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I personally would not recommend ramen noodle, but once you are cleared for the full diet stage (around 8 weeks post-op) you should be able to test it out. But keep in mind it does not carry much nutritional value.

I too have seen some look older. I myself feel as though I look younger. But in addition to looking older, I have also noticed some who look sickly. This can also be mistaken for looking older. To decrease a sickly look, make sure you get proper exercise, vitamins/nutrients!

First off, dude making drugs in the house is a major red flag! Keep your eyes open. That being said, most guys who read this will also ask, how long have you denied your husband marital relations? Keep in mind, he does have physical needs too. So at this point, he's probably desperate, which results in desperate measures, thus the sneaking around. He may even feel left out or like a non-factor. You're getting yours, but he's not getting his. That's a little selfish. And, that can play on anyone's mental. However, if you have not denied him and are just having a personal moment, that's different. He needs to back the hell up! Everyone needs their own space! And by no means should he ever videotape you without your consent! WTH!! In addition, without living in your shoes it's difficult to understand your mental and emotional state. Not to mention the fact that post VST patients are known to have a change in sexual desire. At least during the initial transition as they learn to identify with their new reflection. Some increase activity and some decrease. But the bottom line is, you have to figure out what it is you want. If that does not include your husband, then you should make it known. If you do want your husband, then maybe you guys need that counsel! Just make sure that all of this is not a result of the new attention that you may be receiving from other men now that you are losing weight! Or that your new social or physical status and/or desire is now above your husband's status! Meaning, he's no longer good enough.

Yep... constipation it is. Milk of Magnesia has helped me out of a few "jams" LOL!

That is exceptional! I'm sure you had to work out to reach such heights!

Thanks for sharing

I'm inclined to believe that we all agree with points 1-3. Nonetheless, the reason why you're receiving these responses is not solely because of what you said. But also because of the method in which it was delivered. So in conclusion, you're right... but you're also wrong at the same time, which negates your intention. Trust me... I know. Such is life. SMH!

I'm hopeful that you are feeling better by now and back on track. But really, you should definitely refocus your views on food. The tongue and the mind are very strong, but your dedication to yourself needs to be stronger! Hot dogs do not carry much nutritional value, so I would consider limiting them to almost never when you begin to introduce solids. Food should be viewed as fuel... nothing more. If you give your body the proper fuel, it will respond in a desirable fashion (e.g., weight loss, muscle gain). Please, I implore you, do not make food your social/emotional focus. If you, are will be fighting a losing battle. You've undergone a major surgery for a reason. I'm certain that reason is not to eat poorly, ultimately finding yourself right back where you started. I pray God's strength replace your weakness! And that you find yourself successful in the venture... beautiful and happy!

A friend of mine has severe bone issue and is unable to do anything high impact. WIth that said, he tends to stick with swimming pool erobics. Very low impact but still affective. Some gyms actually offer workout classes. Check it out!

Are you serious? He'll regret it once you reach your weight goal. You have a beautiful face. Believe me... he'll regret it!

Hey desertmom, We all stall from time to time. Some months have more stalls than others. It's just the body putting itself in starvation mode. This is normal for anyone who has lost weight rapidly. If you're worried about it, try to up your workout. Change something... increase intensity or length of workout. And by all means, try not to daily the scale. decrease your weigh-in to nothing more than once a week. Once bi-weekly is even better. Put the scale up somewhere until it's time to weigh yourself. If you leave it in an easy access area, you'll step on it every chance you get.

For sure. I'm glad I could help. But to add insult to injury... becasue of their slow response throughout, I was authorized two weeks later than I could have been. And becasue of that two week delay, I bumped heads with the Doctor's scheduled two week vacation. Therefore, my surgery took place one month later than projected. To think, I probably could have been 20+ pounds lighter right now

Hi Tiffany, I know your pain. Trust me. Some of the people at these facilities are either A) over worked, or barely working. Who knows, it could be a little of both. I too had to personally handshake the communications between my medical provider and the surgical center. But unlike you, I didn't wait patiently. After they dragged their tails once, I didn't expect anything more. So, from that point forward I held their hand for every process. And it's a good thing too. When it finally came to getting the approval for the surgery, the center sat on their hands for two days. After two days I picked up the stick and called them and informed them to submit for approval because my Dr. already cleared me two days prior. Then I kept calling back to see if it was done. The next day I called my provider and they informed me that they never received any request for authorization. Soooo, I called the center and stayed on their head again. Then they wanted to tell me that it was already sent to the provider for approval. But I already had the 411 and so I told them that it was NOT sent over for approval, per my provider. Then they were like, "Ooooo, I'm sorry, I guess it wasn't. Welll, the girl who works on those is extremely busy and it can take her up to a week to prepare that paperwork before she can forward it for approval." WTH!! What are doing, writing a business proposal?! Anywho, two days later I called my medical provider and they informed me that they had received the request for approval. The next day is was approved and so I called the center who informed me that they had not received it yet. I informed them to go to the Web and pull that authorization. Three hours later, it still was not done. So, I had the provider fax that authorization to me and in turn I faxed it to the center. Then they informed me that the person who sets the surgery appointments was "out till tomorrow" Ugggg! Of course I called day and got it done. But that what it takes sometimes.

Hey JGo. Don't worry about the dining out. You can still dine out at the same places. Of course, you may not be able to complete the meal, but that should be the least of your worries. Your focus should now be the conversation anyhow, not the food. And whatever you don't finish, you just take home and finish later. I mean, if it's a really good meal, you get to enjoy it multiple times. As for an all inclusive hotel, again, you may not consume as much at one time, but you will probably be hungry more often than your husband. This may help him incorporate 3-4 small meals as apposed to eating two massive meals like most of us use to do at all inclusive resorts and all you can eat buffets prior to wls. For example, I love the buffets in Las Vegas. But the best buffets are $20. Of course, I can't eat that much food. But I found something that works for me. They have this deal in Vegas that I just found out about. For one price, you can enter and eat at several of the best buffets in Vegas for 24 hours! So, if I purchase this pass at dinner time, I can come back for Breakfast, lunch and dinner the next day. And if I just want a snack, I can enter for that too! Your all inclusive resorts are very similar. But whatever you do, DO NOT sabotage yourself just to make someone else comfortable with over eating. Seriously, in the past I've gone out to eat with others who didn't eat as much as I did, and that did not stop me from completing my meal. Once they were done, the focus was conversation. Once I was done, they wrapped their food and took it home... or not. As for the activity, he'll either join you or not. Only if he is not secure in himself will he have a problem with your activity. Again, DO NOT sabotage yourself. And do not worry about it until you cross that bridge. We all have this same concern. But all you can do is reassure them that they have your heart and love, no matter what.