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big guy got a reaction from blondeej in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
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Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from arj1016 in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from Smontgomery in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from Calicolea in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from petal in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from Territravel in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from sabstar22 in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from beverlykm in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from rizabonita in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from mome2mad in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
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big guy got a reaction from Finding MeMe in Is This A Problem For Anyone Else?No way are you wrong....but if your tone was wrong then yes. My job presents me opportunity to craft my communication skills. So I'm very in tuned to to e and body language.
Instead of saying "do you mind... " maybe you say "John, we're friends and I need your help. I just had this surgery and folks talk about all this fantastic food. It so hard for me. Do you have any suggestions to help me thru this? I trust your opinion." What you're doing is making your problem his problem and most people LOVE to solve problems....even though they can't.
Funny thing....I do this to my wife all the time. She loves to help fix me.
Just a thought.
Coach
Surgery 4/11/12 lost 54lbs as of 5/28/12
