Beebaby813

So because you're married to him, he can treat you with less respect than he would a perfect stranger?

Just wanted to update ya'll. I took the suggestions & incorporated them. In the last 6 days I've lost 11.5 more pounds. I can't thank you all enough for the advice & support. :-)
PS: I could use more friends on My Fitness Pal, my MFP name is (shocker) KristieAtkinson.

This one is evil...I have already had one mini-victory when my ex-husband saw me a few months ago after not seeing me in over a year. He doesn't know I had surgery. We didn't speak but the look on his face was...priceless! Now I can't wait to run into him again so he can see how even better and happy I look. The woman he cheated with sent me a text last year with their picture saying "thank you for the best gift of my life, he is a better man without you". Now she is bigger than I was and they have a baby. I wont ever stoop to her level to send her a text...but you can sure bet I have been posting new pictures to FB and leaving them as public! :-)

Ok, this is fun! I have three...
1) Every year my friends that I have had since I was 12 and a bunch of new friends and family members all go camping a this secluded beautiful camp site in California. Out of my friends I was the first to get married and first to have kids but we are the same age and they are all gorgeous and fit and have never struggled with their weight. They wear bikinis all weekend and I always feel a little out of place in my black one piece and shorts. It's just my issue they love me, but I feel like I fit in with the older group not my age group because of my weight. I am less adventurous. They float down river in tubes and I usually go with them but it's harder for me because I have more to scrape against rocks, lol. At the end they jump off this rock and I have always wanted to do it but everyone sits around and watches as one at a time people jump and I am too self conscious.
So, with that said next year at our camping trip I want to feel comfortable. No...scratch that this is a fantasy right? I want to wear a bikini and jump off the rock!....though this may be more accurate for the following year....but that's what I want and I am sticking to it!
2) I want my husband to be able to pick me up easily for ya know... and for us to be able to be playful and wrestle without me being self conscious. We have a great sex life, but there is this less of him being turned on by my body and more of other things and I want to drive him wild with my body. I want to be able to wear the clothes and lingerie that he thinks is sexy, right now I can't pull that off...so those are my fantasies in my marriage.
3) I want to be a skinny mom as my children grow up. I want my son and daughter to grow up healthy and for them to have a healthy mom. I want my teenage son (who is only 8 now) to be able to pick me up when he is grown.

Do you have a myfitnesspal? If so my name is Treneik. We can encourage each other on weight loss. But if you need a lending ear you can get a hold of me there but I am ALWAYS ON GASTRICSLEEVE.COM as Phoenixrise and we can talk everyday I am on EVERYDAY lol.

I think a lot of that is fueled by others. My mother never let me wear a bikini when I was a kid. She said I was too fat - I weighed about 110 lbs and was 5'. Sure, I didn't have a flat stomach even at that weigh but how many times have you seen someone who was maybe 20 or 30 lbs overweight wearing a bikini and not caring what everyone else thought.

Ok, this is fun! I have three...
1) Every year my friends that I have had since I was 12 and a bunch of new friends and family members all go camping a this secluded beautiful camp site in California. Out of my friends I was the first to get married and first to have kids but we are the same age and they are all gorgeous and fit and have never struggled with their weight. They wear bikinis all weekend and I always feel a little out of place in my black one piece and shorts. It's just my issue they love me, but I feel like I fit in with the older group not my age group because of my weight. I am less adventurous. They float down river in tubes and I usually go with them but it's harder for me because I have more to scrape against rocks, lol. At the end they jump off this rock and I have always wanted to do it but everyone sits around and watches as one at a time people jump and I am too self conscious.
So, with that said next year at our camping trip I want to feel comfortable. No...scratch that this is a fantasy right? I want to wear a bikini and jump off the rock!....though this may be more accurate for the following year....but that's what I want and I am sticking to it!
2) I want my husband to be able to pick me up easily for ya know... and for us to be able to be playful and wrestle without me being self conscious. We have a great sex life, but there is this less of him being turned on by my body and more of other things and I want to drive him wild with my body. I want to be able to wear the clothes and lingerie that he thinks is sexy, right now I can't pull that off...so those are my fantasies in my marriage.
3) I want to be a skinny mom as my children grow up. I want my son and daughter to grow up healthy and for them to have a healthy mom. I want my teenage son (who is only 8 now) to be able to pick me up when he is grown.

You and are sisters! I have the SAME exact experience. I thought for sure the lap band was the way for me, but then after attending a seminar and reading people's complications I am just not willing to go there. I too have decided the sleeve is the only way for me. Also, I am not into re-routing the plumbing - no way!!
I understand that is permanent but I assure you "I permanently don't want to gain the weight back!" I need that permanent solution.
I too am looking at having surgery in September or early October.
Here's wishing you all the best! I look forward to following your progress.