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Pamela -- I wish I knew the psychological term for what my sister does to f*** with me. Passive-aggressive maybe? For instance...on my birthday I called her to ask if she knew where something was that my mother needed. She barked back at me, "Well I'm packing up ALL her stuff right now!!" (She was moving my mom's things out of the nursing home so we didn't have to pay the daily charge.) So she's mad at me for not being there to help pack up what amounts to about 2 suitcases full. Well, #1 I didn't know she was going to do that. #2 We didn't do that before when she got admitted to the hospital, we just paid the charge. She just EXPECTS me to know these things by osmosis, then when I don't she gets mad and talks SHIT behind my back! Example #2: Today I called her to go over some things about Mom (and the $ she owes me-tee hee). She then informs me that my 2 cousins and aunt from out of state were coming to visit my mom in the hospital this afternoo . Well this is a BIG surprise to me and surely she knew about it long before this point...knowing I'd want to see them! She says, "yeah, they'll be here about 2:30 and then we'll go over to the hospital but won't stay long." No invite to join them later, of course. Well, I'm back at work so I can't leave obviously to meet them. I go about my business, went to interview and tour another nursing home, grabbed a bite then went to the hospital about 7:00p. Mom says the cousins just left and they had waited for me as long as possible! NOBODY freaking called me to let me know they were there or that they were waiting for me!!!! So, again, I just look bad like I don't care enough to be there! She gives me bad information (or no information) then bitches about me to others!! Are you following me? She drives me INSANE with this shit and she does it to me all the damn time!!! It's like me planning a baby shower for Laura, but I give you 2 hours notice to fly across the country to be there, then bitch about you to all the Violets about how thoughtless and insensitive you are for not showing. WHAT THE F*** IS THAT???????? :cursing::cursing::smile2::cursing::smile:

Haydee, nothing wrong with keeping yourself busy! Read something inspirational and empowering! I wish my minister's empowerment group met closer to you...man, THAT was an awesome course and taught me so much. Oh yeah, and I took a relationships course at church too...it taught me a lot about 'red flags'. I've had some pretty big red flags in my marriage, too...but can't seem to do anything about them. But I do keep asserting my POV and I'll never shut up either! In the end it may do us in, but that flag was never there until after we said "I do." Ugh. Anyway, just know that I have faith that you'll find your way to whatever is right for you. I (we) just want you to have the happiness (and babies) that you deserve, that's all. I wish he would buy a clue as to what a special woman he has.

I called my sister today and reminded her that she owes me $1800. She was vewy quiet on the other end of the line. 2 can play at this game.

Laura.... i wouldn't miss your baby shower for the world. W/ mom being in the hospital the last few days, I've seen 3-4 moms leaving with their new babies. Soooooooooooooooooo tiny!!! I always stop to coo and tell them they're the most beautiful baby I've ever seen! I love babies. It's when they learn to suck money and raise hell that i have a wee bit of a problem with them. I might mention that I was probably in the top 10% of the money-sucking hell-raising group. Karma is a bitch.

I love dogs!! We'd have a blast! Who needs men, anyway!!?? Oh yeah, that baby thing..... (otherwise known as money-sucking hellions :sad:)

LOL!! Obviously she was quite upset at her tremendous loss, Laura. Sorry we didn't get video. That would have made my day.

Want a roommate, Haydee?

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1st day back at work from my vacation and things are hoppin' around here...so no time to post personals....except for Jane. (((HUggs, honey)) It sounds to me like you have a bout of good ol' fashioned depression!! Have you ever been evaluated for this? It happens to the best of us!! I've gone off my meds and boy, I can tell!! i'm gonna try and tough it out for awhile though. I'm thinking I need to get back to the gym!! But now Mom is in the hospital = no time. i hate my sister. There, I said it. Pammy = Congrats, sweetie -- lots going your way now!! Ride the wave!!! Love you all.......

G'Morning! Party was soooo nice last night!! My friends really went all out with the food and drink and I got lots of nice presents! I'll post some pics later; my camera batteries are re-charging. Tracy - I am really excited for you...and I know you're nervous about the money, etc., but when you know, you KNOW....and it will all work out. Besides, when she starts elementary school maybe you can get a job at her school, in the office or as a teachers aide or something. That would be cool! You could have Pamela's hours!! I can't wait to see how it all unfolds! You're all gonna be so happy! LOL Laura... Yeah, I gave those hotel people hell, didn't I? Anything travel related like that gets my goat and they will certainly not give you anything you don't ask for....or demand! Grrrrrr. That still makes me mad, "But you didn't ASK for a river-view!" I love the wall unit!! I got a sweet deal like that for DH's study on Ebay a few years ago. I was patient and searched for several months and then the perfect one came up...we paid $30 for it! Sweet victory! We're heading out shortly for the family rounds. Hope you all enjoy your Father's Day celebrations today! Love you all!

BEADS BEADS BEADS!!! THEY'RE EVERYWHERE!!!! I'm in BEAD HEAVEN!! Ya'll are so sweet to send all the cute cards and violet beads!! I'll have to get real creative to figure out a way to use all of them in one project! This is gonna be FUN! Thank you all so much for your sweet birthday wishes. You are ALL a treasure to me..No doubt about it! DH gave me a new Apple MacBook (woo hoo!) and it's strange getting used to a new OS after 15 years on Windows. No complaints though, 'cause this is one sweet computer! I'll just be glad when I'm a little more proficient. Yesterday I did a little shopping w/o my money vacuum (Hannah) and actually got a few things for myself. Then I went to the hospital to see Mom, then to dinner with my DH and kids. Went to Pappadeaux (cajun seafood deluxe!) and it was very, very yummy. Tonight is my 'big party' .... my girlfriend is hosting it and it should be a load of fun!! I am really looking forward to it and it's a perfect way to wrap up my vacation and birthday! I'm actually looking forward to going back to work so I'll STOP EATING!!! I've gained 2# on vacation and I'm not happy about it. I was on a roll and heading downward before my unfill and vacation....after sooo much time at a standstill. DH and I are having 'issues' (ahem). Not to happy about that. And speaking of relatioships gone bad, my sister totally pissed me off again yesterday. I was at the hospital at the time and I had to call her to ask a question. Won't go into the details, but when I got off the phone with her Mom was asking what was wrong (maybe because I was muttering "BITCH!"?). We had a long talk about it and I told Mom that I look forward to the day when I can finally walk away from that relationship. She didn't understand what I was saying, so I explained that what I meant was, that after she was gone I have no plans to nurture that relationship any longer...in ANY shape fashion or form. I have taken her bullshit antics for more than 15 years and I am so DONE. I know this goes against a lot of people's understanding, but you have no idea how happy it will make me. Mom was not upset by what I was saying....as a matter of fact I got the impression that she was totally sympathetic. I hope so. I didn't mean to upset her...I just had to get it out. Ok, so...... on the agenda today....relax then party. Not too shabby, eh? I love you all!!! JENN - I MISS YOU!!!!!

Hastings.....Can you imagine living in that hell of guilt, and for lack of a more generic word, "Godlessness"? Whether or not you believe in God, heaven and/or hell, I firmly believe that there is justice for people like that.... but we may not understand it or see it happening in front of us. Personally, I believe in 'karma' and know deep within my heart that they will suffer immensely for the pain they caused you....sooner or later.

Well, Tracy, at this point even 0.1cc can make a world of difference. The next fill I get, whenever that is, will be a 0.1, as will the one after that, and the one after that....etc. No more big jumps for me.

Somebody told me (sorry, I forgot who) that I'm supposed to get 50 beads in all! Very creative .... and a helluva lot of FUN for me!!!! Me Me Me!! It's ALL about ME!!

Hi Ya'll!! I think ya'll are the best buddies a girl could have. And I mean that from the bottom of my heart! Thank you so much for all the sweet cards, good wishes and the BEADS!!! They are really rolling in...I get a package or two every day and I'm in heaven!!! Very thoughtful of you all...and I really appreciate each and everyone of you for making me feel so speshul!!! OMG...I came sooooo close to making a ridiculously impulsive purchase yesterday at the mall. I've wanted this particular David Yurman necklace forever and DH is not the jewelry-buying type (too cheap!)...so if I want nice things I have to buy them for myself. I have a big bonus check coming on Monday which is supposed to be put away for the kids' college! I told Hannah she just needs to work a little harder for that scholarship money 'cause Momma needs a Yurman! LOL Well, I didn't do it. I deserve it, but I didn't do it. DH made me feel guilty about it. Spoil sport. Mom's back in the hospital again! She needs a round of IV Lasix. Looks like this will be the routine...in one week, out three, in one week, out three. :thumbup: Well, I need to get movin'. I'm hungry!! (I'm LOVIN' my UNfill!!)

Have you been using your market bag, Michelle? I thought that was the coolest thing ever. Suzie - What do ya'll do with the donated items?

(((((Suzanne))))) You are just the sweetest, most thoughtful thing on the planet!! Thank you so much for the birthday card and the BEADS!:teeth_smile::w00t::biggrin: What a surprise that was...and so fun!! Thank you!!! I also got mystery package of beads that I suspect is from another Vi?...It contained some beautiful purple and silver beads as well, but no card to indicate who they're from? I suspect they were ordered online and shipped direct?.... the return address was Brightling, Inc. in North Carolina. Or was that you, too, Suzie?? I'm enjoying my vacation and I CANNOT BELIEVE how lazy I have been since Monday. L-A-Z-Y!!!! I haven't even sat at my jewelry table!? Just been watching the birds at my new birdfeeder, hang on the 'puter, eat crap, shower at noon, etc. I talk about wanting to retire all the time, but if this is any indication of how it will be then maybe it's better that I work. Michelle - CONGRATS to you for being on a roll!!! Don't stop now!! Are you wearing your Violets necklace for inspiration? (Not that we're so 'inspiring' now....but we ARE rootiing for you!!)

Whenever you're introducing a new food that you know gives some other people problems (like eggs, or grilled chicken, etc) it is smart to take a bite, chew well, then wait a couple of minutes (seriously) before the next bite. If you've eaten 4-5 bites and haven't had a problem then you probably won't. Then your next hurdle is not to eat too much, too fast. I can eat just about anything if I take an hour+ to do it! You'll be a pro at this in no time, just proceed SLOWLY....soon enough you'll recognize all the little signs that you need to modify your behavior in one way or the other. Getting stuck is not the end of the world and it will happen to you sooner or later. Panic'ing will make it worse. Relax, take deep breaths, walk around, flap your arms (LOL), and/or take a Papaya Enzyme chewable to help move things along.

What up, dogs?

Can you say "Mood Swing"??? LOL

Earlier I extracted all of my favorite pics from all of your web albums and dumped them into mine. Here's the link if you feel like taking a stroll down memory lane.... <sigh> Picasa Web Albums - Terry - Gruene Violets I miss you guys. Wish we could have a do-over.

Does a tablespoon-full of icing...and a chewy pecan praline count as "crap"? :smile2: My poor toads remain homeless....

(((Kat))) sorry for the crap going on at home. You and Rick will be fine...just takes time.

Tracy - I'm sorry you're going thru this with both your parents!! Lots of prayers coming their way...for sure. (((Hugs))) Ha! "SOBRIETY"....that's a very good way of putting it, 'cause that's just how I feel....like an addict. I'm on vacation this week which means I end up grazing all day....it's ridiculous! If I can get thru the day without eating one morsel of crap I have got to get some kind of gold star or something. I know! I'll reward myself with...........what? Hmmmm. OK. I've been wanting to buy a bird house and a toad house for my back yard. Totally frivilous purchases. If I can get thru Day 1 w/ no crap, I'll buy the toad house. If I can get thru Day 4 with no crap, I'll buy the bird house. <shakes own hand> That gets me to Friday....my 50th birthday. No promises after that! Kat....when the hell are we gonna get some PICTURES??????? I can hardly stand it!!? I'm sure you're still holding on to at least 5# of Fluid, don't ya think? Haydee -- you're hilarious!! Too funny! My DH is actually just the opposite. He goes to the doctor probably a little more than he needs to, but I'd rather he do it that way than the other! He's very good about it. He says he was pretty sickly as a child and is a bit of a hypochondriac... I think it's engrained in him for the attention he received/s from his mother. Can you say "typical Hispanic male"???

Yeah, I thought about this last night....whether I should ask forgiveness (or at least make a sincere apology) from my ex-husband about certain failures on my part. But he'd probably think I was trying to get back together with him or something...LOL...and I certainly don't want him thinking THAT!! Eeeek!! I'll ponder it some more and maybe someday the time will be right or I'll come up with just the right words.