as I was helping his daughter prepare for the Homecoming Dance. Everything went well. Now...to the drama...the crazy "stalker" chick is still around and doesn't show any signs of getting the hint. We're gonna have to figure out what to do with her...she's a damn mess. Here's where it gets crazy...prior to meeting and hanging out with my "friend", I had been seeing a guy at my work. It was known from the start that he did not want a relationship (his exact words) so I thought things were fine. As time went on, I began to get attached to this person and have feelings for him. I started to back away because I didn't want to get hurt...he made it clear that he wasn't interested in a future that included children and as we all know...I have two of them and they are my world. He was very open and honest with me from the very beginning. So...I met my new "friend" and I told this guy that I was talking to someone else and we couldn't hang out. I cherish this guys friendship because he was there for me for some very difficult times. He's a very nice guy and I know he would do anything for me. So...last night, he opened up to me and told me that he had fallen in love with me but didn't know how to tell me. He said that he's not telling me that now to try to come between me and my new guy because all he wants for me is happiness...he said that he had distanced himself from me (prior to me meeting my new guy) because he was afraid to tell me his feelings because of the previous boundaries that were set from the beginning (by him). He said that he feels like he missed out on a very big opportunity in his life (being with me) and that he was willing to accept my children into his life. All of this information really took me off-guard and upset me. I had fallen for this guy but knew that nothing could come of it, only to find out now that he was feeling the same way....don't get me wrong...nothing is coming between me and my new guy. He is by far the best person in the world for me...he absolutely cherishes the ground that I walk on and I think the world of him but getting all of this information last night was pretty tough for me. So...why is it that people don't want you until they know that they can't have you? Give me some insight here...all men comments are welcome...

Well guys...I did it again...the 2009 3 Day Walk is a memory for me...it was quite a journey...I only got one blister but I got one hell of a shin splint that hurts like you would not believe. The pain will go away but the memory of the event will last forever. I met some amazing people. Doing the walk by myself was interesting but it was all worth it. I still have quite a bit of fundraising to do...I fell $900 short of the minimum so I have 4 weeks to come up with it or I have to pay it...YIKES...I have faith that I can work it out though. Tami...good for you...I wish that I could say that I was only 4 short weeks away from a divorce....things have taken an ugly turn for me...things that we discussed have changed. He kept asking me to type up a settlement agreement so we could get the ball rolling...I did that he he agreed to nothing in the document...he went back on every single thing that he said before and now he even wants half of my retirement (which, unfortunately he is entitled to). I wish that I could just blink my eyes and be divorced and live my life but it looks like I have quite the road ahead of me. Best wishes to you and I'm glad that you are doing what is best for you. Well guys...I'm sore as heck so I'm taking it easy and gonna gear up for the 2010 walk. I'm going to continue to do these walks until my old body just can't take it anymore. The experience is incredible and worth all the pain involved. Thanks to everyone who supported my fundraising efforts with donations and thanks to all of those who wished me luck. You guys are the best.

Hey there folks...just a little weekend update. Had yet another wonderful weekend (no drama this time). Went to the Redskins game yesterday...finally...a win. I found out that the Super Stalker Ex-girlfriend has been running her mouth about me...I think it's pretty funny. She's very immature and can't let it go. Apparently she called me a dog on her facebook wall. Pretty funny, given the fact that she's a hot mess:tt2:. Anyway...my "friends" daughter has asked me to take her shopping for a homecoming dress. His kids adore me and I think it's just wonderful. Things are looking great...just gotta really get working on the divorce papers. I'm preparing for the Breast Cancer walk that starts on Friday. I'm 50% through my fundraising goals...got lots of work to do to get there but I can do it. Wish me luck guys. Thanks again to all of you for being here for me...I appreciate it.

Thanks, Val. Every little bit helps. I truly appreciate it. I'm so determined to get to that amount so I can walk. I'm so excited but a little nervous that I'm doing it by myself this year. Last year I put together a team and there were five of us walking together...this year I'm all alone. Wish me luck.

Alright, just a little update. I never responded to her messages and I know that's just burning her up. I don't believe her and I know that she's very desperate to come between us and I'm not going to let that happen. She is off the hook and needs to move on. I'm still enjoying life and smiling all the time. I am concentrating on getting my divorce papers done so that they can be filed so I can get divorced in March. We're trying to do things ourselves so we can save money and not pay an attorney. It's such a headache and part of me just wants to pay someone to do it for me but I don't have the money. Anyone out there do it themselves and live in Maryland? I sure could use some advice. Thanks, guys.

So...the walk begins in 11 days and I still have a long way to go before reaching the minimum goal set by the walk. I'm asking you guys for your help. Participating in this walk is very important to me...I really want to do it again. Last year was very inspiring and I can't wait to participate again. If you are interested in donating, please follow the link on the post above and it will take you to my page. I thank everyone in advance and I hope you all wish me luck. Thanks, guys!

I copied both messages into an email and sent them to him. I believe him...I have no reason not to. I have seen first hand that she is absolutely CRAZY. Remember when I posted about her showing up at his work at 2:00 am? I was sitting right there...she put a CD on his car and peeled out of the parking lot...she's a nut. He blocked her number from his cell phone because she wouldn't stop texting him (he was ignoring her and it drove her crazy). So...after he blocked her number from his phone, she began texting his children so he blocked her number from their phones too. Now...she has no other way to get to him except to get to me. My profile is set to private but on FB you can send a message to anyone. She's truly a hot mess and I feel bad for even letting her get to me like this. I did not respond to her because that's what she wants...she wants to get to me and I'm not going to give her the satisfaction. He's so upset and so is his entire family. She's 24 and very immature and she has a 6 year old child (father took off...she got pregnant after dating him for about a month). Anyway...found out that after she had the baby she sent a dirty diaper to the father in the mail...she's CRAZY. I'm just hoping that I don't come home to a rabbit boiling on my stove. Oh...he knows what I have been through...he has been through it too...his wife cheated on him for almost two years and up and left him and his kids for her boyfriend...

Good morning my friends. Had a fantastic weekend...my and my kids hung out with him and his kids and everything went wonderful. Things are going soooo very good, until last night. Stalker bitch sent me two messages on Facebook telling me that he cheated on me with her. Now...I know that she's a crazy psycho bitch but of course all of those feelings came crashing right over me again. I believe him...I have no reason not too and I have even seen this crazy psycho in action and I shouldn't even think twice about what she has to say but given my past I can't help it. What do I do? I didn't respond to her because that's what she wants. She's crazy because she can't have him. What do you guys think? What should I do? I hate this. I really know in my heart that it's not true but damn...what the hell... All advice is welcome...

I know...he is a hottie, isn't he? :thumbdown: I love that bald head...bald is beautiful! I have ALWAYS had a thing for bald guys (the ex made fun of me...who's laughing now :thumbup:) I'm so giddy and always smiling...I love life!

Hey there ladies...sorry I haven't been on in a while...I'm completely consumed right now spending all my extra time with my "friend". Damn...life couldn't be any better right now (unless my divorce was already final). So...below you will see 2 pics of my man...he is by far the absolute BEST thing that could have happened to me. I cannot even tell you just how awesome he is.

WOW!!!! What a fantastic birthday. I wish I would have gotten online before this past weekend because I so would have told you guys where he's a bouncer because I was there ALL weekend. It's a restaurant/tiki bar in Maryland (Newburg). Saturday night the band sang happy birthday to me after midnight and Sunday was just off the hook...it was so crowded...it was an amazing time. I had a great birthday. One bit of drama though...I was waiting for him in the parking lot after hours (in my car...parked next to his) and some crazy chick came up and sat in her car in front of his...she eventually got out and put something on his windshield (a CD) and drove off like a bat out of hell...she was an ex-girlfriend who is pissed because I'm in the picture :sad: Anyway...he had to set her butt straight and tell her that if she contacted him again he would get a restraining order...she's pretty psycho...I was ready to go home cuz I told him that I didn't have room for any more drama in my life. He got pretty upset and said that I didn't have to worry about it...he would handle it...and he did! So...happy birthday to me! I have a great man!!! :mad:

Well...pics, huh? Let's see, if I can't post pics, you can go see him...he's not too far from you...he lives in King George.

Hey there everyone...how's it going? Thanks for your donations...they are greatly appreciated. So...here's the latest with me...after that horrible week that I had, life has taken a turn back to happiness. I cannot explain just how happy I am. My "friend" is the best thing that has happened to me since the birth of my children. :mad: He is so damn incredible. His children are wonderful too. In fact, his daughter took some of my pictures off of my facebook page and dolled them all up and made an album of me on her facebook page...I shed a tear. I never knew that such happiness existed. So...this coming Sunday is my birthday and I'm getting very excited. Birthdays usually aren't a big deal for me but knowing just how happy I am right now I can only imagine how wonderful my day is going to be. I want to thank all of you guys again for being my back bone and support during this very rough time in my life. I see nothing but a bright future ahead of me. I am working on a rough draft of the divorce papers so that we can file them very soon...after filing them we will have a limited divorce and then in March we can get an absolute divorce. This coming Monday is the 6 month anniversary of him being out of the house...I'm half the way there before my absolute divorce and I couldn't be more excited. I know in my heart that I have made the right choice. I know that I would have never been truly happy in my marriage because of all of the horrible things that happened. I would rather be alone for the right reasons than with him for the wrong. So...to sum it up...I'm one happy camper...woo hoo :thumbup:

Thanks...the burial was very difficult for me but it was necessary. She was my only "daughter"...it was horrible. The man in my life...smokin' hot! He doesn't think so but I do. Funny thing...the night that we met, we stood there are talked for hours (he's a bouncer at one of the places that I go to listen to bands). When I left for the night I told my friend...GIVE HIM MY NUMBER. I have NEVER done that before. Well, low and behold, he texted me two days later and everything since then has been amazing. I didn't know that people like him actually existed. A link to my page for the 3-day walk is: Welcome to the Washington DC Breast Cancer 3-Day: I truly appreciate any assistance that you can provide. I have received about 5 donations from my buddys here on this site...all of you are just wonderful. Thanks again...maybe I'll post a picture of my "friend" :thumbup: