Nurse_B

Hello! I was in a wicked stall, but seem to be losing again! I am sorry I haven't reported, but here you go: SW: 290 CW: 257

Good for you, that's awesome!! NSV from today: able to drive my sisters car without moving the seat because of my belly!

While my family supports me, I do have close friends who did not support my decision. It has been a difficult and long process with them, and to be honest our relationships have changed. But what has remained the same is my self respect and dreams of becoming a better version of myself. It can be difficult when you lack the support you need, but there are so many people who will cheer for you and offer their support when you need it, on here, at support groups, your surgeons office...etc. rely on those that will help you, and hopefully your family will come around when they see that this is your decision and what you need is understanding. Good luck to you!

Today I'm 259.7 and down one appendix! Got it out yesterday, so I'm expecting a weird week on the scale!

Currently in a stall...trying to stay positive! Today's weight: 263.8

I'm a December 2nd Sleever. I am also experiencing the 3rd week stall, it sucks!! I have had those thought as well, here we go this isn't going to work! I need to throw my scale out the window, it's making me insane. I hope it starts to move again for you, completely understand how frustrating it is!

Anyone stalling? I am frustrated!! No movement on the scale in at least a week and a half. I'm hoping to break it before my next post op appointment!

I have enjoyed reading all of the responses on here. This too was a question I pondered, along with my family. I discussed my concerns with my surgical team while deciding on what surgery to have. One of the benefits of the sleeve is not experiencing some of the malabsorption other WLS can. For me, I was worried about looking tired, sickly, and saggy. While we can't predict what the body will do with weight loss, drinking water, working out and getting in protein does a lot to help with the physical part of how our bodies look and respond to weight loss. In making my decision I had to weigh my pros and cons, and ultimately weighing less and having more energy to take better care of myself outweighed the what ifs of what my body may look like. Thanks for posting, this was a great thread!

Current Weight: 264.9 Goal Weight: 239.9

Thank you for sharing, it's a wonderful letter and very inspirational. When I see things like this, it gives me hope that one day I will find someone supportive and who loves me for me, no matter what is in the mirror or on a scale. Thank you for the smile today

I will leave behind: Shame, a poor attitude, negative self-talk, and hopelessness. I will leave behind all of the tears because of my weight, and all of the doubt I had about myself in being able to conquer my weight. I will leave behind the idea that I am not worthy of reaching and surpassing my goals.

Deez, I hope today has been better for you. Continuing prayers for a quick recovery!!

Just found this forum. Sleeved December 2nd. So looking forward to getting back in the dating game, I'm sick of being single!

I'm very early out, one month. I am excited and nervous to get back into the dating world. It's been so long, I also have self esteem issues when it comes to men, I've felt very ashamed of my appearance and not worthy of that kind of attention. I can completely see how you are excited and can like the attention, it's not a bad thing!! However, I can see how peoples jealousy can make you feel bad about your excitement over the weight loss, people can be petty and make us feel bad for accomplishments. I am inspired by your weight loss!

After my surgery, I am realizing just how much everything I do/did revolves around food. Get together with friends...potluck. Have people over...cook dinner, make Snacks. We can't have anything at work without creating a menu. Now that I am really watching my food choices and making an actual honest effort in keeping myself in line, I can't escape food! I know the world does not revolve around me (contrary to what my little sister sometimes alleges...), but geeze, I can't escape it. New Years Day a friend is inviting people over to watch our favorite college football team and then is cooking a bunch of food...which hey to each their own, but I can't eat any of it. So I told her I would bring things I can eat, and pass around the good stuff for everyone. Her response to me was short of rude, "who wants to eat that stuff, it's a football game!!". Well excuse me, I don't want to waste this opportunity, let alone all of the money I just forked over to get my life back. Everyone can make their own decisions about the way to live their life, I just wish there was a bit more support with what I am trying to do. I don't think it's too much to ask!! Rant over, just had to get it out there!

Happy New Year's to you, and congratulations on your surgery!! I can't think of a better way to start out next year

It never ceases to amaze me, the permission people give themselves to insert their opinions about others. I too had very little people telling me their concern about my steadily expanding waist line. Part of it I am sure is not wanting to hurt my feelings. Since I have made the decision to have surgery, and had it, people who have never had opinions before sure don't hesitate to let me know how they felt about my size before, and what my goals should be now. I don't think people understand personal boundaries, especially with weight. It's sad you have to deal with people talking about you.

Good luck to you! I am very glad you decided to just be honest with the psychiatrist...as their only job is to make sure you are prepared and ready. If they would have found out you weren't, you could have worked on things to make this process easier. I have seen people who have "lied" to the therapist and have been passed, now they are dealing with a lot of issues that should have been taken care of before having the surgery. I am happy for you that you are this far in the process, hopefully you get an approval quickly!!

I LOVE THE DRESS!!! You look HOT! I am so looking forward to trying on clothes without leaving tearful and ashamed of myself. Congratulations on all of your hard work!

I appreciate the part on breakfast. I have always hated eating when I first wake up, it takes a little time for me to feel hungry and want to eat. I have made myself eat breakfast because I have been told over and over, it is the most important meal of the day and it does a lot with your metabolism. While I think it's important for me to eat earlier in the day in order to get in my Protein, I am happy to see an article say it isn't vital.

I went back to work after a week off. Every day I get a little less tired and sore. I don't think you over did it, but just listen to your body for cues on where you are at!

Feeling nervous and anxious is all a normal part of this. It is a big lifestyle change, and it really takes thought and commitment to get to the place you are now. The two week pre-op diet isn't exactly fun, but you can do it. Everyone who has to do it, doesn't exactly look forward to it, but you will get through it. Write down all of the reasons why you are doing this, and keep looking at it until surgery, and even after surgery. As far as pain goes, everyone has a different experience. I didn't have much pain, but I also had surgery before and it was easier because I knew what to expect. Make sure you stay on top of the pain, and don't be afraid to ask for pain medication if you need it. The best thing you can do is walk, walk, walk. Don't hesitate to ask questions and lean on people here for support. You can do this!

Great idea! I am working on a lot of things, but mainly: 1. Making a better effort with my Water. I am usually close, but then I give it the "oh that's close enough". 2. Worrying less about the number on the scale. I am happy for the weight loss, but I don't want to focus on it so much that I am continuously disappointed. 3. Making the gym a routine, and not talking myself out of going. I have a billion excuses at the ready!

Welcome Ana!! Congratulations on making the choice to become a healthier you! During my first visit, all of the surgeries my surgeon performs was explained to me, as well as the risks and complications. We talked about weight loss with each of them and the lifestyle changes. From there I decided which surgery was for me! The nurse then went through the pre op process and what was required of me. Make sure to write down questions you have, if I wouldn't have done that I would have forgotten a ton. This visit for me was a chance to "interview" the surgeon and the office, and decide if I was comfortable with everything. Let us know how it goes!!

This should be printed out and glued to my forehead.