MemphisFan

I honestly don't believe even one person thought a whole cheeseburger fell out of a stomach since nobody could inhale an entire burger. Even fat people take bites. But we are also all intelligent to know that food leaves the stomach 3 to 5 hours after eating, so that story you were told was a fabrication, and an elaborate attempt to scare the people in the group. Nobody was calling you names or poking fun at you.
On a side note, how do people know that their surgeon is 'top rated'?? I've looked everywhere for bariatric surgeon ratings and there was none available.

The whole idea of an entire cheeseburger falling out is an absurd and surreal mental image. It doesn't mean that that's what I thought you were saying. The idea of it is funny, the mental picture is funny.
How is finding humor in something unkind? I think you would do well with more humor in your life and to not be so freaking defensive.
This is a journey all of us are on, and a lot of it is really not funny. Emotions are raw, a lot is at stake, and for some of us this decision is life and death. So having a little bit of humor is a nice break sometimes. Also, I can't imagine living in a world where I percieve humor as a slight and attacking people for it.
All you're "my life is so great and everything always works out for me" defensive wall building bull**** really just stinks of extreme insecurity to me. Maybe I'm out of line to suppose, but really anyone who is overweight enough to need bariatric surgery generally didn't get that way because of they're total awesome life and their total amazingly healthy attitudes. I mean, I figure if you have a sane and rational relationship with food you wouldn't need to go to the extreme of having surgery, and in my experience most of our unhealthy attitudes about food are but a symptom of bigger issues in our life and out look.
You say you don't care what anyone thinks about you on this forum, and yet you care enough to keep responding. You care enough to get SUPER defensive about your whole cheeseburger post fiasco. So, yeah your behavior certainly shows a total opposite of what you're saying.
Anyway, in my experience, people who have radical lives and don't really care what anyone thinks don't have to make it such a point to express that. People generally pick up on it through there awesome demeanor.
Good luck and beware the cheeseburgers.

I'm glad that you have the most amazing of lives. Maybe when your ego deflates a little bit you can be kind to everyone else on the forums who are all working toward the same common goal. In my experience with life when you drop your "I'm a total badass" attitude and try work with people instead of against them people tend to respond to you more positively. Whatever you do, again hope everything works out.

You seem very defensive. Hope that attitude works out for you.

You know, some Dr's dont require a liquid diet at all. Most do for 2 weeks pre op but some dont.

If you're in the Memphis area, and your surgeon is an arrogant a**hole, I think I know who he is (his initials are G.W.) and I strongly suggest that you consider transferring to another surgeon, such as Dr. Virginia Weaver at St. Francis Hospital. I have never heard a single positive word about your doc. Dr. Weaver, on the other hand, is an excellent surgeon and a patient, compassionate person with a great support staff.

It is Woodman, and although he is a great surgeon, he is an awful man. I will be going to Vanessa Weaver when my three months is up because I don't want to give him one more penny. I just couldn't believe that he made me fight to get a fill when everybody on here was saying they had an appointment for a fill. When I called to make an appointment for a fill, I was told they couldn't do that, it just had to be a 'general checkup' Such a bunch of BS. What really got me was that he said he trains all the doctors around here on how to do the surgery and what to expect afterwards, so he told me not to believe anything anybody from the Southeast said on this forum because it had to be a lie. I don't believe his head could get any bigger.

It is Woodman, and although he is a great surgeon, he is an awful man. I will be going to Vanessa Weaver when my three months is up because I don't want to give him one more penny. I just couldn't believe that he made me fight to get a fill when everybody on here was saying they had an appointment for a fill. When I called to make an appointment for a fill, I was told they couldn't do that, it just had to be a 'general checkup' Such a bunch of BS. What really got me was that he said he trains all the doctors around here on how to do the surgery and what to expect afterwards, so he told me not to believe anything anybody from the Southeast said on this forum because it had to be a lie. I don't believe his head could get any bigger.

I paid out of pocket for this... but after 3 months I have to pay for fills and visits, so after 3 months (Sept 5th) I am going to find somebody else. The problem is he is the leading doctor for Lap Band and Gastric Bypass in the South. He was the key note speaker at the last Bariatric DR conference. People fly from all over for him to do their surgery... but maybe that is all he is good for, the surgery. Because I think I have had it.

It would have been GREAT for my doctor to have told me that yesterday.

So I was banded June 5th and have had no sliming or anything getting stuck. But that is probably because I don't even feel like I had the surgery at all since I have no restriction, and haven't for last four weeks.
On July 11th I went to my dr for a scheduled fill, but I mentioned to the nurse I was going to Florida July 14th for a week. You would have thought I admitted to kicking a child, they were so aghast! I was told no dr in their right mind would give a fill so close to vacation and I'd have to wait till I come back. Thankfully I only gained 1.5 pounds in Florida, so I wasn't too upset.
I went back for a fill the 23rd of July to find that the good doctor was on vacation until august 1st, so I had to wait until today to get a fill. I've only lost 20 lbs in 8 weeks, and almost all that was the first 3 weeks, so I'm ready for a change.
Out of all this what really chaps my hide is that I'm self pay, so any fills I get 3 mths after surgery are free. I was hoping to have at least 2 fills in that time, but my doctor like to wait 4-5 weeks between fills so my next one might not fall in the 3 month window.

Take 3/4 of healthy snacks & hide them.lol

Ok so day 4, it's rainy. I woke up early, made eggs, bacon, biscuits. I made my plate immediately and ate. I only made enough eggs for myself cuz who likes cold eggs ? Of course the other girls wake up, wonder where their eggs are, grumble that I didn't make them any, and finish off the bacon and biscuits but I'm fine, I ate mine already and they are big girls.
lunch is seafood out, but the place we go is alllll fried. Even the oysters are fried, it's outrageous. I get the fried shrimp, have two after pulling the skin off, and try a fried oyster. All I can say is yuck, I felt gross! But actually the other women said nothin, I was surprised. dinner is going to be sandwiches or a fend for yourself so I'm sure I'll be fine tonight.
To address some earlier posts. There are six of us here, two 50+ yr olds, two 28 (myself) and two 25 year olds, all of us teachers. I don't know if any of you know teachers, but we are some of the most gossipy, judgmental women... Probably from spending all those years around teens. and if m being honest with myself only two of the women here I'd consider a real friend. If the others found out about my surgery, and the fact I'm still 250 lbs, I seriously doubt they'd just shrug it off and go about their business. So I'm choosing to keep it to myself.
And I'm a very strong willed (called bull headed before) woman, the only reason I'm choosing to not fight this battle is because I'm in a three bedroom condo for 8 days with them. I dont want to make waves any more than I have to, but I am very thankful I have this forum to vent on!

I had my surgery on May 18 and I have still have not told anybody. The only ones that know is my husband, mom, and sisters. I don't feel like its anybody else is business. I live in a big gossip town. I think it's just how you feel.

Ok so day 4, it's rainy. I woke up early, made eggs, bacon, biscuits. I made my plate immediately and ate. I only made enough eggs for myself cuz who likes cold eggs ? Of course the other girls wake up, wonder where their eggs are, grumble that I didn't make them any, and finish off the bacon and biscuits but I'm fine, I ate mine already and they are big girls.
lunch is seafood out, but the place we go is alllll fried. Even the oysters are fried, it's outrageous. I get the fried shrimp, have two after pulling the skin off, and try a fried oyster. All I can say is yuck, I felt gross! But actually the other women said nothin, I was surprised. dinner is going to be sandwiches or a fend for yourself so I'm sure I'll be fine tonight.
To address some earlier posts. There are six of us here, two 50+ yr olds, two 28 (myself) and two 25 year olds, all of us teachers. I don't know if any of you know teachers, but we are some of the most gossipy, judgmental women... Probably from spending all those years around teens. and if m being honest with myself only two of the women here I'd consider a real friend. If the others found out about my surgery, and the fact I'm still 250 lbs, I seriously doubt they'd just shrug it off and go about their business. So I'm choosing to keep it to myself.
And I'm a very strong willed (called bull headed before) woman, the only reason I'm choosing to not fight this battle is because I'm in a three bedroom condo for 8 days with them. I dont want to make waves any more than I have to, but I am very thankful I have this forum to vent on!

Sounds like you're doing great! Chin up, this is hard!!! Especially if you're 28 and two are 50+, that lends a different dynamic than the usual peer-friend situation.
Don't forget to have fun!!!!

Ok so day 4, it's rainy. I woke up early, made eggs, bacon, biscuits. I made my plate immediately and ate. I only made enough eggs for myself cuz who likes cold eggs ? Of course the other girls wake up, wonder where their eggs are, grumble that I didn't make them any, and finish off the bacon and biscuits but I'm fine, I ate mine already and they are big girls.
lunch is seafood out, but the place we go is alllll fried. Even the oysters are fried, it's outrageous. I get the fried shrimp, have two after pulling the skin off, and try a fried oyster. All I can say is yuck, I felt gross! But actually the other women said nothin, I was surprised. dinner is going to be sandwiches or a fend for yourself so I'm sure I'll be fine tonight.
To address some earlier posts. There are six of us here, two 50+ yr olds, two 28 (myself) and two 25 year olds, all of us teachers. I don't know if any of you know teachers, but we are some of the most gossipy, judgmental women... Probably from spending all those years around teens. and if m being honest with myself only two of the women here I'd consider a real friend. If the others found out about my surgery, and the fact I'm still 250 lbs, I seriously doubt they'd just shrug it off and go about their business. So I'm choosing to keep it to myself.
And I'm a very strong willed (called bull headed before) woman, the only reason I'm choosing to not fight this battle is because I'm in a three bedroom condo for 8 days with them. I dont want to make waves any more than I have to, but I am very thankful I have this forum to vent on!

I know it's a lie. I know you shouldn't lie to your friends, but dammit, this is what I would do and you can do whatever you like with it.
Before the next big cook up, like, right before, spend 15 minutes in the bathroom and go and lie down after. Tell them that you must have had a reaction to the rich food + the sun and the travel and you're just feeling run down. You just fix yourself something to eat and eat with them but don't eat what they're eating. You want to relax and enjoy your holiday and you're just not feeling very hungry at the moment. This is what I would do. I hope you find some tactics that work for you.

People tell white lies when telling the truth would cause more harm than good.
Only Memphis is in a position to judge the situation... Some friends should not be told. I once told a friend that I was on a diet, and now every time I see her she asks me how I'm doing with food. It drives me insane, and I wish that I had never told her.

Yes, people on vacation do "diet". Or you can tell them, IF they ask that you aren't dieting but living a new healthy lifestyle. Fast food. There usually are healthier options. Most have salad's, or grilled chicken sandwhiches (just don't eat the bun); KFC has great grilled chicken (remove the skin). Wendy's has great chili.
If you are having pizza order a side salad. Eat that first to fill the void and have 1 slice of pizza. Most restaurants will sub veggies for fries.

Yea ok i can see that might be awkward for you, but inventing illness is a little risky too, how about saying u might have a grain intolerance so u got to cut it out completely to see if that helps. Saying u might have something is sort of only a half truth/lie .. or plain just dont be hungry, i would never question anything if one of my friends toid me they werent hungry .. Car sickness maybe, or a sore throat, hurts to eat .. this isnt an easy problem

I was surprised by my surgeon singling out frappes as a big cause for lap band "failures". Since these weren't my personal vice, she explained that frappes/smoothies/frozen drinks are a big culprit. I even saw frappes mentioned by name as a problematic food that causes weight gain in LB patients. Dr said patients might reach for these drinks instead of taking time to chew a food. I know these drinks are a problem with gastric bypass patients too - its how they regain or end up with wicked diarrhea.
I drank coffee daily as a substitute for Breakfast. I haven't had any since I had to refrain prior to surgery (big 2 day withdrawal headache - treated with Tylenol), No plans to return.
My doc limits coffee to one caffeinated per day. I'm allowed as much decaf as I like but since I'm making changes, I've included this one!

I never had protein shakes post op because they were all disgusting to me. I get 60-70 grams a day without it by eating high protein food, like beans, eggs whites and chicken. Don't put something in your body you don't feel comfortable with, when there are so many other options out there

My doctor is a tad on the Nazi side, which is both good and bad.... and he makes his patients promise before they have surgery that they will no longer get any coffee drinks from Starbucks or any fast food place. He said the only good coffee is the kind you make at home, with fat free sweetener. Take that for what its worth.

I didn't cry at all after surgery, the pain was bearable as long as I stayed on my pain medication every 4-6 hours. Once, I was going outside the day after my surgery and I could only make it out to the porch and I got winded and had to sit back down. That was frustrating, but realistic. Good luck to you, it will get,better and you will get stronger!