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Wow, and yet they still have "No cell phone" stickers on the pumps.

Yep, I wasn't allowed underwear during surgery either.

Here is an interesting article: http://www.yale.edu/yfp/archives/commencement04/commencement04_repro.html There are these things called fundamental, natural, positive, or negative rights (depending mostly on how you look at them). They are rights created by society. I would say the majority of them are not listed out in governmental laws. There is a point where we have to say that the government has no place in creating laws, such as our right to reproduce. You let something start making laws on that and you are in trouble. Where would we draw the line? Should poor people be allowed to have babies? How about ugly people? Fat people? Anyone could have an argument for why someone should not be having babies, but essentially it is their right and it isn't something that should be governed on a routine basis. So, Tom, we may not be able to direct you to a right in our constitution, but it is still a right. I am in know way agreeing that drug addicts should be having children. But, I also don't believe that the answer is permanently sterilizing them. Especially when 13 and 14 year old girls are out there that are meth addicts. Do we sterilize them now? Then when they are 26, clean for 10 years, married...tell them, "too bad, you messed up".

I was on my period during surgery. I doubt they even knew. The only thing that made me a little nervous is after the surgery, the nurse helped me get dressed. She even put my underwear on me. Nothing more uncomfortable than wondering if someone will see your tampon string...lol. :eek:

It is my opinion that hassling them makes the process go faster. I don't know if it actually works or not, but calling them every day the waiting not seem so bad. :heh:

Sorry, I missed something. Are these guys supposed to represent God? I think these models representing archangels look gay. I don't think I said anything about God being gay. On that, I would have no opinion because God is an all knowing, ineffable being. At least if that is what you believe.

There is no discussion going on here. It is everyone gives their opinion and you stomp it to the ground. You seem confrontational and respond as if noone elses points are valid. Debating a topic is different than looking for an argument.

I almost posted that my archangel looks kinda gay, but decided not to. Yes, I noticed.

What really gets me is that your opening posts is a faux to make people beleive that you are interested in their opinions. The fact is that you had your mind made up on what you believed to be right and what you believed to be wrong. Honestly, you haven't been interested in one thing anyone has had to say. You were just looking for an argument.

I think if the doctor or pharmacist is in private practive, I believe it is their decision on who they want to treat and what procedures they want to perform. But, if you go to work for a company such as Target, you should provide the services the corporation offers. If your ethics aren't in line with the corporation or organization you work for, then it is time to move on. That is true with any job. I would never work for a company that's mission is not in line with my own values.

I have heard that some surgeons will remove the gall bladder if needed during the lap band surgery. Maybe you will get two for the price of one! I wouldn't worry too much, everything will be fine. Good luck!

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When I would look at her and the condition she was is, and then add in all the publicity and controversy behind it, I knew damn well that I would never want that to be me. I think I told everyone in my family, and made it clear, do NOT ever let me live that way, under any circumstances.

I would be careful with the exercise equipment. Most equipment is not designed with children in mind. Easy trick for portions. Have your daughter help you cook. While cooking, explain to her that you have to feed, let's say 4 people (or however many are in your family). Then let her look at cookbooks and recipes with you. Show her how recipes say "serves 4". Or, lets say you are making chicken, show her that you are making one for each person. This way, she sees normal portions and you aren't making extra for there to be seconds. Then if you are worried about her patroling for more food after dinner, find a way to distract her so that she can get her mind off food until her brain realizes she is full. Do some crafts or take a walk or something. I may be simploifying this. None of my four children have issues with weight. I don't know if this is because I have been cautious about how they approach food their whole lives or just because they are meant to be bigger kids.

If I truly felt that I knew my husband's wishes better than anyone else, I would make sure that his wished were fulfilled no matter what turn my own life took. I think spouses tend to know their spouses true thoughts a lot better than the parents. Especially if they have been married for awhile. Parents tend to think about what they would like for their children. Not necessarily a bad thing, but just the way it is. The child may not feel comfortable telling their parens anything different than they want to hear. Spouses tend to be more open about their opinions to each other. I personally feel that I would know what my husband would want in a situation like this better than his dad would. I can't say that I would do anything differently than Terri's husband did (Sorry, can't think of his name right now..is it scott?) I think he has been wrongfully judged and demonized.

I think if the organization really cared about the addicts and the chance they may conceive children while addicted, they would pay for temporary sterilization and offer them assistance to find treatment. Lots of people get "down on their luck" so to speak. Someday, they may beat it, and want to have a family and leave their past behind them. I tend to not judge addicts. It is easy for a person who has never used to drugs to sit back and say, "How can they do that to themselves? Why did they even take drugs in the first place? They knew the drugs could kill them." Well, I am addicted to food. I know Chipotle, McDonald's or any of that high fat, high cal food is essentially killing me. I did it anyway. I am no different than those people. I got pleasure by killing myself with food. They get pleasure by killing themselves with drugs. It doesn't necessarily make them bad people. Get them help. Give them the tools they need to help themselves. If babies are a concern, pay for their birth control.

That's a good question. I can't remember that part, but either way, the husband left with a lot of money. He could have taken it and ran at that point, but he didn't.

I think the most important thing is to teach them to live healthy lives in all aspects. Make sure they understand how to make good choices and praise them for that. Kids thrive off praise. When she picks something healthy to eat, praise her for making such a good choice. If she makes a bad choice, just don't say anything. Also, give her opportunities to be even more active. I don't know where you live, but we have a store about a mile away. I don't keep treats in the house, but occasionally, I will ask my kids if they want to "walk" to the store with me to get a treat. I then feel that we have all "earned" it by the walk to and from the store. Even at the store, I encourage them to make good choices. I will grab a piece of fresh fruit or some juice (pre-band) and hope they follow. Sometimes they make good choices and sometimes they don't, but at that point, it really doesn't matter. Maybe this will give you a couple more ideas.

After saying that, it is my belief that the husband saying Terri would not want to live that way may be true, but just speculation. She had battled anorexia for years. She obviously had issues with self-image already. If she wasn't happy when she was young and beautiful, why would she be happy in the condition she was in?

The lawsuit was for medical malpractice. Before Terri got into her final condition, she was an anorexic. She was at an inpatient treatment when she had her cardiac infarction that led to her brain damage. The family contended that if the medical facility had provided proper medical treatment, that wouldn't have happened. They must of had evidence implicating that because they won.

I am doing well. I have had 1cc fill in a 4cc band. I had no restriction after first fill. They told me to come back in a month, but I called to see if I could get it done sooner, so I am going for fill #2 tomorrow. I haven't had any side effects yet. That may change with fill #2. But so far, I love my band!

He used to be a part of a bigger group, but he left because the other docs in his group didn't agree with his practices. I went to two other seminars for docs that were not affiliated with Dr. Malley in any way, and they said the same thing about him. I am not sure what his practices are that has the bariatric community so upset with him. But, like I said, I decided to stay away from it. The only thing I have heard is that he doesn't teach his patients a healthy lifestyle after surgery. He basically tells them they can eat whatever they want and lose weight. I don't know if this is true or if it has anything to do with the "questionable practices" that the other docs are talking about, but I had initially looked into Dr. Malley and changed my mind.

Right after my original post, I thought I had posted an update. I just realized that it isn't there. I was getting upset because people kept saying "let it go". My update post basically said that his comment was probably based off past experience and I was going to leave it at that. I realize that I do not know his past experiences and he does not know mine. He doesn't know that I attended an AME (all black church) growing up and would be ecstatic if someone invited my child to attend a church that was anything like the one I did when I was a kid. After awhile, I realized that I really wasn't mad, but mostly hurt by the comment. I just don't want anyone thinking that way about my family because I have done everything to make sure my kids are the opposite of that. Luckily we live in an extremely diverse town that also has a University. My children are used to seeing people of all kinds. The town sees so many different types of people, it would be hard for me to believe that color would cause people to give a second look. Now, the guy in town that is 6'5" and walks aroud downtown with a bikini and high heels on, holding a steering wheel pretending he is driving down the sidewalk. He gets stared at quite a bit. Hopefully, my husband's boss will get an experience of acceptance here.

Hi! I am a January bandster, too.

Well, every consideration has been covered but one. Men can start having dramatic decreases in the amount of testosterone they produce around the age of 40. This definitely has an effect in that area. Besides looking at the diabetes factor, I would ask your doc to draw some blood and get a testosterone level. It is easy to replace, there are shots, gels, and Patches. If you are truly low on testosterone, replacing it will even help in weight loss and muscle development.