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The topic title above isn't referring to my surgery experience. I've been one of the very fortunate ones that was sleeved with zero complications and actually reached my goal in just under 4 months. The surgery has literally changed my life and was unquestionably the best decision I've ever made for myself.
What I can't believe is the reaction I now get from so many people that know me well. Most say that I look "way too thin" or even ask if I'm "sick" (yes, one person has even asked if I have cancer!). I realized recently that all of these people have only ever seen me the way I've been most of my adult life...obese.
Which gets back to my original statement...It's sad. I believe it's sad that our culture has mentally adapted so much to the epidemic of obesity that someone can now be viewed as "too thin" or even "sick" when they're actually just within their "normal" weight range for their height and build. JMO

The topic title above isn't referring to my surgery experience. I've been one of the very fortunate ones that was sleeved with zero complications and actually reached my goal in just under 4 months. The surgery has literally changed my life and was unquestionably the best decision I've ever made for myself.
What I can't believe is the reaction I now get from so many people that know me well. Most say that I look "way too thin" or even ask if I'm "sick" (yes, one person has even asked if I have cancer!). I realized recently that all of these people have only ever seen me the way I've been most of my adult life...obese.
Which gets back to my original statement...It's sad. I believe it's sad that our culture has mentally adapted so much to the epidemic of obesity that someone can now be viewed as "too thin" or even "sick" when they're actually just within their "normal" weight range for their height and build. JMO

I've had a great experience with Dr. Kim. He and his staff have been great every step of the way so far. He completed my surgery on Oct 31 and I've had zero complications. I've dropped almost 30 lbs already, including the liquid pre op diet. Feel free to PM me if you have any specific questions. I'll be glad to help in any way I can.

From a guy's perspective, it's unfortunate but this behavior isn't isolated to women. I met up with a close friend a couple of weeks ago to watch a football game and he mentioned that it looked like I had dropped quite a bit of weight. I explained about my surgery and I could sense that his attitude instantly changed. The rest of the game he was a bit stand-off-ish and since that day, I've tried a few times to get in touch but I've not heard a word from him. He's gained a LOT of weight in the past few years and I kinda feel like maybe he's pissed, jealous, etc. that I'm not part of the 'fat fraternity' anymore. It's sad.

From a guy's perspective, it's unfortunate but this behavior isn't isolated to women. I met up with a close friend a couple of weeks ago to watch a football game and he mentioned that it looked like I had dropped quite a bit of weight. I explained about my surgery and I could sense that his attitude instantly changed. The rest of the game he was a bit stand-off-ish and since that day, I've tried a few times to get in touch but I've not heard a word from him. He's gained a LOT of weight in the past few years and I kinda feel like maybe he's pissed, jealous, etc. that I'm not part of the 'fat fraternity' anymore. It's sad.

Let me start by saying I'm not a doctor, psychologist, or anything like that. But being now 7+ weeks post op, I'm starting to develop a theory regarding hunger. Before surgery, my hunger was a mix of "head hunger" and actual "physical hunger". And after years of not paying close enough attention to the different signals, I'm fairly certain I wasn't able to distinguish between the two.
But now that the "physical hunger" is all but eliminated by the VSG, I'm able to see much more clearly how much "head hunger" I actually have. My theory is, since there's no longer any other type of hunger to confuse it with, I know that pretty much any hunger I have now IS "head hunger". And for me anyway, it's a bit scary how much "head hunger" I actually have. I also have to believe now that "head hunger" most likely made up the biggest portion of my total hunger prior to surgery.
For me, this is yet another advantage of VSG in that it's put a clear spotlight on something (head hunger) that I now need to get started addressing.

I'm still a long way from goal, but I'm beginning to be able to look in the mirror and be pleased with what I see instead of feeling ashamed. And being single, I'm starting to realize how important that is in how others see me.

I'm still a long way from goal, but I'm beginning to be able to look in the mirror and be pleased with what I see instead of feeling ashamed. And being single, I'm starting to realize how important that is in how others see me.

I'm still a long way from goal, but I'm beginning to be able to look in the mirror and be pleased with what I see instead of feeling ashamed. And being single, I'm starting to realize how important that is in how others see me.

Had my surgery yesterday (Halloween) morning and just got back home this afternoon. The surgery went off without a hitch and other than some aches and a bit of discomfort with the 6 holes and 35 staples in my tummy, I'm feeling great. I now believe I may have overthought the whole process a bit prior to the surgery....it wasn't anywhere near as hard or as painful as I had made it out to be in my head. Thank you to everyone on here that gives their time to share their experience and answer the many questions from the pre-surgery folks.
It all now seems a bit surreal....my life's new chapter has begun!