mznineteen

Thanks guys for your replies, you really cheered me up.. I know it won't last forever, but sometimes it feels like it will . She is really controlling, so she rarely ever let's me out of the house, and it just feels miserable here. My dad knows exactly what shes like, but he's smart enough to know if he goes against her it'll be hell to pay. I guess in time things will be better, I just need to have patience..

Stay as positive as you can. Remember it is her misery trying to make you miserable. Don't let it win. Watch some comedy, speak with some positive people, step outside and admire the beautifulllllll world you will soon navigate without your mother.
H.O.P.E. (hold on, pain ends)
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Wow, that sucks. Is going away for college an option?? That would get you out of the house. Maybe you can see a therapist, to help you with coping mechanism, you really can't change your mother, but you can change the way you react to her, this is something a therapist could help you with.

I'm so sorry to hear this. that is really hard. . . I was reading your post and said "well move out of the house girl". . . then I read about your culture part. . . guess you can't ask her why she treats you that way either huh? Can you talk to your dad and express how painful it is to you? Maybe he can advocate for you or is your household matriarch? Then that will be a big problem. . .I don't know what other advice to give you. . I'm sorry, but just know you are a wonderful person in the "Maker's" eyes and you are "His" child who he loves very much. . .you were placed here on this earth for a purpose, it's a purpose we will never know about and it's not for us to question. . . could be that maybe one day something will happen and make your mom realize that you are the only one she can turn to and then she may realize how horrible she has been to you. . . it's so sad to think that way but it's true cause in my culture, what goes around, comes around and those who hurt others soon have the same inflicted back to them 3x greater. . . i'll keep you in my thoughts and just know you have another "family" here to talk too. . . good luck and blessings towards you my dear. . .

Always keep your head up, my mom was the same . Have you tried talking to your dad about it yall seem to get along. Maybe he can talk with your mom. Just don't get married young to get out of the house. That is what i did and my husband is the same way some times . And that is a lot for you to be taking in as a young adult . I am Mexican American and my husband is Mexican so are thoughts are different maybe that is what happens with you and your mom...So i talk to him and tell how i feel sometimes when i am mad and not mad . From my experience don't bet your self up you are a great person inside and out. And don't let her make you feel any less just cause she is your mother. But just remember she is your mother. I will be praying for you ,i am not a religious person but i do pray and believe in god so just pray then talk to your mom.

Thank youuuu ) I've never heard of those things before! I just love my energy drinks and I've had a hard time keeping down coffee (cause of the diary) but I'm a month out and I've already lost 17 kilos so I'm really happy ) goodluck with your weightloss journey!

This is so motivating! Thanks!