Corey Coffey

how do we deal with loosing those close relationships, like siblings and family? all because we decide to do something about our weight once and for all? What are we suppose to do stay morbid obese just for them? And then if we manage to take the weight all down and keep it off, how do we deal with the loss of those once relationships esp. blood like siblings?

your article enduced tears. It hurts to know that WLS for some does cause huge difficulties in their relationships. I wish that more surgons offered counseling for married couples and their families whn someone goes thru a transformation like this sometimes it can be shattering. I choseWLS and my spouse did not. My siblings do not understand my process and think i've become "stuck up and self centered". Obesity is a disease and WLS is a tool to fight that disease. I aplaude your efforts.

This is such a reminder that WLS is not a fast process, we did not put on all this excessive weight overnight. For some the body gets to a point where it starts fighting our process. I think it is a visual reminder that if we get into a rough patch(band giving us difficulty, family, emotional, speritual,) to take time and deal with it. Weight loss is a whole body process including our family and sperit. For me it's been a long process and I only have around sixty more pounds to loose and my body is fighting me tooth and nail where the first 78 pounds just seemed to "slide off" like a pair of to big jeans. Sometimes our physiological process can be hiding underlying disorders. Talk to your surgon if you are struggling. They had to go thru medical school and they should be somewhat knowledgeable if other bodysystems start to go hay-wire. Keep chizzling away there is something unique under the obesity, a healthier you. ---C. Coffey