Bypassjourney

It sounds like he was trying to control you during your relationship. Defintely DO NOT let him have control now. Keep walking, keep smiling and when you do see him, be pleasant and say hi but nothing says you have to give him any information about your life. He lost that right to know what is going on with you when he left. Keep walking and never look back!

I would like to hear from anyone that used Dr. David Kim near Fort Worth, TX as their surgeon. How has your experience been? Would you recommend him? What have you liked/not liked about him?

It seems alot of us are at the same point. I have bought a couple of new sweaters lately when I have absolutely had to go somewhere and can't get out of it. Friday I met my girlfriends for dinner and thought I was looking "cute" in my new sweater and felt okay about myself. That is until this morning when one of them emailed me a picture from our dinner. :crying: I just filed it away and thought to myself how great it will feel in a few months to use that as a "before" picture. I keep telling myself that I have been overweight and looked this way for about 18 years now. What's another few months? At least now I know I am permanently headed in the right direction. Hang in there. We all have better days ahead.

I am so glad to hear things are going well for you! I have my 2nd of the three visits tomorrow with my surgeon. I sure don't want to wish away the holidays....but...I cannot wait until I can join yall on the losers bench. :-)

Good luck with your surgery! I look forward to hearing all about it. I am with Aetna also and can relate to not wanting to jinx something. I have until 12/22 before we can submit the claim. Take care!

I am in the middle of the three month process attending the classes, etc. before we can submit the claim to insurance on 12/22. Therefore, surgery should be scheduled for sometime in late January. I too have been going to counseling to do my own sort of "pre-op" work so that I can get this figured out once and for all. I have my theories and ideas of why I have this addiction with food. It is for alot of the same reasons as most others. I eat when I am happy, sad, mad, bored, etc. But there is also a reason I hide behind my weight and I want to face that fear head on. Self sabotage is something I struggle with not only with my appearance, but with relationships and other success in my life as well. I am more determined than ever that I am going to break through this life debilitating sabotage once and for all. Thanks to everyone on this site. Your posts and stories have been so encouraging as I start this journey. Your willingness to share your stories is helping others far more than you may realize.

I am in month two of the three month process with Aenta insurance. It states in the clinical bulletin that you should be losing weight during this period to prove that you are willing to make the lifestyle changes necessary after surgery. My doctor's office does not require me to lose weight during this time but stated not to gain any either. My BMI is at 39.9 with sleep apnea as a co-morbidity. I have lost five pounds and I am sure I can lose a few more within the next month but feel like its a catch-22. I don't want to lose too much afraid they will say if I did that well, I can do it without surgery. But at the same time, want to lose enough that they see I am committed to this lifestyle change. My question is did anyone lose or not lose weight prior to submitting the claim for approval and did that hinder or hurt your approval process with Aetna?

You said it is strange to you that your husband's family are all overweight too but they don't support the surgery. This may be from jealousy that you will finally conquer this battle and they will not. I say this because one of my best friends had lapband surgery in May and I was jealous that she was going to be losing weight. What kind of friend am I that I wouldn't be supportive of her journey just because I didn't think I could do the same? I know it is all from my own insecurities and unhappiness with myself because of my weight. I am one month into the three month program required by my insurance. I am beyond ready for my own journey of success.