Wow! I'm a new member - just joined tonight - I wound up sitting here reading through most of this thread. I gotta say, there are a lot of strong opinions on both sides. But unless I missed them, I haven't actually seen any posts from Gay or Lesbian folks. So here I am, in all my fabulous gayness! Just kidding! Well, sorta. I really am Gay, but hardly fabulous. I'm just an average, 40-something, divorced fat man raising two teenagers with my DH. For the record, he's also an average, 40-something fat man (although he was banded on 2/21/07 so he's not quite as fat now :mad: ). I am also (gasp!) a born-again Christian. As such, I struggled with my orientation (not preference, that's a load of crap) until my early 30s, when I finally realized that God made me who I am and that was good enough for me. I DID NOT choose to be Gay (who would want to be hated that much?), nor did I "give in to my sinful urges." I've always known I was Gay, even as a small child. Of course at that age, I didn't actually understand that I was Gay, just that I was different.
Anyway, the reason I replied to this thread is not to further stir things up, but to let everyone know that there are actually folks like me out there that not only understand, but live both sides of this topic. It is very disurbing to me that people won't just stop bashing each other and let others have their own views and beliefs, rather than trying to force theirs on everyone else.
I'm sure I'll get flak from a lot of folks on here, but I just felt I needed to get that off my chest (along with 30 or 40 pounds after I'm banded :biggrin1: )...